what should i do about my family they say i should not marry my friend i have known for two yrs?

Question

my family does not like this women, we both love each other and one day we will get married but i dont want to split the family need some help here??

Answer 1

Some people are never lucky enough to find love. You say you have and what you and her feel is really all that matters ( Unless of coarse there is other children Involved) You are not going to split up your family (They will get over it) And if they truley want to be in your life they need to trust you and believe that you are doing what you feel is right for you. Not for them. Follow your heart honey Not your Family's.

Answer 2

You need to explore why your family doesn't like the woman. (women is the plural of woman, by the way). They may have some valid points. Try to be objective about this.

If you truly think that your whole family is being irrational, just let time be the deciding factor. Don't marry her right away; see what happens in a year or two. If you're still together then get married.

Answer 3

Hello,
You need to follow your heart-
Did you know lots of people never even liked their sole mate at first site!
In other words you are the one who has to lay your head down each night with whom you have chosen to spent the rest of your days with NOT your family.
Family is great as long as in a picture frame hanging on the wall.
When they dis the one you love they are actually pushing you further away. You don't need to pick or be in the middle.
Time will tell just go with the heart, if it gets to the point you can't handle it no more tell them, "I love you but you are wrecking my happiness. If can't be happy for me then leave us alone until you can."

Note: Here is another way TRY not to ever say good or bad about your loved one to the family, same to the one your in love with.
Value what time you can salvage with the family.

PS. My mother always told me- "If nothing good to say about someone, then don't say nothing at all".

Good luck in the either way
Sandra

Answer 4

if you truly love this woman and feel that she is the right one for you then you need to do what you want, whether it's get married or don't. Your family may be upset at first but they will either get over it or they won't. If they don't then maybe you are better off without a family that won't be there to support you no matter what.

Answer 5

You family will always be your family. No matter who you marry. And maybe they will take a while to come around but once they see that you two are really happy together, it will all work out : )

Answer 6

You're going to want the friendship and presence of family members in your life. You're also the one who will live with the woman you choose. Give some clearminded thought to what your family does not like about your chosen honey. Talk to them about it, but also ___Listen to what they say. Love can be very blind. Its close to impossible to be objective when your heart and tummy are doin' a swing dance.
Try bringing up some hard questions with your intended--like, "How shall we spend our money?" "What if I want a luxury vacation, and you want a sports car?" "Do you want kids? If you had them would you spank them for misbehavior?" "I want to keep on going to the gym after work. Is that going to be a problem for you?"
Love love love. Its the only thing. And you gotta love yourself, too.

Answer 7

Are your family the ones that are going to wake up to your wife every morning? No, they are not. You need to take control of your life and marry who you want to marry. Maybe with time they will grow to like and respect her.

Answer 8

You don't say why they done like her? there has to be a reason. only you know that, so its hard for me to be able to answer this fully? All I can suggest is that if you love her and you consider her to be your friend, then only you can make your mind up. I married my best friend and we have been together for over 15yrs. Follow your heart and if your family love you they will come round to it. Good luck

Answer 9

You should wait. If your family loves you, they are only looking out for your best interests. When you marry someone, you also marry thier family. If you marry this woman, you can kiss your family goodbye!

Answer 10

I think if you really love her then you should marry her and your family will just have to understand that she is the woman you love and accept and get over it. They should be happy that you have found the love of your life and encourage you instead of discourage.