I been separated from my husband for like 4 months or so, he left me with our 2 other kids and pregnant, he didn't even call us or give us any money or even visit his kids, well just for christmas he bought some presents for all of us. I had to support my family, a house and a car, and of course not mentioning all the bills that u have when u own a house. Anyways I have this friend that a couple of weeks ago he just told me that he like me more than just friends, wich I told him that I wasn't ready for a relationship, he told me that he like me and wants to be with me, I haven't tell him that I acept him or not but we are still talking about it. The big deal here is that my ex-husband called me yesterday and said that he is sorry and now he wants to come back with me....I don't really want to go back with him after everything he had done to me, but he is still my kids father & he needs help...I am really confuse and I don't know what to do.... If this was your case, what would you do?
2007-01-25 09:09:04 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i would go with your friend. This is why: you could in a sense "start over" with him. then when you got your bearings give ur ex some help
2007-01-25 09:16:56 · answer #1 · answered by secretagentwd40 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hurts that he would disrespect you and his family so much as to just walk out on you like that. But before I jump on his butt I have to remember there are always two sides to every story. I know this kind of tradegy can happen though, because it happened to my daughter. I feel like you really are stuck in a hard place and you may need to come back together again, just to make it! You both could definately use some type of help, counciling, whether it be a professional or even from a church. Do not turn to the other person. That would be wrong and then your ex could use that against you, should he need to. I think you should try and work things out with him.
2007-01-25 17:20:48 · answer #2 · answered by That 70's girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was in your spot, I would give up on your husband, save your money for a divorce and demand Alamony and child support. Once your ready, give your friend a chance, he could be the one you want to be with, anythings possible. Also I wouldn't go back to your ex if I were you, if he really treated you badly theres nothing stopping him from doing it again. As for the emotions of you children, its better to be from a broken family than in one.
2007-01-25 17:20:55 · answer #3 · answered by cameraxwhore 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it were me, i wouldnt go back with the husband...he OWED you an explannation for leaving and going back with him just because he is the father of your kids is not a reason, he left you AND the KIDS withhout helping with bills or with hte KIDS...that is not a man but a coward. Now with the other guy, it's obvious that you are not ready for a relationshi, tell him you want a friendship and that he ahs to understand what you wetn throught....now how he reacts will tell you all you need to know...DO NOT GO BACK WITH THE EX HUSBAND!!
2007-01-25 17:18:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the father you want him to be in the kids life but not yours and you should propley get child support cause it really helps my mom is in the same problem. But you seem like you need some one new so date your freind who knows mybe he can help with your money issues in time.
2007-01-25 17:18:41 · answer #5 · answered by Jessi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this was my case, I would suggest marriage counseling also talk to your husband about your feelings, ask him why you should take him back, how do you know he won't up and leave you and the kids again. Just take it step by step,but I really suggest marriage counseling. Good Luck to you and your family.
2007-01-25 17:20:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT-I REPEAT-DO NOT GO BAK 2 HIM!!
he'll just make ur life worse...if u rly like this other guy,but not just ready 4 a relationship, then tell him that u need time 2 think or sumthin...ur ex-hub. mite just make u more miserable and mite leev u again w/ more problems. i'll repeat it once more:
DO NOT-A MILL. TIMES NOT-GO BAK 2 HIM
2007-01-25 17:33:18 · answer #7 · answered by Boingo&Fuzzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this was me i would go with my friend.Your ex had his chance and blew it. It doesn't matter if he needs help or not,he wasn;t there when you needed help.Soo leave his sorry a** in the past and go for the new good man.it's what i think is right.Peace.
2007-01-25 17:23:29 · answer #8 · answered by Kashmoney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get some professional counselling to find out what is the best way to go in this situation - not just for you, but also what is the best thing for your children.
2007-01-25 17:17:22 · answer #9 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i no what you mean i just had a son last year. and me and my boyfriend are having are ups and downs. but to me i always take him back and for . its the same **** i hate stressing myself like that and to see my son go threw this all the time we get back together..so i say hell nah.. go with that other guy..
2007-01-25 17:20:50 · answer #10 · answered by glitter girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋