How do you learn to trust again after you have been cheated on by your husband?

Answer 1

Depends on the nature of the cheating. For example, it it's darts or something, don't play anymore. If it's bridge or other card games, make sure you watch him deal closely and keep your cards close in to you. If it's marital infidelity, you absolutely, and mean MUST know the psyche of a guy. The greatest words of wisdom on this topic ... oops. brb

Answer 2

You don't. You can't learn to trust, you either do or you don't and Obviously you don't for good reasons. People don't cheat on people they love. They may say they do but they really don't. You need to step back and really analyze your relationship and don't blame yourself for his cheating. All you can do is blame yourself for staying and letting it happen again. And it does happen again, over and over. Do you want to keep sleeping with a man who's had his hands and other body parts all over and inside another woman? How do you know he's not picturing his lover when he's having sex with you? You don't! And you can't believe anything he says cause he's obviously not trustworthy. Your relationship and sex life will never be the same again so you might as well leave and find someone who won't cheat. It will happen again and maybe next time you'll catch an std from his sorry butt.

Answer 3

It will always be that nagging little something in the back of your mind, especially when he comes home late from work or out with the guys. Those strange phone calls when someone hangs up when you answer.
If you want to stay with him, it's an issue that will prove itself one way or the other; If he has a tendency to cheat, he will do it again and again.
If this is eating you up inside, then maybe you should seek some professional advise.

Answer 4

You truly forgive him and know that this will be hard, but you and your husband can get through anything together if you are truly committed to each other.

Ignore all these other feminists who say dump his sorry butt, no woman should take this and we women are so strong and we can do and get whatever and whomever we want! You have feelings for him that nobody else understands. Go with your feelings. We have no idea how remorseful and guilty he feels or is and how long it's been going on and with who, but listen to your heart and if you guys want it to work and want to work hard, then you'll have a great marriage. It may even turn out to be better than it was before. Hard to believe, but tragic events can make two people stronger together. Good luck!

Answer 5

That is something that l am working on myself at the moment. My husband cheated on me after 30 yrs of marriage and it really hurt me badly. I can forgive him but the trust issues are very hard. When l figure out the answer to your question l will let you know. Best of luck to you with this one.

Answer 6

Trust should be the basis of a strong relationship. I faced the same issue and forgave, only to have the cheating happen again. He truly was not worth it.

Answer 7

This takes time and healing and forgiveness and letting the pain go and not holding on to it anymore.... If the husband is truley sorry and remorseful it is our place as wives to forgive them and try giving them and our marriages another chance.... Trust is hard to be earned again but over time you can slowly start to trust.

Answer 8

He's going to have to prove himself to you. It's up to him. If he starts complaining that you're not getting over it fast enough, you'll probably never get over it. If he gives you the time and space to heal, recognizes that he's the one who blew it, and shows you his love every single day, there's a chance you can forgive (but unlikely you'll forget). I don't believe the saying "Once a cheater, always a cheater". People make mistakes. I sure wouldn't let him off the hook easy, but only you know if he's trustworthy. Good luck!

Answer 9

There is no magic formula. It is a head thing...simply make-up your mind to trust him again and practice, practice, practice. Honestly, once trust has been trodden, I don't think it will ever be the same. I feel for you my friend.

Answer 10

Damaged goods... It takes time to regain trust in people again... You are constantly questioning things that are said... But you know what trust in your instincts, you'll be alright....