ok so, i'm 13, i like a 16 y/ old, but, i lied to him. i don't know how it really happend, but i lied that i had done drugs. i haven't, but i told him i had, along with more lies. well, a week ago i told him i had lied. he got really mad at me, and now he doesn't trust me. at all, no matter what i say. well, to destract him from the lies, i wrote up a list of things about him, like why i like him, and how i feel, and junk like that, i got the list of the internet. but he thinks it's true, now he thinks i only want to go out with him. not true. well, a few days ago he droped the whole thing. i said when it was quiet that i was sorry, he just said he didn't care ANYMORE. whats that mean? should i bring it up and try to make him see the truth, or let it be untill the next fight. we're best friends, and i can't stand him mad at me. or him ignore the proberblem, i want to talk. but him as a guy wants to let it go. should i bring it up or not?
2007-01-25 11:35:19 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
AND DON'T JUST TELL ME I'M TO YOUNG FOR HIM!!!
(we've been through this, he doesn't care about age!)
2007-01-25 11:47:05 · update #1
For one, you really need to stop lieing so much. How is someone supposed 2 trust you if you constantly lie to them. How is anyone supposed 2 see you for you. You really need to tell him the truth about everything now. I mean if you wait, it will only get worst. And what do you have 2 lose, you've already lost your BEST FRIEND'S trust.
2007-01-25 11:48:46 · answer #1 · answered by S4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He had every right to get upset and break up with up - you lied to him, you pretended you were someone you weren't just to impress him, and then to win him back you lied some more! Your behavior was very immature, and shows that you are not yet ready to date.
He is NOT your best friend - you don't lie to your friends, because your friends like you just as you are. He said he didn't care anymore because he is sick of all the drama you are putting him through, and doesn't want to put up with it anymore.
Send him a message, and for once, tell him the simple truth, without trying to manipulate him - tell him your are very sorry for everything you did, and that you can't stand that he is mad at you, and you wish you could be friends again.
2007-01-25 19:45:44 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you said you want to get him to see the truth. Do you even know what the truth is?? Seriously, your whole question is filled with all the lies that you have told him. Obviously, you are to young PERIOD!! if you can't figure out how to get a guy to like you without telling a bunch of lies that leave you telling more lies you shouldn't be dating anyone.
2007-01-25 20:03:14 · answer #3 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why you would lie and say you did drugs! If it was to impress the guy, then you need to find another guy if doing drugs impresses him. but whatever, you lied to him, you lost his trust. You seem to keep getting yourself deeper and deeper. You are going to have to show him that you can be trusted, and that's going to take time. Don't push it because that will cause more problems. Go with the flow on how he's acting and don't push him into a confrontation.
2007-01-25 19:44:27 · answer #4 · answered by lucy7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, it was wrong of you to lie in the first place. You maybe did this to get attention from him . He sounds very frustrated with you for taking advantage of him or sending the wrong messages. Don't bring it up to him just move on and have a fresh start and who knows maybe if he sees how much you changed maybe he might think of being your friend again.
2007-01-25 19:40:12 · answer #5 · answered by Plumerias are from Hawaii! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to talk to him about it, and he doesn't listen and stuff, then just forget about it, but if he gives you a chance then tell him you don't understand and that you want to know what he meant. I can't stand my best guy friend mad at me either, but sometimes I just let it pass; but when it is important I try to see if he just needs time, or if i can talk to him about it. Hope this isn't to confusing, and it helps you out!!:)
2007-01-25 19:54:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but I can't really blame him. First you tell him you do drugs, then not, then you really really like him, then you don't, it's all a mess and it's really confusing (and hard to follow too). Also, I think he might be a little old for you too. Sorry, just my opinion.
2007-01-25 19:41:22 · answer #7 · answered by Chrissy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you catch him at the right time sit him down and tell him the truth. Guys love it when girls tell the truth. he'll be angry at first but in the end it'll work out.
2007-01-25 19:41:32 · answer #8 · answered by laura s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to stay drug free/std free and baby free. Get with a yonger guy and don't start on the drugs. It can only end bad.
2007-01-25 19:40:56 · answer #9 · answered by bluechick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're 13-too young for him. he sounds like he needs a new best friend, maybe one his age and maybe one that's not a girl who likes him.
2007-01-25 19:40:52 · answer #10 · answered by starnami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋