im a sophomore in high school and al the other guys talk about how much they want to have sex...but i dont really feel that way. I mean down the road, i will, but everyone is talkinmg about it constantly. HELP?
2007-01-25 08:32:28 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
You don't need help, sweetie. I teach high school health and sex education and I gotta tell you, the majority of my guys feel just as you do. The ones who share this feeling tend to be the brightest kids who have strong families and truly realize just how much they are risking by taking on sex at their age. Sure, they all want to have sex, and think about it and talk about it all of the time, but when it comes down to it, they are smart enough to know it's more serious than just a roll. I have guys in my classes that would LITERALLY ride a bike off of a cliff if someone told them it was fun or that everyone else was doing it or that they should be doing it. Then, I have those guys who would love to watch someone else ride a bike off of a cliff, or talk about how fun it would be to ride a bike off of a cliff, but wouldn't actually if came down to it because they realize it's not a smart thing to do. When the time is right you'll know it. You won't have any doubts. Good for you for not being one of the smart ones!!
2007-01-25 15:15:32 · answer #1 · answered by chrissy25 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a sophomore too, i'm not pressed like everyone else is. Its just sex, they worship it like a god. Its perfectly normal. It'll happen when it happens. There is not point talking about something that won't happen for a while. As sophomores in high school we really shouldn't be ready for sex yet. You are ready, when you can handle any consequences. When I say consequences I mean a baby, or an STD. Its better not to risk getting a girl pregnant if your under 18, since how are you gonna take care of it?
2007-01-25 08:45:16 · answer #2 · answered by Donovan G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's OK, I feel the same way. I'm in my junior year and still I don't plan on having sex until I get married. I know I don't want to have to pay almost $200 a month on baby supplies, and ruin the rest of my life for a 5 minutes in heaven game. The way I see it is that you don't want that to happen to you. You're actually kind of smart thinking that way. I'm sure you'll get plenty of sex when you get older. Also, if someone asks you if you ever did it, tell them no and be proud of it.
2007-01-26 10:09:46 · answer #3 · answered by bAsic LiFE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it just because others are talking about it... you'll find that most of them are ONLY talking about it... also those who talk about it the loudest are doing it the least.. the ones who are more subtle will be more likely to know what they are talking about... I would listen to what is being said out of curiosity but know that the second anyone starts bragging about how good they were... they are more than likely lying. You'll know when you are ready...going into it too early is more than likely to give you some bad experiences of it and put you off... take everything at your own pace... you'll be far more comfortable in the long run..
2007-01-25 08:51:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is absoulutely normal. Those other guys are probably 80% hot air and only learned the words from movies or other guys who saw a dirty movie. You take your time and enjoy life while you are young. Sex is a huge responsibility emotionally and physically, and sometimes financially if you are not carefull enough. You are wise to be honest with yourself and not forcing yourself to do something you are not ready for. There are more guys out there like you that just don't say anything because they are embarassed. Good job for being a strong individual.
2007-01-25 08:42:18 · answer #5 · answered by Yomi 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it is perfectly fine to feel the way you do. I know when I was in high school (14 years ago) My friends and I weren't ready for sex either. Just let the others talk and you do what YOU want to do. When you're ready you will know it I promise you. You will also be glad that you waited for the right person and not just someone that you felt you had to sleep with to be "one of the guys". When the right person comes you'll know it and it will be wonderful.
2007-01-25 08:39:17 · answer #6 · answered by anaura2 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Absolutely! I think it's smarter not to have sex if you have doubts than make yourself go through with it. Sex is supposed to be fun and special, so why do it if you're not into it, if you're nervous, if you have doubts, etc. And the other thing is: I quit my job as a sex educator last week and unless the stats have changed in the last week, not any more than half of your peers at your age are sexually active. So some of those guys are doing it...and the other half are liars!
2007-01-25 08:38:20 · answer #7 · answered by shannonscorpio 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I can't see nothing wrong... if you don't wanna bump & grind.. (sing it with me)
Normalcy is all relative anyway. Maybe you're just unique.
If you meet someone you want to sleep with, and they want to sleep with you, it'll probably happen and this question will be a distant memory.
It's better not to let thoughts of sex consume you anyway. It's annoying, not only to your sexually frustrated self, but to those around you with which you cannot stop talking about sex.
And always.... ALWAYS wrap it up!
2007-01-26 09:00:18 · answer #8 · answered by Got rice? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is total normal there hormone got the best of them , but it is ok when your you would know worry about have fun as a teen and not the preasure of peers peace dude email anytime if you need someone to talk too.
2007-01-25 08:40:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
what you are feeling is very normal. wanting to wait until you are ready is a great way to be. not many young men are like so. this is just a gret way to respect and feel good about yourself. when they talk just change the subject or pretend you have something else to do and leave the conversation.
2007-01-25 08:43:03 · answer #10 · answered by tracypropes 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋