Am I asking too much from my parents???

Question

AND from my girlfriends mom. They all keep throwing these hints (some subtle...some NOT so subtle) that we both should just be bestfriends instead of being together, & that we both would make 2 men very lucky. I try not to laugh every time one of them says it because that would be a lil disrespectful, i guess. But im getting a little sick of it. We've been together for 2 yrs & plan on creating a life with eachother, so.....our parents really need to get a clue. Am i expecting too much?? What should I say to them, if anything??

Im 23. Not 15. LOL.

Answer 1

Your not asking for too much but you have been given a lot already. Your out to them and they are still talking to you.I doesn't sound like their cussing you out and threatening to disown you. They let your girlfriend into their home right. Many of us would love our parents to be that accepting. You don't have the ideal ( total acceptance) but you have more than most. I give your parents a lot of credit... they sound like they "dealing" pretty OK. Some parents go off the deep end and NEVER talk to their kids again
Perhaps the best way to get them to accept you and your girlfriend is to continue work hard and live good , happy lives together.

Answer 2

I think no matter what you do or say, they will always do this. They are holding out some hope that you will become a "normal" girl. I think eventually they will tone it down a little, especially if you are young right now. If you are younger, than they probably think its just a stage. Also go ahead and laugh at their comments. They are being disrespectful to you. Maybe get them involved some how in a family members of gays/lesbians or something. Besides men are over rated anyways. ( This is all coming from a straight girl by the way, whose parents believed she was a lesbian cuz she had a lot of lesbian friends.)

Answer 3

I'm so used to reading your answers - it seems a little odd to read a question!

Do you live with your (or her) parents?

I really liked Milkbone's answer. That they helped make you what you are and that there isn't anything wrong with you or your choices. Tell them that even if you and your girl end up breaking up, you will both still be gay.

I think that as an adult, you have every right to ask your parents to respect your life choices, even if they do not agree with them. It's very hard for parents to realize that, after years of worry, fret, staying up when you were sick, watching out for your every bump and bruise that the goal of you becoming a full, contributing member of society has arrived.

Be adult. Be calm. Be strong.

Answer 4

You should respect that your parents may not be as understanding as you and your partner had orginally hoped.
Your parents may feel that this is a passing fancy and that with enough encougragment you would see the error of your ways and revert to a more socially acceptable way of living.
Perhaps you and your partner should sit your parents down together and explain to them the love that you have for one another and your intentions. How important it is to you for them to accept your way of life even if they dont agree with it.
Allow them to express openly their concerns or emotions on the matter with an open mind. Try not to be defensive, show them the understanding and tolerance that you desire from them.
Show them by your actions how they should act.
The important thing to remember is that things may not change overnight.
But they may get better over time.
Do not comprimise your happiness, or your beliefs, but allow the subject to be discussed in a respectful and loving manner.

Answer 5

Yes you are asking too much. Most parents want what's best for their children and yours have not given up on you yet. Your parents are in denial of their failure to teach you right from wrong as a child. Tell them it's too late and since you reject God also there is no hope for you at this time. They won't listen because my guess is that they know that with God all good things are possible and maybe one day you will let Him save you from your sins.

Answer 6

some parents just don't want to accept the fact that their children are gay, to them it is as if they have some how failed at being parents, because you don't want a man. The don't get that you really can't help being gay, it is a genetic thing just like some of the facial features that you have. See if you can find some reports online and show them that you aren't responsibe for being the way that you are. good luck.

Answer 7

Smile and say you think you are doing the right thing for you both, and tell them when you do have a child you hope they will get past this because you want them all in your childs life, and that kids are smart, and will pick up on any animosity on their part. Remind them it was their love and guidance that made you both who you are and that you're proud of them for being good people, and that you want them all to pass along their love to you child.

How's that for a stream on consciousness thought?

Answer 8

Just tell them you ARE best friends and you are also training eachother in the benefits department for when those two lucky men come along. And tell them if it's because they want little ones around, you can get a dog. See you in New Paltz :)

Answer 9

Your families should love you no matter whether you are gay, straight, or bisexual(or asexual for that matter). Your home is supposed to be the one place where "when you have to go there, they have to let you in". I'm not saying they are required to approve, everyone has a right to their opinion, but they shouldn't judge you. There really is nothing you can say to them, though, except, "This is the way I am, if you can accept that, you are welcome in our life. If not, we(your family and you) may have to part ways, because you will not make me choose between you."

Answer 10

You're expecting them to accept you for who you are and be happy for you and your girlfriend. You're definitely not the one asking too much. If it's really annoying you, then say something.