suddenly finding my hubby repulsive {married ladies, please}?

Question

We've been married 12 years, we are both 32. I've always thought of my hubby as attractive. We have always had a healthy relationship, except for the past few months.
For some reason, and I don't know what that reason is, I have been unresponsive to him. I pull away, because I find him so repulsive. I keep thinking that his entire body is dirty and I don't want it touching mine.
I have no reason to believe that he is dirty. He showers. He brushes his teeth.
Have any of you felt this way? And if so, what have you done about it?

Answer 1

It is the same for all sex's, I had an ex and she was physically HOTT, but after awhile her bad attitude (insulting and bitchy 24/7) turned me off to the point I too found her physically repulsive and lost all desire to bang.

Answer 2

Let me start by saying that I can't believe this is the first time this has happened to you in 12 years. I've been married for 10 years and it has happened to me over the years. Normally our sex life is very healthy but every once in a while I feel like I can't stand him. I think it has to do with the way women are about sex, most of us have to be very comfortable and relaxed to enjoy sex. If there are things that you are unhappy about or stressed about this can effect your sex life. In my experience the feeling always passes, either we get into a big fight and I tell him all the things I was bottling up, or sometimes the feeling just goes away after a little bit of time. You really need to figure out if this is the cause of unresolved issues with your husband that need to be addressed. Or there's always the possibility that your feelings for your husband have changed. I would see if it works itself out and if not I would seek professional help.

Answer 3

Could be lots of things..but I would suggest examining whether some sort of stressful event (could be anything) has changed the way that you view "dirty".

You aren't specific about other instances...but is it possible since this is relatively new, that you have an illness that is making you think that he is unclean. At least the fact that it is now suddenly bothering you should clue you in to possible illness.

Consider that you may be developing an anxiety disorder that is manifesting itself as obsessive compulsive thoughts about dirtiness. This is not rare (3% of the population in general). If this is an anxiety issue (of unknown origin)...talk to your doctor. It is readily treatable.

Of course it may not be...but I thought I would throw it out since 12 years have gone by and NOW you suddenly have a problem.

Look inside and weigh different options.

Answer 4

I think our souls know when our soul mates are cheating. You can feel the film of deception to your very core. I would imagine this is the case with you.

You should talk to him about it and if you have to, beg him to tell you the truth. Just tell him that if he loves you, he will come clean.

Cheating does not mean that he does not love you. It means that he had a chance to get laid and being a man that is sometimes all it takes to mess your head up. It's just a bad thing, but it can be the thing that brings you closer together than ever if there is true love between the two of you.

Again, cheating does not mean the end regardless of who did it, you or him.

Answer 5

Maybe you need to take a look inside yourself and see what it is that is making you look at him this way. Or maybe did he do something that was subtle but has you now feeling this way. Either way you have a lot of soul searching to do. Try making a list of things that made you attracted to him when you first met, and see if you can find those things in him again. Or try looking at new things in him, and try to concentrate on all the good times. I know I only feel this way when my hubby ticks me off.

Answer 6

I dated two or three briefly, none seriously. Then met my hubby, that was all she wrote! Been married 45 yrs in Sept., still in love. Actually, we're more in love now then we were then. Some think that marriage is going to be like one long first date, wrong, it's not. It can be hard work sometimes, but without the hard times, you don't appreciate the good ones. It's well worth it. God bless. <><

Answer 7

If your attitude was what suddenly changed when his actual hygiene didn't, I would say the problem is yours and some therapy might be in order here.

Don't sweat too much over it, just find a good one and get in ASAP. This kind of thing could be a sign of something deeper that has nothing to do with hubby. Best get it checked out.

Answer 8

yes.im not with him anymore he was cheating on me.and some how i didnt know i.t but my soul did.now he is divorced from the other woman.and with another.i feel there has to be a reason for the way you feel you really need to sit down and think about why.i always do my best thinking in a nice hot bubble bath try it .and good luck to you.

Answer 9

I felt that way with my ex-husband. It wasn't that I thought he was dirty- I had fallen out of love with him and I didn't want him to kiss me. I didn't want him to touch me. When we did have sex I wouldn't kiss him- it was almost like I just wanted him to hurry up and get it over with and then I would go in the bathroom and throw up. That all ended when I left him. Do you still love your husband?

Answer 10

my ex husbands attitude and his bathroom manners turned me off to him, he just disgusted me when I thought of being with him, intimately. He would walk out of the bathroom after going #2 and be naked with a red ring around his a**, it was such a turn off and how he had conversations to his mother about pinching a loaf, how gross.


well as you can tell, what I did about it was to make him an ex, of course that was only one of the small reasons why I left him.