Had a pretty rubbish day today. Made me think about how other people actually see me. It's been the sort of day that I've been thinking about how many people would care if I wasn't there(just 'friends', my family obviously would).
See I get on with everyone, I don't think anyone dislikes me at school and I can talk to most people. But that only happens when I'm actually there - they don't have to make the effort to talk to me like they would on msn or on the phone. I have been on msn for 25 minutes now and only 1 person has actually started a conversation with me!
I'm sort of on the outskirts of the group that I hang around with, but would like to get to know others in other groups better. But my mind is rubbish - I'd be worrying what the others in my 'group' were thinking, and also I'd think the new people would think I'm impeding.
Is it worth making the effort now with only about 15 weeks of school left or should I wait until uni in September??
2007-01-25 09:00:06 · 13 answers · asked by Joey C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
go for it, i was in the same situation your friends dont notice your gone untill they see you with some one eles trust me then they ask you to come back and hang out with them thats what happened to me anyway...take a chance
2007-01-25 19:39:04 · answer #1 · answered by xx knickers xx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound articulate and pleasant and obviously make an effort socially which is a good thing. But you might want to remember that other people have lots to talk about other than you! Of course people do like to talk about others but its not always negative! You are lacking in confidence which is why you are on the outskirts of your group and of course worried about whether you would be welcome in a new group or not. Why I wonder do you think like that? Try and accept that some people wont like you and some people will no matter how nice we are. I would rather be disliked by many and have a solid personality than liked by many and be a social chameleon. (Did I spell that right?). And its always worth making the effort socially even if its 15 minutes or 15 weeks - you never know who you are going to last with or where the friendships will take you.
2007-01-25 10:12:12 · answer #2 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think you've had a bad day you seem popular enough with nothing to worry about. Perhaps over the last 15 weeks of school make a determined effort each time with the group to just say a little bit more than usual and you'll move from the outskirts.
2007-01-25 09:10:18 · answer #3 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey dude, you're obviously an intelligent lad and sensitive and that means you're destined to do well.
I had a dreadful time at school cos I used to avoid going to parties and hanging out with a bunch that got into all sorts of trouble. I sat at home practising my guitar and I'm now enjoying my life as a professional musician. I meet more intereting people every day and most of the people I went to school with are in nasty little offices pushing pen for someone that couldn't care less about them.
It's always worth the effort to try and score with people but sometimes they put barriers up and behave strangely. I wouldn't worry, you've got your whole life ahead of you. I'm sure things will work out.
Best wishes.
2007-01-25 11:07:39 · answer #4 · answered by Missing Link 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww you sound like you have not got enough confidence in yourself and not alot of self esteem either, everyone goes through this at your age, have you tried making friends with just one person so you can have the one on one contact and get to know them and go to each others houses and go out and have fun, I'm sure if you look around someone must be feeling like you, don't try and be anything else just be yourself and if no one likes it then that is their loss, too many kids now adays feel under pressure to do things or dress a certain way to fit in, maybe there are some clubs after school you could go to learn something or have fun and while you are there meet new people and make friends....good luck you seem really nice I'm sure someone will be best mates with you soon...
2007-01-25 20:49:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u should try to make more friends. i felt the exact same way because whenever i said something no one responded. they would ignore me and act like i hadnt said anything at all. i wouldnt worry about people like that cause theyre not ur friends. try to be friends with the "nerds." some of them are the coolest and nicest people out there. u think im kidding but im not. everyone thinks nerds are the people that make good grades and all that stuff but "nerds" are kids that dont have the best clothes...get made fun of...and are usually by themselves quite a bit. i became friends with a lot of them and they are ALL nice. mostly because they have been treated like dirt and know what it feels like so they wouldnt dare make anyone else feel the same. dont worry about stereotyping. just be a good person and u will be rewarded later.
2007-01-25 09:43:30 · answer #6 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to not belong to one group entirely at school but mix with a few. I used to liken myself to a bottle of coke - I was a mixer and mix with all the drinks. I think this was best for me as I ended up with a lot of friends and acquaintances but amongst the lot I made 3 really good friends. Its always worth putting the effort in. You only ever get back what you put in. So go and mix!
2007-01-25 09:10:23 · answer #7 · answered by JJ88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jeeeezz, you think too much. You sound intelligent though. Follow your heart and do what you want. School is probably about the final place you can truely be selfish and discover yourself. And why do you have to be in only 1 group anyway? I was (and am) in loads. Some as a leader and some as a follower and I enjoy both. Embrace life and it embraces you. Fear it, and it'll give you something to fear. Enjoy! ;-)
2007-01-25 23:32:47 · answer #8 · answered by PhoenixRights 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't put off till tomorrow what you can do today. Get out there make the effort and don't put yourself down. You don't seem to have a rubbish mind to me. Don't worry about what others think about you, you have the choice, make it and make it wisely. Best of luck to you.
2007-01-25 09:08:37 · answer #9 · answered by JillPinky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats life as a teenager I'm afraid to say, we all go through it sooner or later. Relax , they are only the same as you and inside will be feeling the same I wouldnt wonder. Keep at it you never know you may still be in touch with one or two of them 20 years from now, I am !!
2007-01-25 12:53:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Joey,
First thing you need to sincerely keep in mind is: "Don't worry what OTHERS are thinking about you because they are wondering what YOU are thinking about THEM."
I get along with everyone I know...but sometimes nothing happened till I started the conversation. I think I understand what you mean, anyway.
Don't worry. Be yourself and try your best!
Regards.
2007-01-25 09:11:27 · answer #11 · answered by piercing integrity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋