We were in front of his family and I was about to buy a pair of shoes.He started telling me the shoe wasn't the right size.Started arguing with me about what size shoe I wear.Then started screaming at meand pointing his finger at me saying"try it on!!try it on!!".It was SO embarrassing!I didn't try it on like he ORDERED and bought the shoes .Later when his family came to visit us they were looking at my shoe collection and saw that all the shoes were the size of the shoe I was buying!!........................Whydid he make such a seen?Why does he always try to make me look like a liar in front of his family?
2007-01-25 11:46:15 · 12 answers · asked by Direktor 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This guy has control issues, and anger issues.
Get him to a counselor, ASAP!
2007-01-25 12:00:04 · answer #1 · answered by Guernica 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He does it b/c you let him. The next time it happens you need to get in his s.h.i.t no matter where you are or who you are with, his parent, your parents, or whatever -- if he's gonna treat you like that in public, I can only imagine what its like at your home. If he's gonna be an *** in public you need to be prepared to be an *** right along with him, talking to him ain't gonna solve nothing, this man has a lack of respect for himself and the only way he can make himself feel better is by being a bully towards you, hopefully its not physical, but verbally is just as bad. Act a fool along with his *** one time and watch the change in him. It may not be dignified but neither was what he did to you. Two wrongs don't make a right , but you need to nip this in the bud or stop it from happening again. I'd bet this isn't the first time something like this has happened. He doesn't know his boundaries with you yet b/c you haven't set them, do it know before this stuff escalates into physical abuse as well.
2007-01-25 12:30:22 · answer #2 · answered by Big Rob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has a problem with low-self esteem when it comes to his family. Maybe they tell him something on the side, like that he is whipped by you, or you make him look like less of a man. So now he is trying to make himself look like a tough guy in front of his family, and making you look bad. This is something that happens alot with men. They don't know how to be have in front of their family, especially if the family talks about their spouses. Is he a mama's boy? Is he close to his family, at times more than to you? Look for signs to understand why he is doing this. Really though this is so childish to me. For you are the one who is going to wear the shoes.
The best thing to do, which may upset you, is to just try on the shoes, and just let him have his manhood in front of his family. Then later talk to him in private about his behavior. This way his family will not know your business. This is the best thing really. For fighting in front of family, just makes you look worse to them.
2007-01-25 12:05:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its a superiority thing. My husband has done this sort of thing in front of his parents too. I finally had had enough, I asked him about it and he denied it. The next time it happened I asked him, "do you feel better now telling me I'm wrong when I'm right, in front of people?" His mom said, to me, "good for you, don't take that sh** from him." amazing how that set him straight. He knows if he does it in front of anybody I'll call him out on the carpet for it then and there. I do suggest talking to him about it and then resort to the non-screaming and calm confrontation immediately.
2007-01-25 12:03:25 · answer #4 · answered by Pandora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask him this it does not help asking strangers something that has to come from his mouth. First and foremost i do believe you should tell him that You know what size shoe you wear and there was no need to embarass you in front of family.
2007-01-25 11:56:49 · answer #5 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's an anger issue that he needs to deal with .... seriously. My husband was like that.. anything he could to belittle me in front of anyone. He couldn't handle his temper. After I left him he decided he needed to do something about it and went to his dr.. got put on Lexapro.. It did wonders for those tantrums.. they stopped completely.
2007-01-25 12:09:11 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he's an ***. It's your feet, what the hell does he care what size you buy. Tell him to worry about his own feet, stop being so controlling, and let you have some space.
2007-01-25 11:57:09 · answer #7 · answered by Jilli Bean 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he can be a jurk...maybe you should talk to him about how he treats you infront of his family
2007-01-25 11:54:38 · answer #8 · answered by lbitsports 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He treats you like crap because you let him. When you grow a spine and start standing up for yourself, it will stop. Simple.
2007-01-25 11:58:30 · answer #9 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
because he is an ***@ole. and the sad thing is you allow him to do it.
2007-01-25 12:29:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋