My mom met one of her old students,(my mom used to teach at Summerville High School) and she decided to have him over for Thanksgiving(he's 18). When she went to pick him up she saw that his apartment was a mess. So she let him spend the night for a day.Well, that day turned into him moving in with us. Now he acts like he owns the house, he eats as much as he pleases, he harasses me and my little sister, he walks around the house with his dirty shoes on, barges into my room (which I think is the worst because I'm a high school girl with an 18 year old coming into my room without permission), he yells rude comments at me while I'm in the shower, he puts his music on a full blast in the middle of a school night. And he sleeps till noon and walks around the house at night, trashes his room (our guestroom), and tries to beat me and my sister up. And on top of all this he doesn't have a job, a car, or a licence. And has been to jail. And my mom doesn't do a thing about it. What should I do?
2007-01-25 08:05:12 · 31 answers · asked by cellularchitchat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Go to your school counselor right away. Nothing good can come from this situation. God Bless
2007-01-25 08:14:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi ccc
You don't mention if you have a father or not.
If not then it may just be that your mom likes the idea of a young man around the house, but she must be made aware of how this is affecting you & your sister. try talking to her calmly & explain to her that some of the things that are happening are not acceptable to you, insist that your privacy etc is respected.
If you speak about your feelings rather than just accusing him of everything then I am sure your mom will understand your needs more & will realise that you are growing up
Try to avoid confrontation with him & don't get into shouting matches.
If he ever hits you or your sister or threatens you in any way, then go to a neighbour or talk to a teacher or anyone in authority.
Don't put up with it ...
I hope you work things out with your mom, & remember she may need your help too sometimes....
2007-01-29 13:49:39 · answer #2 · answered by healer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time he tries to hit you call the cops. Tell them your mom is not home and he is hurting you.
Explain to your mom you know now why his place was a mess all the time. He is a looser and she is not helping him...she is a crutch. Sometimes men like that just use other people, they are not learning anything because life did not treat them right.
My daughter moved her boyfriend in my house with my permission, but after a few months of me working him in the yard he decited he would leave. Men like that just want a free ride.
So instead of telling him you do not like the way he is using your mom start asking him to help you do stuff around the house. Doing his laundery for one. When you wash clothes do not wash is. Ask him if he will help you....Wash the dishes, fold clothes, fold socks, and when he does not tell your mom you ask him to help you but he said no.... Also have you mom ask him to do things around the house that need to be done.
Clean out the garage, mow the lawn, Paint that room, clean that closet,...he will be gone in no time.
OH and about him barging into your room, put tacks in front of your door so he steps on them when he comes in...LOL
2007-01-25 08:27:06 · answer #3 · answered by jeeccentricx2 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your mom needs a wake up call. She probably feels really sorry for him and that's why she can't bring herself to kick him out. You should sit down with your mom and tell her how you feel without getting all worked up. If she sees that you are approaching her like an adult she will be more willing to hear out your case and take in into some deep consideration. Remember, quiet place, just the two of you, and let her know everything that's going on. Remind her that you and your sis are "her children" not this guy. If she insists on letting him stay there she can atleast set some ground rules down.
2007-02-02 05:04:58 · answer #4 · answered by madmomma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where ear plugs to bed and get into some activities outside the house so you don't have to see him. Oh yea get a lock for your door cause he sounds slightly interested in you. Nothing he has to say is so important that he needs to talk to you while you shower. Talk to your mom. If she thinks you like him or he likes you, more than likely she'll put him out or keep a close eye on him to keep you two from doing anything. Kids arguing like brother and sister are no threat. Anthing more needs to be taken seriously.
2007-02-02 05:10:19 · answer #5 · answered by lil Trouble 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want you to listen to me carefully. You could be in serious danger. It seems you have already discussed this with your mother and she has done nothing and does not intend to do anything.
I agree with one thing. You can either report it to a school counselor (but then they may just call your mother in) OR better yet, I suggest you call directly to CHILD PROTECTIVE SERVICES. You can find the number in the phone book probably under County Services Department of Human Services (DHS) or just call 411 and ask for CPS. The operator may even ask you if it's an emergency. Say yes.
What you are describing is sexual harassment and physical battery. You can also call the police. This punk may be wanted by the police or could even be a sexual predator. Do something now. Please.
2007-01-31 17:08:10 · answer #6 · answered by themerchantprincess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does your mom let him live there? Next time he barges in your room, kick him in the balls. Show this bastard that you won't be ruled or intimidated. He sounds to me like the kind that lashes out at women because he feels weak and insecure around men. So teach him to be weak and insecure around women, too. Unless he's just an asshole, in which case have the cops or a couple friends explain the facts of life to him.
2007-01-25 08:16:55 · answer #7 · answered by ian_eadgbe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is not behaving like the adult that she is. I think your mom is having her sexual needs full-filled by this insensitive and unappreciative person. How else would you explain her behavior towards him? I suggest you confront your mother and tell her exactly what you are thinking (everything).
Your mother should be a mother always before being a woman. Her responsibility is her own kids and not somebody 's kids regardless of the circumstances. A mother should never put her kids in jeopardy for the only purpose of helping an out of control outsider.
2007-01-31 16:52:07 · answer #8 · answered by Abby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I really sympatize with your plight. It appears that your mom has taken her dedication as a teacher way over the top.
So much so that she has completely forgotten about her obligations as a mom, to provide a safe, secure & nurturing environment for her children to thrive, & grow in.
How can she be so callous as to put the needs of an outsider before the needs of her own kids?
He is obviously a juvenile delinquent & a mooch, & your mom is letting him walk all over her. I bet if you tried any of his behaviours your mom would be all over you like stink on a skunk.
But she seems to be turning a blind eye.
So how do you get this person to stop annoying you?
In as calm a manner as you can, you tell your mom that she has allowed this fool to disrupt your home long enough, & that she needs to send him back to his trashy appartment if he still has it, & if he doesn't then she can give him a ride down to the nearest homeless shelter.
If she has some kind of unresolved issues with this kid, then she needs to realize that enabling his worthless behaviour is not going to change him, & she needs to focus her attention on her own kids.
If she won't listen to you, then show her this answer so she can read these words: SHAME ON YOU MOM!
Shame on you for putting the wants of others before the needs of your own children.
I will be praying that she will listen to you, & comes to her senses.
2007-01-25 10:30:41 · answer #9 · answered by No More 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Explain the situation to your mom and she doesnt listen, you and your sister should gang up on him.make him want to leave.in the middle of the nite,throw water on him,when hes in the shower throw cold water over the shower on to him.wash his colored clothes in bleach. Put a lock on your room door.play your music louder than his.go in his room and take the cords out his radio,or take it and sell it,make some money off his stuff and buy you something that you and your sister deserve! Hes nobodys boss tell that fool hes not a real man!
2007-02-01 07:35:10 · answer #10 · answered by poopsywickle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was your Mother thinking off, when she invited this guy to share your house, does she know what he is like with you and your sister? if not you should tell her about it, and if she does not get him out of the house, you should call the police and report him for abusing you and your sister. I hope that you can find a solution to your problem as soon as possible or else something is going to happen to you or your sister, which I hope not. Good Luck.
2007-01-30 18:05:15 · answer #11 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋