My mom's been depressed lately, and it's been bringing me down that for the past few months I have gotten almost no sleep and by the end of the school day, I feel like I'm gonna drop. I've been stressed and cranky lately because of it, and today she just offered me to skip tomorrow's school day. I really really want to, but there's just something that is making me hesitant to skip tomorrow's school day. I have no tests or anything that I'll miss, but I'm just wondering what you guys think. I haven't been absent once this year, but like I said- I'm hesitant.
What should I do? Should I accept it and sleep in all day, or show up to school as always?
Note: I'm thirteen...
2007-01-25 11:47:46 · 25 answers · asked by Misswhatever 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I'd go. To be honest, it would be good to stay away from your mom's depression if it is bringing you down. Be around friends and have fun. Don't just sleep all day!
2007-01-25 11:59:42 · answer #1 · answered by Medical Disaster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay first of all I am so sorry about your depressed mom, but you should by all means go to school, and another thing stop being so selfish, and think about how this affects you. It is about your mom not you, so help her through this rough time. But first go to school because school is important so you can obtain the skills you need so you are able to give yourself a better life. So go to school, study do your homework, and then attend to your mom. Especially on the weekends attend to your mom, and if she has any type of medicine that she may use if she is suicidal then take them away, and take away eating utensils like knives, and forks in case she may harm herself with them either. Some other helpful suggestions would be to go to a Mental Health Center like the Diddi Hirsch Mental Health Center, or get a hot line for this type of problem.
Also I hope your mom can get out of her funk, and enjoy life again.
2007-01-28 20:42:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason you are hesitant is because you feel guilty about doing something wrong. If it were me in your shoes, I would go to school and sleep in on the weekend, but I don't know your situation. If your mother is depressed the best thing to do is to get her some help if she needs any. I wish you luck on making your decision.
When I do accept the staying home day my mother offers me, I feel guilty just like you. But, recently I've been saying no and went to school, and those days are usually really good for me for some reason. But like I said before. It's up to you.
Good Luck!
2007-01-25 12:01:48 · answer #3 · answered by bAsic LiFE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are exhausted! It would be better to take off a day of school to recuperate, than to be tired and cranky at school. It could bring down your grades if your exhaustion gets out of control, and it could cause you to have depression too. It also could affect your social life. You dont want your friends to start avioding you becuase it seems like you are always PMSing do you?
Take the day off with your mom and relax or maybe go shopping together. Maybe the bonding will boost both of your guys's spirits. Everyone needs a day off to rest and relax!
Hope you take that day off!
2007-01-25 13:09:09 · answer #4 · answered by cleverness_444 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You probably need the rest and it will be good to get it, but are you going to be interupted and not allowed to sleep anyway? If that is possible that you won't REAlly get the rest you need...wait it out till the weekend and sleep all weekend, do nothing but eat and sleep..and pamper yourself, you deserve it!
Sounds like you are a good girl, don't listen to those who say "go a head I do it all the time." thats not you.
you show maturity just by asking this question
Take Care
Try to work something out with you mom, Im sure she wants the best for you
2007-01-25 12:03:23 · answer #5 · answered by Snippy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a teacher. Personally, I believe it's up to you. I was rarely sick, but, being in a very competitive high school, was occassionally "burnt-out", and needed a day off. We called them "mental health days".
Heck, adults get them on THEIR jobs; why shouldn't you get one in yours?
Every once in a while is fine (say, once a quarter), especially if there are no tests. Just don't make it a habit.
I'd also suggest talking to a counselor or a teacher, and seeing if they can refer you to someone to help you out with your mom's depression.
2007-01-26 12:05:10 · answer #6 · answered by katheek77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take advantage of the offer. Maybe you and her could go out spend the day together. It might help you both get centered and get a fresh perspective on things. Just don't make a habit of cutting school-it can really mess up how your future turns out.
2007-01-25 12:49:40 · answer #7 · answered by HiTekRednek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show up for school. Inside, I think you know that would be the right thing to do. Your mom is depressed, and not thinking like she normally would. Sleep in Saturday.
2007-01-25 12:00:00 · answer #8 · answered by l00k_up 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depression is a disease that affects not just the person who is depressed, like your mother, but also family members, like you. Even though your mother has no ambitions at this time, doesn't mean that you emulate her depression and take no actions with your life. I would suggest that you find a professional person, like your family doctor, to talk to. For you to grow into an emotionally independent woman you need to learn how to emotionally separate from your mother. That doesn't mean you don't love her but you have to love yourself more!
good luck,
2007-01-25 12:30:15 · answer #9 · answered by Sciencemom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that you will use the day to rest and not just fool around and as long as you're positive you won't miss anything, I would go ahead and accept the day off.
2007-01-25 11:56:10 · answer #10 · answered by arfiegel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋