I'm getting married in 7 weeks, and I have feelings for two women. I've been engaged to my fiance for 10 months, and met the other woman about two months ago. I have deep feelings for my fiance, I'd lay down my life for her, and appreciate her very essence. The other woman has blown me away. They are both attractive, intelligent and affectionate. But there personalities are different, personality wise. I have a strong attraction to both. And I can see me spending the rest of my life with either of them. I had to break off things with the other girl recently, before they got too invovled. Needless to say, she was very upset about it, and I was deeply hurt. I realize what I did was very selfish, and I broke things off because I didn't want to hurt her anymore, and could never fully be the man she wanted. I didnt tell her about my fiance either. Should I tell my current fiance about her? Wil things be ok in the future? At this point I've lost one of them...
2007-01-25 10:12:30 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
at this point your bound to lose them both!
2007-01-25 10:27:31 · answer #1 · answered by Celeste P 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope you realize you are not completely ready to be marrying anyone yet. If you truly were ready to marry your fiance, you wouldn't of been having the affair. Can't you see that? Your being unfair to yourself and your fiance by getting married right now. You need more time to be sure of your feelings. Who's to say in another couple months you don't find someone else intriguing? I would tell your fiance what has happened, no use going into a marriage under false pretenses. She has a right to know who she really is marring and what she is getting into. Because actually you have already cheated!
2007-01-25 18:30:06 · answer #2 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you´re getting cold feet and have serious commitment issues. I doubt that you are or were in love with any of these women because it sounds like you´re just looking for an excuse not to go through with the marriage. You should tell your fiance what you´ve been up to so she can decide whether she wants to spend the rest of her life with a cheater or not.
2007-01-25 18:25:26 · answer #3 · answered by Double 709 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your kidding me you didn't tell this other girl you have a fiance are you F***ed ...... ya i can see you love your fiance so much ...if you did you would not be out there looking for another women that's just sad .. do her a big fav and tell her about that women and if she was a smart women her self you would not be getting married in 7 weeks cause that's just wrong you have not even married her yet and you are looking at other women... this is happening be for the wedding hate to see whats going to happen after years of being married to her ...........she should be the ONLY women you are looking at that way not her and some other women .....all i have to say is tell her
2007-01-25 18:31:22 · answer #4 · answered by bonnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think if u tell your fiance it will cause some hurt, and may hurt the relationship, because u were engaged and met the other one while engaged, if your fiance finds out u may have lost both so i would not tell her about it, shows what u were doing behind her back.
2007-01-25 18:22:57 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a fickled nut that should not be married to any one! Leave people alone and quit playing with people's emotions!
2007-01-25 18:21:40 · answer #6 · answered by Itiyah Yisrael 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its better to choose who you care for the most before you leep into marrige or you may regret who you marry
2007-01-29 16:25:08 · answer #7 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋