I'm 25 years old, and i've been with my husband since I was 15. we have always had the affection but when he came back from the split which was only a week,he didn't want the affection cause he felt it was a routine and got him no where. He said I took him for granted but if all is forgiven why can't he kiss me or say I love you . I need to hear it and feel the love. But if I talk about it he says it's all about me.I just do not understand what happen that week he was gone.DO you think he does really still love me?He not mean or anything. But how can you make love and have no affection in your day to day life?
2007-01-25 08:42:34 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
maybe you should ask him if he really loves you
2007-01-25 08:48:02 · answer #1 · answered by gabby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'm not sure that I understand waht the question is, why did you have a split? He may just need some space, women tend to think about everything WAY more then men do, OR maybe he is trying to push you away. If you are married, it's worth giving him space and time. But if he doesn't come around, and only you can decide when that should be, then you can't wait forever on someone who doesn't give you affection, because everyone deserves that!
2007-01-25 16:50:53 · answer #2 · answered by Ms Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is hurt for real? I don't know what happened with you two. He should be nice to you if he said he forgives you...but then sometimes it takes people a little bit of time to get over their hurt. Maybe he is sensitive? I would grant him some time, then if nothing changes in a couple of weeks, sit him down for a serious talk and let him know that he needs to get over his pain.....if he really loves you, he should be affectionate naturally. I hope you can work it out. Guys don't need to have feelings for someone to have sex with them, most guys anyway, they usually are thinking about their "units" before they think with their heads.
2007-01-25 17:06:50 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone deserves to have affection in their romantic relationships. I believe that there are different "languages" of love - some ppl feel loved by physical touch, some by words of affirmation, some by acts of kindness....the list goes on & is often more than one. If your love language is physical touch and you need that to feel loved by your partner - you should explain that to him. Relationships must have compromise - it's not all about you, it's all about the both of you. I don't think asking for affirmation of his love for you is something that should be withheld on the grounds of it being "routine." My great grandparents have been married for 70 years and they still show love to eachother. You shouldn't have to earn affection from your mate. He may still love you very much - but you should feel the love, and not just be told about it.
2007-01-25 16:59:03 · answer #4 · answered by carpediemamt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be in that week he met someone and relised he was better off with you or he is just stuck ina rut. try and woo him and after a while if things aint changed get down right in his face to find the problem
2007-01-25 16:52:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is just bored with you. He still loves you, but he is missing out being with other girls...
2007-01-25 16:49:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sex is sex.... love is changeable... and sounds like he is bored... and it does sound like it is all about you... you can forgive and not forget...
2007-01-25 16:49:42 · answer #7 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dunno i guess just keep talking to him....reassure him u love him. i wish i knew i'm sorry.
2007-01-25 16:50:39 · answer #8 · answered by mr_fury666 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋