but the bad thing is that me and him are young were only 13 and 16. and where we come from it says we both need parental consent. which he got from his parents but i havent gotten from mine. i dont know what to do because i wanna be with him so badly and we dont know what we can do to get married. we know that we are the one for ech other were just hitting alot of road blocks during the way and im sure that you people who are answering my question must think oh my god are you kidding me kid? but really havent you ever been so happy with someone you cant even come close to imagineing what a life without them would be like. thats how i feel i just need help thank you for thoose who arent judging to harshly
2007-01-25 11:15:03 · 14 answers · asked by Mishalova 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stay engaged and wait until you are 18 to get married. I was 13 when I met my husband and we started going steady when I was 15. That was 15 years ago. We waited until I was 19 to get married. Believe me, you are too young to get married.
But I don't believe you are too young to truly be in love. You don't need a legal or church document to say you are committed to each other.
2007-01-25 11:34:33 · answer #1 · answered by StormyC 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Keep that love, keep that yes, it is beautiful and you know it, bless you. Like someone else here said, "...no hurry." Yes, I love you, I will be your wife, I will be your husband Ahhh. And in some cultures you at 13 would be considered marriagable. Probably in those cultures your parents would choose an older more stable man with education and property or a business so that your life would be comfortable.
You and your 16 year old boyfriend will need to think about how you will live when you become husband and wife, when you begin to raise children. Will you want more education? Will you want to live on what he can earn? Would you like him to have more education, more earning power? Do you want to develop a skill or an interest? Will that cost money?
Have some fun with this. Spend some time working out your household budget, look at the rentals, actually respond to some adds and look at them. Go look at houses that are on the market, consider how you might pay for the kind of life you want to live with your sweetheart. Go do some of the things you and he will do together. Spend some time with other couples your age. Have some fun. There is a whole life the two of you want to live together, so get started, and take your time, and love every minute of it. Plan your wedding and your marriage when you and he can do it the way you want to do it. Be happy. Be good to eachother.
2007-01-25 11:45:50 · answer #2 · answered by Arlosmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's gonna really stink, and your not gonna like the answer......but you should wait. I married my high school sweetheart. Got preganant at 16, had the kid at 17. Was the happiest person I ever was! Mrried him...But then life happened. People grow up. People do alot of growing up between 18-22. And esp since you are 13....You have alot to experience. I have no doubt that you love him. Thats not the issue at all. But if you love him, then what's the rush? If you are going to spend the rest of your life together, then why not see it through and do it right? You'll get the respect from your friends and family.....and it would be a great love story to tell the kids :) I have been there. I have felt that eagerness. But being now 27...there is so much to learn and deal with. PS: I got married at 19 and it stunk not being able to drink at my wedding! ust a thought !
2007-01-25 11:44:59 · answer #3 · answered by redsoxmom1979 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's the rush? What benefit do you get by getting married? Where will you two live? How will you get money? You're too young to work. What about school? There's no need to get married this young. You'll lose your whole teenage years. I love my boyfriend to death too, we believe we're soul mates. We live together and will eventually get married but there's no real rush. Take your time. Besides, if you ask your parents, if they're good parents, they'll say no and that will cause problems between you and them. At least wait till you're 18, or even better, 21. Then you can actually drink at your reception. You can have the big wedding that every girl deserves. Enjoy your childhood!
2007-01-25 11:31:13 · answer #4 · answered by ♫♪~♥ ME ♥~♪♫ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you please be serious your too young and inmature finish school and even college or university thensee if you share the same feelings you had when you where younger what your feeling is not love it is what is referred as puppy love or infatuation. Trust me this feeling is going to pass for you your hormones have not even started he is most likely doing this so he can have sex with you. If it is true love it can wait oh say another 5 to 7 years when you are more aware of yourself and
what you really want just don't even consider the whole sex thing thats all we need is another couple of babies having babies. You are not being realistic and do not even think your parents will consent unless they just fell off the last turnip truck. You just became a teenager and your talking crazy!
2007-01-25 12:15:35 · answer #5 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't be serious, here. I'm 34, and the amount of changing and maturing I've done since i was your age is huge. You don't establish yourself as a personality until at least 30. Have you any idea just how different you 2 will be in 4 years let alone a lifetime? Dont be in such a hurry and let your muturity unfold over time.
2007-01-25 11:37:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no problem with accepting his proposal. There is a problem with consummating the relationship because of it. (having sex). If you really love him you will right now think of the future. Yes i know that's all you feel you have been thinking about. I'm talking about reality. Once you are together he will be charged with rape and placed in jail. This isn't something you can control. You can't hide from the entire world for 5 years! He will be caught! There are too many responsible people in this world that will intervene with out your approval. If it were possible I would be one of them. If you truly love him, think of the future! Plan for the future. Prepare for the future. Just don't live like it's the future.
2007-01-25 11:35:04 · answer #7 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
them rode blocks are there for a re-son babe.
you should be thinking about school and making something of your self first.
It's called puppy love ,we all have been there.
But you are still a kid, get married at the age of 13 dose not make you a women.
so get that shi# out of your head and Waite a few more years.
Only a nether kid is going to tell you it okay.
2007-01-25 11:34:47 · answer #8 · answered by ღ♥ஐcookie1ஐ♥ღ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So you think you are ready for marriage and so does he.
So you are telling me that you are ready for a committ-
ment to be with him the rest of your life, to honor, love,
respect, be responsible, be there for him in his ups and
downs and will never again fall in love with another as
you and him have been togeather long enough to insure
that loving another will never happen, then I would say
that you are probably ready, oh wait, is he ready also to
committ to the above un-conditionally and is ready to
take on the responsibility of taking care of you for the
rest of his life. Think about it and when you do you will
know you probably need to wait a little bit longer before
you can truthfully say that you are ready to implement
the above, the two of you that is.
2007-01-25 13:07:02 · answer #9 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why no longer say convinced? in case you 2 planned on staying jointly once the newborn became born besides, why no longer only bypass ahead and get married? it is a alluring component! lady, congratulations!! I wish you 2((infant makes 3)) each and every of the perfect! :)
2016-10-16 02:49:37 · answer #10 · answered by alim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋