...confused?

Question

my 7r. old stepdaughter walked up to me and told me i was a b*****,to **** off, she hates me, and she wishes i would die. did i do something wrong

almost 3 years

Answer 1

maybe she feels that you intervened in the relationship between her parents, or she thinks that by scaring you off they will get back. Try to ignore her! that's right IGNORED her greet her since she still is a human, but don't try to be friends don't try to engage into any type of conversation unless she is being respectful towards you. Talk to your partner and talk to her (both of you ) firs, if that don't work IGNORE hers eh is doing this to hurt you, but like every kid, it will hurt them if you don;t give them the attention they are seeking, it may also be that her mother is saying things about you !

Answer 2

Not sure why you are confused....would you tolerate that language from anyone else? I sure wouldn't. Time for the 3 of you to have a sit down. Also probably time to decide what your discipline and parenting style is (together) because trust me, this is just the beginning.... it can be a great experience...but your kids will always test your limits and their own.....its how they learn about the world....also, find a girlfriend with a daughter to confide in....its the only way I found not to take my kids so dang personal....and thats the hardest part... is keeping my own emotion out of it so I can make good decisions for our family. All the best to you.

Answer 3

She probably feels as if you are trying t replace her mother. First, her father should first talk to her and explain that that language is completely inappropriate, there has to be a consequence for that behavior, like no TV, or toys etc. She needs to know that she cannot speak to anyone like that period! Once things have cooled off, then you should talk to her, and explain to her that while you are not trying to replace her mother, you are trying to help her and look after her and there has to be rules. Tell her that you also want to be her friend too, but that you are still a grown up and she has to respect you. Let her know that you understand why she is upset, but that you won't tolerate that kind of disrespect.


If its any consolation, My mom and day split when I was 5, and my mom shortly remarried. I had a few days when I hated him. But even when I was difficult, he treated me good and continued to be a "dad" to me, even when I told him "I already have a dad" But he was the worlds greatest dad to me, and I love him very much and now that I am an adult, I have tremendous respect for him and what he did for us. Kids have bad days too, it doesn't mean that she meant what she said. But, she should be told not to speak to you like that.

Answer 4

How long ago did you marry her father??? This is seen in many cases. It doesn't matter if it is a boy or girl. They just have trouble accepting that fact that their parents' are seperated due to divorce or death.

She doesn't know you. She thinks you are trying to replace her real mom. In due time she will accept you. Or she thinks you are trying to take her dad away from her. The best thing to do is continue showing her your love for her. Find something that you both have in common. Maybe a favorite movie or book or something like that. This way she can relate to you in some way. Don't pry, just let her know that your are there for her if she needs you.

Answer 5

I guess I can understand...not to be of offense. It is just the situation she is in, and she heard those words from someone. Just talk to her about how she feels about her mom and dad getting a divorce. Get her a journal and let her write in it, and get her a "thought jar" and she can put how she feels in it, and she can share it with you and her dad. It is hard to have your parents divorce at a young age. Explain to her that it is okay to say how she feels, but without using those words.

Answer 6

talk to your husband about it. You and your husband need to sit your step daughter down and have a heart to heart talk to her. Maybe just maybe her mother puts false information into her head. I find it hard to believe a 7 yrs old would say all these words if she did not heard it from an adult. Besides, if you give her love and try to get to know her, she would not resent you.

GOOD LUCK...........Deal with the issues now before it too late and get out of hand.

Answer 7

No, she's just practicing words she learned, trying to get a reaction, and/or copying what someone else did. Tell her that it is wrong to say those things and to not do it again without punishment.

Answer 8

Yes, your husband hasnot been disciplining his child properly. It is not normal for a child that age to speak to a parent that way. He needs to set her straight immediately. I would put my foot down and insist that he take a stand. Otherwise, it is going to be hell for you to be around this girl.

Answer 9

probably not. You need to sit her down (nicely) and ask her why she said that. She may have an issue that you are not aware of. If you find it to be a major problem get her Dad involved.

Answer 10

She is only 7 yrs. old, and probably doesn't understand why her real mother died or left and she doesn't understand why your there. Talk to your husband for tips on how to make her feel better, he probably knows her better. Also...... how long has she been with you? Good Luck!