Shes 18 but relation started @ 17 he 30, who can file stat rape? Can parents? AOC 16/18 pos.of authrity?

Question

She was 17 he was 30 when it started and was all consent. She is now 18 and parents found out. Who is allowed to press charges? Neither he or she wants to end relationship but parents do. AOC is 16 but he is in a "position of authority" a minister. State is NJ

She was 17 and he was 30 when it started with complete consent. She is now 18 and parents found out. Who is allowed to press charges? parents or does she since she is 18 now? Both want relationship to continue and but afraid of charges. AOC in NJ is 16 but thinks it may be different (18) for "position of authority" which he has.

Answer 1

there is no law broken since you fail to state weather the relationship was quote consumated or not.
and besides theres is absolutly nothing wrong with an 18 yr old girl dating a 30 yr old man. i myself am a 47 yr old man and my gf is 23.
i had a cousin that married a man 20 yrs her senior and was happily married to him for 35 yrs and had three lovely daughters.

simply because of an age gape doesnt mean two people cant fall in love. ive heard alot of answers from people taking the parents side but i defy anyone but the 2 people in this relationship to say if its real love or not.

some of you people just make me sick

Answer 2

Sis, I think you have a good idea, and I am really proud of your decision to make your brothers life better. The courts are going to give you a difficult time, but the end result may be worth it. I recommend going ahead with the idea, however, do this first: 1. Make sure you have a job that will allow you to support your brother. 2. Have a babysitter plan of action for times when you are not home. That way the court will see that you plan ahead and have a stable plan for taking care of your brother. 3. Enroll in online college or a local college so he won't be pulled out of the school he is in. If you get custody, he will have enough things to adjust to, and moving to a new school is going to be difficult. 4. Have a nice place to call home. A nice apartment will do fine. 5. Do you have any legal problems? If so, get them cleared or expunged. 6. Join a nice church where people will support your plan. See if the local minister would be a reference and support for you in the event you get custody. 7. Speak with your brothers guidance counselor at school and get support. 8. LAWYER UP! You will need an excellent family rights attorney. 9. Speak with your brother. Would he want this? 10. Document with pictures, hidden cameras, and dates and times all the disfunctional behavior. Nothing says disfunctional like a video of drunk dad or crazy mom. 11. Know that this may end your relationship with your parents. If you want to salvage it, maybe they can keep custody but you can serve as sitter- keep him as much as possible. Your brother must be a really great kid for you to want this. I am really proud of you. Just follow the steps I gave you and this may work out - just think it through carefully, and talk to that lawyer. Jay

Answer 3

The age of consent in NJ is 16. If the relationship was consensual at the time and there was no other mitigating circumstance, like she is developmentally challenged, the parents cannot file any charges.

They can ask the county prosecutor to file endangering the welfare of a minor against him, but they may or may not. If she was sexually active before meeting him that would seriously prejudice the case in his favor.

Answer 4

If she is 18 now, her parents have no control over her and the relationships she chooses to be in. Yes, this could be bad for his reputation as a minister, but other than defamation, you can't legally do anything about it. It's the hardest thing a parent has to do to lose control of their child when they think she's making a mistake, but there is no legal recourse here. It isn't illegal to have an age gap w/ your partner. Good Luck.

Answer 5

His superiors and the police should be notified immediately. I don't know if there is legal recourse after the fact but it's worth a try and this kind of behavior should be "aired" and not hidden. The parents could even contact a lawyer to see if there is civil damages involved. 1) police 2) his superiors 3)lawyer re civil lawsuit. Your child was sent to church for moral guidance not molestation by the minister.

Answer 6

I really despise it when parents want to "end" the relationship of a someone who is an adult. If they press charges and it can go through you know what will happen? The daughter will never talk to mom and dad again and run off with the guy. So, if they want to lose their daughter then go ahead and press charges.

Answer 7

my personal experience i was 16 he was 26 he told the court in a different case that i was seventeen and carrying his child they didn't care. The parents are allowed to press charges at anytime, as long as they have proof and reasoning of why they didn't do it sooner.

Answer 8

the statute of limitations ends when she turns 18 for a criminal offense but you can still file a civil case if you can prove the relationship caused some sort of damage in some way. The guy might lose his job as well if you can prove it. But there is no way I know of for them to be seperated unless the parents prove that she is unable to care for herself and she can be placed in the care of her parents and they can get a restraining order against him.

Answer 9

New Jersey AOC is 16 anyway.

Answer 10

It would have to be proven and there would have to be some sort of evidence. Chances are since too much time has pasted that the authorities will not proceed bucause of lack of hard evidence (DNA)