I recently broke up with my third girlfriend and the thoughts of being very physical with another male excite me even though i dont want to be excited by those thoughts. If i fantasize about women i get aroused but not like when i do about guys.....why is this happening to me at the age of 38?
2007-01-25 11:36:52 · 5 answers · asked by make_me_sweat_692002 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i think its just a case of curiosity and stick to the ladies especially as you are unwilling to be gay .good thing is u seem to be able to control it , well , i say so because you still havent had a gay encounter , so why start now?
2007-01-29 10:09:57 · answer #1 · answered by kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you *ever* been really fulfilled by a woman? If not, consider the possibility that you are gay, and it has just taken you a while to figure it out. Not everyone knows from the time they're 15 that they're gay. For some people, it takes longer. If you have been sexually excited and fulfilled by a woman, you are probably bisexual. But you say that you get aroused by women, but more aroused by men. I would say maybe you're naturally bi with more fondness for men. Or maybe gay, and you've just never allowed yourself to explore. If possible, buy some gay porn and see how that works out? I don't know if you're cool with porn, or what your values are, but if it were me, I'd explore my gay urges to the greatest extent I felt comfortable with and see if same-sex stuff gets me hotter than hetero stuff. I don't know what advise to give you as far as actually hooking up with a guy to see if you like it. I wonder if the gay community has procol for... I think I'm gay but I'm not sure and need to experiment. I would bet that sort of hook up is common, based on what my gay guy friends say. Anyhow, good luck. Embrace who you are. :) You could end up being more fulfilled than you ever imagined.
2007-01-25 23:08:49 · answer #2 · answered by thegirlwantstoknow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE GRASS LOOKS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE FENCE. AT 38 YOU SHOULD KNOW WHERE YOU STAND. WE ARE THE ONLY ANIMALS THAT TAKE A MATE OF THE SAME GENDER. GO TO VEGAS AND VISIT THE MUSTANG RANCH. THEY WILL STRAITEN YOU OUT.
2007-01-29 15:48:28 · answer #3 · answered by J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexual orientation can be controlled. It takes lots of control. People say that homosexuality is inherited but I feel that this unnatural urge can be controlled if you put your mind to it. Good luck.
2007-01-25 22:14:10 · answer #4 · answered by nightflowerphil 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ur probly bisexual and if not bi curious... if u never want to be gay dont do it with a guy to ease ur curiousity
2007-01-25 22:54:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋