I have 3 children and I'm a mom .at the present time I'm not working but I am in college 4 x a week. hubby works at night,and aside from balancing the kids I don't have 2 sec to myself . also they bugg me all day about fussing between each other and it is constant confusion in my household, I try to be the perfect mom but I'm exhausted most of the time and my blood sugars are out of control and the doc says it's stress . I woke up and my bl sugars was 465. am I wrong for wanting to get away for relaxation at least every sat?
2007-01-25 11:19:32 · 12 answers · asked by blessings78 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Candypop my dear you will surely die with a blood sugar of 465 if you don't get that down. You must get rid of the stress and possibly bad eating in your life. The best solution is to cut back on school, so what if it takes you longer. When you popped out the first kid you gave up school, jobs and all other things that take away from them. Of course they bug you, you are not able to do it all so quit trying. Live for the children you made and do the lesser important things later. You'll be glad you did.
2007-01-25 11:27:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, you are not wrong. A good parent recognizes the stress and sees a break(down) coming and takes positive action. If any of the children are old enough, explain to them the college demands and where it is going to take you and why the household is temporarily different and you need them to be a bit more independent and then set up a time and day with each so that they can vent, ask questions or complain about stuff. Get your husband involved in this so that they have his input too. If possible, take them to college and show them the important place you are in and that you must study and be on top of it all to get your degree and then tell them all the things you will be able to do with the degree - things that will benefit them with more income and an important position: sports stuff/private play, dancing lessons, new computers, tutors, etc. etc. You should have a day away from it all so get a sitter or grandma or a neighbor, etc. On Sat. if dad is not working that should be his day with the kids and they should know that you are on holiday that day. Also, dad must have his day/time also. Good luck.
Violet Pearl above has a good point also. Perhaps 1/2 time in college. All depends upon the needs of the children as they come first but then, if you are not healthy, your health comes first. I guess it is all a balancing act in the end.
2007-01-25 19:30:59 · answer #2 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alrighty then!!!!!!!!
First off STOP trying to be PERFECT its not a reachable goal.
Second if your tight schedule is going to work you must set limits.
have a family meeting and explain to the kids that you need their help and why.That you cant be all things to all people and you need them to take some responsibility.
Thirdly ( is that really a word) Eat right balanced diet is highly important for you to preform well and get the rest you need (set limits)
Let you family know that you are working and study hard so that your lifes will be better.
2007-01-25 19:31:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not at all...I know how you feel...I have two toddlers, and I'm with them all day, everyday. I don't club, party, socialize or have any friends because I've didn't have the opportunity to (Got married then pregnant right away!)plus I'm in a segrated neihbourhood. (BTW, I'm not even from the USA...from UK)
I keep my sanity by being intouch on a daily basis with my family and friends back in the UK.
And I tell myself in the long run, they're not always gonna be this age, so I'm fortunate enough to be at home with them full time to raise them in these crucial. Trust me, it's a blessing in disguise even if it doesn't see so right now.
2007-01-25 19:36:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop trying to be the perfectionist...you will literally run yourself into the grave. do what is best for you and your family. you are not wrong for wanting to get away. you are a very busy person. in school and a mom? maybe you can arrange for your parents or friends to watch them for a half a day so you can get at least a half a day to yourself. just a suggestion. you are not wrong nor are selfish for wanting time to yourself. then only person that you are being selfish with is yourself because you don't have time to yourself. you need time to recharge and regenerate so that you can continue to do these things.
2007-01-25 19:26:56 · answer #5 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoever thinks a day of relaxation isn't deserved should switch with you for one whole day,stress can be the beginning of a terrible end it affects your body in many ways both mentally and physically.Try doing things in a day that help you and the children at the same time.It doesn't seem like hubby is involved hopefully he will before he has to
2007-01-25 19:38:38 · answer #6 · answered by poet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work something out with your husband. Tell him how stressed you are and that you need some time so that you don't pull an Andrea Yates. (OK, that was a bit much...but you know what I mean.) If he's a good husband, I'm sure he'd be happy to work with you on ways to keep you sane. Good luck!
2007-01-25 19:25:23 · answer #7 · answered by shannonscorpio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should quit school until the kids are older. Yes, you're wrong for ditching the family 1 day a week when you're already ditching them 4 times a week for your own schooling.
2007-01-25 19:24:48 · answer #8 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as the perfect mother, so you don't have to try to be. Maybe you should cut down on your classes or something. If your kids are into sports you can relax when they are at practice or whatever.
2007-01-25 19:28:28 · answer #9 · answered by istoof 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to parenthood. Yes, it's hard, but very rewarding down the road. It's not wrong to want a break every once in a while to recharge your batteries. I only wish I could take my wife out once a week. As it is, we only get out once every couple of months, but we make due. It's better than nothing.
2007-01-25 19:40:44 · answer #10 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋