he wants you to sign over your share of the house or he is going to divorce you. Then tells youhe is not in love with you but loves you, doesnt know if he wants you, and lied to you about doing drugs during the marriage?
2007-01-25 09:27:18 · 125 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
absoloutley not!! i wouldnt even want to sleep in the same house as him... he sounds dangerous! good luck... get him outta there asap!!!
2007-01-25 09:31:38 · answer #1 · answered by kellbelle21 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Forgive him, yes...because hate in your heart will consume you too. But, bend over and take what he's trying to dish out, HEYULL NO! He wants total control and this is how he gets it, with lie, deceit and controlling everything else. If he divorces you because you don't sign over your share of the house, that's fine....he doesn' t really love you anyways, but make sure you ask for half of your debt to be paid, half of the money in the bank, half of the retirement he's put in during the marriage AND get an order of protection. Do NOT let someone treat you like dirt, or they will. It's that simple. People do what they can get away with.
2007-01-25 09:35:25 · answer #2 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that the second you sign over your share of the house he will kick you out. Why else would he want you to sign you half over.
The he doesn't love you part means just that. He is not in love with you. He likes you but not in a serious relationship type of way. I think is time for you to research some divorce lawyers.
2007-01-25 09:33:50 · answer #3 · answered by mr_gees100_peas 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow thats an awful lot to forgive someone for. Sounds like he is trying to end the relationship, do not sign over the house, I did that without knowing what I was doing and then was cheated on and pushed out of my own house. Men can be evil ( some not all ) and if they are determined and selfish, they will stomp on your heart and take everything from you. If you truly love him you can try counseling but after reading all that it makes my heart sad, put yourself #1 and make some hard decisions, you don't have to be with someone like that, theres a lot of great guys out there, sift through the a$$e$ until you find the one that fits with you, and go for it, sounds like he is done, so should you after all that! Good luck
2007-01-25 09:33:32 · answer #4 · answered by Cute Stuff 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't sign over anything but I would be contacting a lawyer. If he is using divorce as a threat then the marriage is already in a lot of trouble.
2007-01-25 09:32:54 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
DON'T sign over your share of the house and just let him divorce you... (at least you'll get the money that he HAS to give you when he wants a divorce)
it just shows that he's not worth it... don't forgive him either because it seems like he's a total idiot...
seriously darling, just try your best and move on, i know it's not easy but this guy's just taking advantage. don't let him ^_~
2007-01-25 09:35:59 · answer #6 · answered by boo_786 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy cow woman....do not NOT NOT..sign anything. And sure forgiveness is grand. But forgive from a distance. Drug addicts will sell anything they can get their hands on...including their home. And also...if he is talking about not being sure he wants to be with you anyway...he may just be trying to get you to sign over the house so he can divorce you anyway. Protect yourself...get a lawyer and get rid of him.Good luck!
2007-01-25 09:34:07 · answer #7 · answered by silentscreamer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My brother went through the same thing with his wife of 10yrs. They got back together wich is good because they have three kids together. I think you should do what is best for you, if someone tells you he doesn't love you anymore then get on with your life, go meet other guys and see how he feels about that. but if you feel there a chance and you have kids then try to work it out but if your not happy and he's on drugs then you should get on with your life and be happy, life is too short to be miserable. Good luck
2007-01-25 09:35:35 · answer #8 · answered by Ms Tracey Lyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't forgive... & hang on to it all... if he gets the house because you sign it over you will have no legal rights. Do not give it up. In fact, Use all that he has said, tell a lawyer immediately. HE IS UP TO SOMETHING!!! Mark my words. YOU better get yourself protected. Find out from a lawyer who should file... if he does I think he would have to pay the fees.
Check with lawyer. Get out!
2007-01-25 09:35:27 · answer #9 · answered by aka.rene 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. If you sign over your assets, he can still divorce you, and probably will in time. If he isn't planning to divorce you, why would he want you to sign over your marital property? Get a lawyer right away. Do it before he does, or he's likely to take you to the cleaners.
2007-01-25 09:34:39 · answer #10 · answered by roknrolr63 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I certainly wouldn't sign over anything to him, you need to protect your interests as well here. If he's threatening divorce, it sounds like he's using that as emotional blackmail. You guys need counseling, or if he's not willing, then I'd take a good hard look at the marriage, and why you should stay.
2007-01-25 09:33:23 · answer #11 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋