my bf and i want to get married. we both know its right, so we find it pointless to wait. has any of you got married at 18 and regreted it?
2007-01-25 08:44:41 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No but I know a lot of people that did regret it..and usally after yrs of marriage and children. They try to go back and relive the lost years...but it's too late..
Why not just get engaged for a few yrs to make sure ?
2007-01-25 08:52:54 · answer #1 · answered by whatelsewhatever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married at 18. Marriage is noting to jump into.If you both know its right then you can wait a year or two. I'm coming up on my second anniversary here in about 3 months. I regret marriage at such a young age every day of my life. But I have made my bed and now i am forced to lie in it. Don't make the same mistake I did. If you are truly in love you can wait. Marriage is just a title. Don't get married for the sake of saying you are.
2007-01-25 09:11:46 · answer #2 · answered by Cathy L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a lot of people who got married really early and had a really hard time. But then I know some who really had a great life. When you are 18 you are still really dependant on your parents whether you like to acknowladge it or not.
Do you have a place to stay(other than a parent's house)? Do you have a steady income? Do you have insurance? Do you have a reliable car? All of this stuff comes into play. I personally think that 18 is too young. Since that is the age most kids move out of their parent's houses, you haven't really had experience with living on your own, just by yourself.
Think about it, I don't want to freak you out but can you see yourself with him twenty years from now? Fifty years from now? heck, even five years from now?
I would have to tell you to wait, not because you'll regret it, but because you are so young. You may go through with it and stay married until you die, but think about what your plans for live were before this man came into the picture, and talk to him about what his plans were before you came into his. If the plans for either one of you have changed from before you have some real talking to do. Don't abandon your dreams and hopes for him, anything is acheivable if you stick to it, and I'm not trying to make this sound like a sappy self help answer either.
If you really want to do something, marriage shouldn't hold you back from it, and if he doesn't want to help you out with you dream, then maybe getting married isn't what's in the plans for you right now.
I wish you the best of luck with this hon.
2007-01-25 09:04:03 · answer #3 · answered by Lola 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married at 18 and proud to say me and my husband have been married for almost 9 years. They were not all wonderful but I dont regret a minute of them. You see at 18 you still have a lot of growing up to do just remember to do it together. I might add to that we have 3 beutiful daughters! Good Luck
2007-01-25 09:48:07 · answer #4 · answered by Jack 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well my 1 sister who is 44 now got married 2 months before her 18th birthday..She has been married almost 27 yrs and the marriage wasnt always great for her cause of physical abuse for about the first 12 yrs of her marriage..She left him for a few months and he got help and she went back to him..There is no physical abuse now but i still dont think her marriage is that great from what i hear from other family members and i dont know if she regrets getting married at 18 but im sure she does cause of yrs of physical abuse
2007-01-25 09:01:15 · answer #5 · answered by lauren l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife got pregnant to a guy at 14. After two babies, she married another guy when she was 17. Lasted 6 months. Married again at 19. Divorced at 21. She was 23 when we met, with 4 kids. 18 is entirely to young and immature.
2007-01-25 09:24:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I was married to my child hood sweetheart, and it did not last that long, missed out on all the stuff that my friends were doing, to set up house right after i graduated from school, I am sure that if you are both done with parties, and sown your oats then I wish you both the best of luck, otherwise, stay engaged for a while and make sure that you are truly with the one you want to be with, remember that people change, your still in your childhood, and will prolly end up changing your lifes directions, hopefully they will change in the right direction
2007-01-25 09:02:02 · answer #7 · answered by J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married when I just turned 19. It will be 10 years for us in March, and we're still going strong. :)
Whatever you do, just make sure its right for you...and him. If you think its the right thing to do, then you shouldn't have a worry that you might regret it in the future. Think about that....
2007-01-25 08:54:44 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is the BEST decision....
JUST remember that LIFE has problems and that got nothing to do with you age...
Even if you both marry at 38 or 68 still would have problems...
SO, whenever U got any problems, try to solve it as those people in age 38 or 68 would do....
2007-01-25 08:56:48 · answer #9 · answered by Richard 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think we all have regrets.But me and my Husband have been together since we was 15 we are now 36 and 37 we are the only couple out of his hole family who has only been married once.You have to be totally committed and Love each other and know that Marriage is VERY hard.
2007-01-25 08:54:41 · answer #10 · answered by Dew 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋