My ex-best friend and i have been ex-friends since the beginning of September. She was the best friend i have ever had. and i miss her a lot. we've gotten into to fights and all, but this time it's for good. I can tell. and i miss her a lot. and i think i might be driving some of my other friends away because of my depression. I don't know if i should still feel sad about the whold thing.
And i kind of have another problem. I'm worried for my two friends who are still her friend, but i don't want to see them get hurt like i got hurt. She totally ditched them after our friendship ended. she got herself a whole new set of friends and totally ditched all her old friends. she doesn't hang out with them anymore and they're still her friends. I can't help but worry for them. Should i really feel this bad?
2007-01-25
08:48:15
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She was a great friend. Actually the best friend i ever had. It's just when she started having a boyfriend, well she changed and ditched me for him all the time with out realizing it. I can't blame her because she lives in a bad family kinda. She never met her dad and her mom was a whore and now she lives with her grandma, which is not like having a mom. I don't want to tell her how i really feel, because i always feel this feeling that i'm this small person when i try to. I'm afraid she's changed so much that she's not the same person i was BFFs with. We fought over a silly thing. I was acting like a total brat to her one day in science, because i couldn't take her ditching me and lying to me. I found out later she ditched me because she didn't like my mom. My mom yelled at her over the summer, becasue she ditched me when i wasn't feeling very well to go hang with her bf at a water park. When i felt better she still continued to hang with him. My mom yeled at me and her and we made up
2007-01-29
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It's ok to feel down. You are just a warm, sentitive being who treasures your friendships. Try not to carry the burden of having lost your best friend on your shoulders.
Just remember the good times and try to be an even better friend to the friends you still have.
Sometimes, it's hard to reconcile after a fight, but even if you stop being friends now, you will always have been friends. She can't take that away from you.
2007-01-25 08:54:15
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answered by Tones 6
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No one can tell you how you should feel, but if you think that you aren't going to be able to make friends again then you need to pick yourself up and move on.
A best friend is a friend that you will fight with but then hug and make up soon afterwards. Sometimes you don't even make up, and just pretend that the disagreement never happened.
I had an argument with my best friend when I was 18. We are cousins and we broke friends because her boyfriend was disrespectful to our grandfather. I still miss her (the way she was), but sometimes when people fall out it means that you have different ideas in life and perhaps aren't suited to be friends.
If your other friends are still friends with her, then it is their decision. Try to carve out a new group of friends with a new interest - take a dance class after school or join a sports club - soon you will get a new group of friends to create new memories with.
2007-01-25 08:58:02
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answered by notmarriednochildren 4
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2016-11-27 01:46:40
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answered by ? 4
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I think it depends on the reason the two of you aren't friends any longer. If it is something childish, then yeah feel bad and do your best to talk things through. But if it was something major, then no, her loss. And as far as your other friends go, don't feel bad for them, one day they will open their eyes and realize what she has done to them. But don't drive them away from you, just when you are around them, act like it doesn't bother you that you are not friends with her anymore. Don't make it drag them down too.
2007-01-25 08:57:59
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answered by melody g 3
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i know how you feel the exact same thing happened between me and one of my best friends we let some one else come between us and it pushed our friendship out the door we were not friends for a whole 6 months and once i asked her why she was ditching all her other friends just because we weer not friends any more and she said because it would not feel right with you gone so she said lets just redo our friendship because i miss you i mean if you miss her you should let her know how you feel and hope that she feels the same way about you and then from there yuou and her should just try to piece everything togther little by little until it gets fixed
2007-01-25 08:57:45
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answered by Anonymous
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You have a right to be sad dont worry however you can also try and think of ways to solve this situtation or to fix your positition. And when all else fails try and cheer up and find some new friends if you need to. Just remember that your young and you cant go through life totally miserable.
Good Luck
2007-01-25 08:56:26
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answered by baby gurl 2
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it does suck, but no u shouldnt feel bad. if she really wanted ur friendship she would have dumped it like that. she'll realize who her REAL friends are when its too late.
in the mean time, dont be depressed, make new friends or hang out with the ones she ditched.
dont put effort into a friendship that the other person isnt showing the effort back.
ur gunna gain and lose friends, its never easy but u deal with it.it'll make u stronger
2007-01-25 09:05:49
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answered by Anonymous
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You should have some sort of feeling because if the fact that you ladies are not friends anymore. You should not blame yourself for the girl that ditched you and your other friends actions. You shouldn't feel bad if you didn't do anything wrong.
2007-01-25 09:00:03
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answered by kjjvjj06 1
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It's ok to still be upset about it. These things take time. Try not to drive your friends away though; you need true friends right now. It's fine that you're worrying about your other friends, but I don't think there's anything you can do. If they still want to be friends with her then I doubt you can change their minds without turning them against you. If she hurts them too then you'll just have to be there for each other.
2007-01-25 08:55:05
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answered by coldasyou213 2
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In order for other people to like you, you need to like yourself. Worry about your own self and focus on what you want to achieve in life, for example, grades, college, being physically fit, and not quite so much on what could potentially happen to your friends. Not everything in your life can be controlled, learn to accept that and focus on the things you can control. Friends come and go, some stick around-cherish those. That is the way life is. Sorry, life isn't fair. It took me a long time to learn that.
Good luck:) Cheer up, you have your life ahead of you!
2007-01-25 08:57:04
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answered by Jiselley 2
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