im really a shy person and people mistake that for snobiness. im really not snoby i just find it hard to be myself around other people, because i dont want them to make fun of me. I need some tips on how to be more outgoing. Thanks everyone.
2007-01-25 07:50:09 · 10 answers · asked by morenita12162 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I used to have the same problem. I was made fun of so much growing up that I was really cynical. Even when people complimented me, I was always waiting for them to put me down. So I was the shy girl that everyone thought was stuck up.
What you need is self confidence, and the only way you're going to gain that is on your own. You need to figure out what you like about yourself and be proud of it. Wear clothes that make you feel good about yourself. When you feel good about yourself, it makes you confident and people can see it in the way you carry yourself. It's in your posture (shoulders back, spine straight, head held high), the way you look people in the eyes when they're speaking to you, the way you walk (strong, confident strides, not looking at the ground) and the way your eyes light up when you smile.
Everyone goofs up sometimes and says stupid things. Everyone trips over their own feet or drops things. But if you can adopt a nonchalant attitude about your mistakes and learn to laugh at yourself, then no one else can make fun of you because you've taken that power away from them.
2007-01-25 08:10:03 · answer #1 · answered by Andrea F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to make the first step. If you find someone interesting start the conversation by saying " Hi, I'm (your name), what's your". You have to take the initiative if you want to break your shyness. You'll soon realize that once you open up a bit others around you will also.
2007-01-25 07:59:06 · answer #2 · answered by Michael K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe the pain of shyness ever goes away - it hasn't for me. I, too, was called a snob.
I just try to project my shyness on whomever I am talking/interacting with. I never want them to feel the way I do when waves of shyness were drowning me. There is a 50% chance they are shy anyway.
When you do this, you think about them rather than yourself. Shyness is very egocentric. Try it and see what happens.
Good luck, sweetie.
2007-01-25 08:18:14 · answer #3 · answered by txkathidy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truth isif you act like yourself and they dont like you then they arent your type of friends key is to find people that makeyou laugh and feel good about being yourself. Be yourself and they will cometo you.
2007-01-25 07:58:39 · answer #4 · answered by teapea102 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-06-21 15:51:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
start out conversation and get really involved
laugh
say hi to people
2007-01-25 08:01:34 · answer #6 · answered by zestful12 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you should get to know them and take things from there. I find it easer to open up with someone the longer I get to know them. Take things at your own passe. good luck.....
2007-01-25 07:57:12 · answer #7 · answered by ladyjamie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think more people will talk to you just be yourself. Trust me
2007-01-25 07:57:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say **** it and be yourself if they don't like it tough if they do then those are your have friends for life.....thats all everyone needs to do
2007-01-25 07:57:57 · answer #9 · answered by I love my BmW 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself and if others dont like it--oh well, they will get over it.
2007-01-25 07:58:55 · answer #10 · answered by nickle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋