I cook, clean, wash the clothes, I quit drinking and smoking. I go to work everyday, then come home and prepar dinner. Yet my wife still went out and found a scrub to cheat on me with. Why?
2007-01-25 08:16:32 · 19 answers · asked by Kdog 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am sorry. . . sometimes it just happens that way. The things that we want people to see in us- they never see. People always think that the grass is much greener on the other side. I don't know what to say, but I hope you know that God puts people in our lives for a reason and a season. So count it all joy that you quit drinking and smoking. Don't go back to your old ways . . . everything happens for a reason. I wouldn't stay with her though. . .just let that go and find someone that will appreciate you. Life is short and we are responsible for our own happiness. No need of staying in something that will make us unhappy. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-01-25 08:25:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's her own problem, even if you were doing something wrong, NOTHING justifies cheating. She's the one with the problems. It was very gracious and caring of you to quit smoking and drinking and start helping out around the house, really, kudos to you. You've done your part and now it's up to her and she cheated with some scmum bag and now you're thinking, well was that good enough or not? I suggest marriage counseling and working on your marriage, but if you can't forgive her and want to get a divorce, I can't say that I blame you. Good luck and keep your chin up!
2007-01-25 16:30:02 · answer #2 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a situation similar to what you are going through. My ex did nothing all day, and partied all night, and leave me to take care of things, and our kids. We ended up divorcing when she told me she would not do anything to save the marriage. I found out later she had been cheating on me for the last four years of the marriage. Now three years later, I am better off without her, both emotionally and financially
2007-01-25 16:36:36 · answer #3 · answered by Todd B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because, despite all your efforts at housekeeping, you're not meeting her needs. A maid could cook, clean, wash clothes and fix dinner. That's not what a husband is. I would seriously think about marriage counseling, because the affair isn't the illness in the marriage, it's a symptom of whatever's wrong. You've got to find out what's wrong in your marriage, and then fix it. Best of luck to you.
BTW, I am in no way condoning your wife for cheating....vows are vows, and a promise is a promise. She promised to remain faithful to you, and hasn't. She'll need to regain your trust for your marriage to work.
2007-01-25 16:28:39 · answer #4 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She's taking advantage of you.....You need to file for divorce and move on* If she wants a "scrub" to cheat with..she can have all the scrubs she wants.......You deserve someone that will Appreciate You and All that You Do* Don't give up hope......you'll find her* but leave this lil missy asap* What a skank*
2007-01-25 16:25:22 · answer #5 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to ask your wife that question you need to ask why?
because you can go file for a divorce and move on and everything but is that what you truly want. try to talk to her maybe what she did was a stupid mistake. sometimes crazy things happens in our lives and we don't understand why but yet they happen for a reason to tell us sth and teach us.but the fact is if it was one of those stupid things and you forgive her, do you think you can forget. you need to find closure before you even think of moving on.then when you get your answer from her you will and only you will know what to do not somebody else.
2007-01-25 16:37:34 · answer #6 · answered by sassy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there sometimes can be no reasoning why we are let down by our nearest and dearest. all we can do in situations like this is brush ourseleves off start again and make them realise what they threw away. Because ultimately that is and will be the best revenge. Don't let this ruin your life, let it make your life and force you to move on and find true happiness. Believe me I know.
2007-01-25 16:24:29 · answer #7 · answered by shaunie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you need to ask your self an honest question.... is this all you looking at, i dont mean to put you down but most people say they did all that but their spouse still leave them ETC.....now if you are honestly about what you said you are then why you hang around with her for? find some one else appriciate you for what you giving to.....your wife will learn a hard lesson in life down the road, trust me what comes around goes around good luck bud
2007-01-25 17:38:45 · answer #8 · answered by kevin n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your marriage is failing because you only talk about what you do, and not what you feel. Or, maybe your marriage is failing because you chose to marry a woman who cheats on you.
2007-01-25 16:23:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
DO you spend all your time on Yahoo Answers? Just Kidding! Yu can find someone better, you seem like a nice guy!
2007-01-25 16:31:34 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋