Im 25 and not yet married. The thought of spending your whole life with a man scares me to some extent.
I value my freedom..and the men I want as a husband are way out of my league..e.g., the kind of man I want is a Doctor or someone in a high profession.
2007-01-25 08:51:43 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I work full time as an Undergraduate Administrator in a University and Im also doing a part time MBA.
2007-01-25 08:59:15 · update #1
What is your profession? It is easier to get someone that you have something in common with. And I have never felt trapped in my marriage.
2007-01-25 08:57:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you do end up with a doctor it will be just like being single. You may want to re-think the looking for a man based on his career mentality. If you are planning on having children after you get married be prepared to raise them by yourself while your husband is busy with his career. My husband spends an average of 60 hours at work and is on call 24/7, this has been the biggest obstacle to overcome in our relationship. If I could go back and do it again I would have a checklist that potential mates would have to fill out to see if we were on the same page. The falling in love part is the easy thing, making sure you've found someone that puts you above everything else is the hard part. Men were taught that their only responsibility is to provide financially for their family, the rest is up to the wife.
2007-01-25 17:06:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
At some point in every marriage I belive that you feel trapped. But when I think of being without my husband (of 10 years) I couldn't bear it. He is wonderful. Yes we fight just like every other marriage. And we have been through A LOT! But if you could find someone you can respect and depend on and he does the same then why would that be scary? I am a very independent person but no matter weather it is marriage , family, or friendship you will make sacrifices for the ones you hold close to your heart. I have regrets in our relationship but I have no regret about our marriage. I have been hurt and so has he, but we have grown with each other. When you come out on the other side and you can look back and reflect and still be together it is very rewarding.
2007-01-25 17:02:52 · answer #3 · answered by cherristee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't wait for a Dr type of person. Granted the guy must have a job. But...I was in a marriage and he had a great job - but never home. I need love and attention. And when he was home, he never had any time for me. If we went away...he was always on his cell phone and the computer. Again, too busy for me. The money was great...I got to buy whatever I wanted, lived in a big house...etc. But emotionally, I was very sad. We are no longer married and I have just recently got married. We don't have the money that I was used to...but I now get the attention I need and I love. It really depends on what you're looking for in a relationship. Some people don't want to share their lives with people and are happy with the occassional husband. Me I pick love over money anyday.
2007-01-25 17:00:56 · answer #4 · answered by Michele K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not so much trapped; you are doing a great job first of all keep it up while you are single; let me tell you I have 3 kids and have been married for 3 1/2 yrs. ; I am 27 and have an Associates and a Bachelor and I work; me and my husband switch off ; right now he is at home with kids and I work--it has been a very hard road and a struggle-my sis is 25 and single in college-she is worried she'll never find anyone and I tell her the same thing---Look how hard it was for your sister-stay single until you are at the end of your career path and if it's meant to be---he'll be there waiting with a bouquet of flowers!!!
2007-01-25 17:14:47 · answer #5 · answered by Virgo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't ready for marriage yet, when you meet that man, you will be. And you can look for a doctor all you want, you might fall in love with the fat guy at the end of the bar drooling in his beer, you don't make that decision, THAT is what all those sappy eighties love songs are about honey! Good luck though!
2007-01-25 16:59:02 · answer #6 · answered by Ms Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel trapped because the man I fell in love with changed so much. He's psycho. When we dated he was so good to me. Now if I leave or threaten to leave he finds me. My mom says he's the kind you can never leave. Be careful when you do get ready to get married. I'm only 27 and I've been trying to run for 11 years.
2007-01-25 17:03:42 · answer #7 · answered by jennidixon186 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
those men you like in high professions are sometimes worse than the average joe,they come home with more stress and take it out on the wife.if you feel that way about marriage then it is not in your league to get married.it's ok to live with someone without getting married,no strings attached.
2007-01-25 17:02:54 · answer #8 · answered by smiley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious you're not ready to get married, if you ever do. Big deal. Lots of people don't. I for one have never been trapped... I am an independant woman, I own my own company, I go out with friends, I have hobbies, etc. and my husband values that.
2007-01-25 16:56:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then maybe you are thinking of getting married for the wrong reason. Marriage is the public annoucement of your devotion to another person. You may never get ot a point where you feel so devoted to one person that you want to spend your whole life with them, that may just be who you are.
2007-01-25 17:01:40 · answer #10 · answered by Therious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋