Basically My firend is 5 months pregnat and wants my boyfriend and I to move in with her whcih at first i didn't think was that big of a deal but now i realized that i don't want to waste my summer taking care of a kids im only 19 and want to live life and party and stuff and not grow up. Just because she is pregnat doesn't me I have to grow up. and none of this in a badway either I just want to have a fun summer and be able to do whatever I want and do not want tohave to be stuff babysitting and being quite because of the baby and I have no idea how to tell her this with out her thinking that we our bailing on her or not being htere forher
what to do?
2007-01-25 11:07:39 · 15 answers · asked by dreamergirl 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You just need to tell her no. As a friend she should respect that. Also sheshould have known better than to ask...but maybe she is feeling alone. Let her know that you will always be there to offer support but that you don't think it is a good idea that you all shack up together.
2007-01-25 11:28:18 · answer #1 · answered by E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say no, as much as you love to...you can't. It isn't your problem and if you want to be a free spirit then be it. You're young and you're only 19 once in your life. Enjoy it. Your friend probably wants your help with the baby and pay for rent. You can tell her you'll help with the baby at times, but not all the time. Also, you love your sleep. Babies cry a whole lot. Especially at night.
2007-01-25 11:19:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 02:47:54 · answer #3 · answered by chardip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friends irresponsible behaviuor got her this way. My guess is that she wants you to move in so that you can do all the baby sitting while she goes and parties.
Not your issue , be firm and tell her no !, she has to deal with the outcome of her own decisions. She has chosen to keep the baby , that is her choice let he live with it.
2007-01-25 11:17:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you have changed your mind. Prolonging telling her will not make it any better. Continue to be there for her and do things to help and support her. Just don't move in with her! It won't be good for any of you!
2007-01-25 11:16:20 · answer #5 · answered by clarity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her no. Offer to help with the baby on your terms, when you are able to, and that's as much as you should have to do.
2007-01-25 11:12:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being there for her doesn't mean you have to move in with her. Just say you don't want to, don't feel obligated to do anything you don't feel comfortable with. You will feel good about standing your ground, you'll see, and if she becomes upset I doubt it will last forever. Good luck!
2007-01-25 11:33:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, I would tell her that you will always be there for her. Then tell her that your boyfriend isn't comfortable with it. Or maybe just say you really don't want to move.
2007-01-25 11:13:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are NOT going to be there for her, are you?
Just be honest and tell her that. You don't OWE her support, and it's better she knows that and finds someone else to help her.
2007-01-25 11:21:48 · answer #9 · answered by flywho 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her the truth, that you do not feel it's a good idea, but you'll help here babysit when you can. done deal....
2007-01-25 11:17:09 · answer #10 · answered by JuJitsu_Fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋