Do you think having to repeat a year of highschool is something to be ashamed of?

Question

My parents keep telling their friends how I failed, and whenever someone asks me about it I feel too embarrassed to answer. When I get to school, I think there will be people that will look down on me and rub it in my face. What should I do?

I'm planning on pulling my head in this year, and working really hard.

Answer 1

Unfortunately yes.
BUT...
Keep your grade point average high and graduate at the top of your new class;
and show them who is the smarter and better person.
Easiest thing for you to do, is to do your best on all of your homework; ace your homework, you ace your tests.
Once you start getting those "A's", respect will shoot up.
good luck kiddo.

Answer 2

Good for you for setting a goal to work hard!!! Please don't be ashamed of repeating a year. Shame on your parents for saying those things!!! They should be supporting you, not demeaning you in that way.

I might be wrong, but I don't think people at school will make a big deal out of it. You aren't the only one that has had to repeat, and it happens for many reasons - - - - from missing too many days to struggling over algebra and biology. Make sure you ask the teacher when you do not understand something. And if you have touble passing the tests, then ask the teacher to help you come up with some good study tips. As long as they know you are trying, you'll come out ahead.

Just hold your head up high and be proud of who you are and your effort to hang in there, no matter what. You aren't a quitter and that's what will get you far in life, my friend!

Answer 3

One year in your life is not that bad consider everyone lives to 80 years of age.

The only thing is the reason and the consequence of the one year.

If you were lazy and fooling around that cause you to repeat, and you still doesn't change your mind set. Then it is the thing to be ashamed of.

But if you learn your lesson and now get the right attitude and work hard, then it is a good thing. because you will do well not only in high school but live in general.

Consider what your parent doing is hurtful but it is a motivation for you to propell yourself upward.

You will redeem yourself once you show them you can do better and better as the years go.

Good luck!

Answer 4

First, you should tell your parents that telling their friends that you failed, makes you feel like a faliure, and that your ego doesn't need another shot. I'm sure you already feel bad enough without them helping you.

Second, don't feel bad. In high school, it's so hard to figure out who's in what class, that most of your friends/classmates don't know, unless you've told them.

Don't say you failed, say you wern't happy with your grades, and decided to repeat the year to improve your g.p.a, so when you apply to universities, they will not only see good grades, but your willingness to improve yourself.

I did a year over in high school, and it wasn't so bad. I was accepted to a great university, and the world didn't end.

Just ask your parents to lay off the guilt, that's not going to help you strive for better grades.

Good luck, and I hope you enjoy the rest of high school. Just remember, that this is only 4-5 years of your life, a TINY speck of your life. It's what you make of and do with your life that counts in the end.

Hope that helps!

Answer 5

I would have to ask the parents if they are supporting you like you need. They are partly responsiblle for your grades because they do not give you positive feedback, but make sure that this setback is a lesson learned so that you won't have to face the humiliation again later. Ask yourself why you have not valued school. Your friends should be holding you accountable not complaining about school because you need the drive to succeed. Is there other relationship problems that take away your attention? Maybe the relationships at home need work. It may be good to find a positve mentor to help you next year...Best wishes

Answer 6

What year are you in? If you failed your freshman year you might not of been prepared for high school well enough and should of stayed back in an earlier year. Then it should not be your fault. The teachers should of seen that you were not ready for it.

If it is just because you were being lazy (which I can agree with) this is the most important years of your life and graduating is the one thing that will get you jobs. Trust me I slacked of the 2nd half of my junior year and most of my senior year and wish I would have tried a little harder.

Answer 7

It really depends on the circumstances. If there were extenuating circumstances, like someone in the family dying, or a medical reason, then no. If you just didn't understand the material but worked at it, then it's nothing to be ashamed of, you just met your match, everyone has weaknesses. Someone I went to school with was one of the smartest people I knew, but she stunk at math, and it cost her. There's nothing to be ashamed of there.

If you failed because you didn't try, then that's another story. Just re-apply yourself and work as hard as you need to. Yes, there will be people that will give you a hard time about it, but they are a bunch of jack***es and you should ignore them and focus on what you need to do.

Your parents aren't helping you by telling their friends about how you failed, they should be supporting you in this. Talk to them about how you feel and ask them to stop.

Answer 8

Remember you are not a failure unless you quit. Just own up to the reason why you have to repeat the year and make sure those reasons don't happen again. If it bothers you about you're parents telling their friends you failed maybe you should talk to them and let them know that it bothers you. Let them know you realize why you have to repeat and what you plan on doing about it. If anyone looks down on you just say..."I messed up but now I have my act together."

Answer 9

Do your parents reliese how it is making you feel, when they talk to their friends about how you failed, because I know I would be upset by their behaviour, tell them how you feel. In regards to having to repeat a year, hold your head high don't let other peoples perceptions get you down, you have another opportunity to get really good grades, I know it sucks because it happened to me, like you said focus on your goal of working really hard this year instead.

Answer 10

If you were a slacker, yes, it is something to be ashamed of. If you have a learning disability and can't get the help you need, it's nothing to be ashamed of.

What you can do to those who look down on you is to ignore them and work your butt off and show everyone that you can live up to your true potential. Once you get to college, no one will care that you repeated a grade - no one will know either.

Answer 11

I agree with kbraun21, she is very right with her answer and to be honest with you your parents needs to show more support and not bashing you in front of your friends.
I mean repeating high school sounds bad and all, but in actuallity it aint that bad after all. All you need to remember is that you need to keep your head up and dont worry what other folks have to say to you. I know that in high school it is hard to try to stay focus and be who you want to be since high school years are the years when you really know who your TRUE friends are. All I have to say is that you need to keep your head up and surround yourself with positive people who can motivate you!!!