I hATE HIM!?

Question

Ok, I go to this new school. And last year I was in this group for something advanced that they were going to choose me from for next year. Since I moved, I didn't get invited to the advanced prgram. (If I were in my old school, I would have been invited.) I'm not in advanced math, so anyways, yesterday I went to my counsler and was talking to him about something. All of a sudden, he brings up my grades. He's like "How are your grades?" I'm like "They're good, I make the honor roll". I get 3.3 or higher. He looks at them and he's like "They're okay."

So, then today, I asked him for an application for that advanced program. He's like, "Are you in advanced math?" I'm like "No, I have her 5th period" He's like, "Only the advanced math kids got invited. I don't think you're going to make it. I'll give you an application, but you're chances are low".

What should I do? I feel sooo ostupid!!! I want to be in it, but since he told me he doesn't think I'm going to make it, I'm not sure.

He always makes me feel sooooooooooo stupid.
And all my other siblings are REALLY smart. They get 4.0s and everything, and I don't want my parents or them to see me as the stupid one. Because I'm not in advanced math, or that I couldn't get into that program because I'm not in advanced math, and I'm nto smart enough. I have the application with me, should I try it? I'm soo discoraged and stupid. What do I do?!

Should I just not join and finish my regular schooling

Answer 1

ALL you can do is try your best. He might not even be the one making the decision and have nothing to do with deciding who makes it and who does not. Don't stress...some people make other people feel inferior to give themselves a boost! You will have this all your life, from bosses to in-laws, don't let it shake your grounding. You have to learn to overlook it as the other persons need to make themselves feel better. They have the problem, NOT YOU! GOOD LUCK!
BTW..you might want to change your (what I am assuming is) real name under your avatar! It is not advisable to give this kind of information on line...safety first!

Answer 2

Okay honey first of all he's a jerk. You have nothing to prove to anyone except yourself. If your parents or counselor can't see how intelligent you are then screw them. You have the application fill it out. Follow the steps needed to be considered for the program. If possible go to the principal and explain how he degraded you (make an appt. to see him and tell your parents what he said) and you don't feel that it proactive, productive or positive which is what a counselor should be. If you were my daughter and you told me something like that I would be at that school the next day unless he was still there I leave work to come there that day. If your parents truly love and care about you they are not going to let someone berate you. They will defend you. 3.3 GPA is wonderful. And stop comparing yourself to your siblings you are not them and they are not you. You may live in the same house and raised by the same parents but you live different lives and are NOT THE SAME. What will happen to one person may not happen to the other, sharing DNA is no exception to the rule. Stand firm in who you (I know that's hard in H.S. as you don't completely know yourself yet) are, and what your talents are. Don't let anyone steal your joy, parents, siblings, school, Nothing and NO ONE!

Answer 3

If you got accepted to the advanced program back in your old school-why not? Obviously you were in it because you knew what the hell you were doing math wise. So, if he just putting you down, he doesn't the history of your life; old school and the program they have there, so he is just seen it from a narrow point of view-which is since you came to that school. Ignore the bastard, and try it. I mean if you were good enough over there, then you are good enough here. And, you know how technical you are in mathematics-he doesn't. Just because your GPA wasn't a 3.9 or what not, doesn't mean you are not smart-you made the honor roll-it is better than not being on it at all. So, if you believe you can do it-try it, like I said he doesn't know your strengths, or that you were part of a similar program in your old school-and he is probably being biased, because he is full of shiit!

Answer 4

Don't feel so bad. Grades don't mean that much in the long-run (unless they are really bad), you can show your skill in many other ways... submit the application but don't worry if you aren't accepted.

I got a 3.6 coming out of high school and my now girlfriend got a 3.0....but she got into Yale (for college) and I didn't even get into Rice: all because of her extracurricular activity involvement (the only thing I sent them was my grades, because that's all I figured schools like that care about).

So get out there...your GPA is good enough to make you a national honor society member. Many clubs related to math, like business and programming clubs, do not require any sort of special status. Also, outside school, you can teach yourself many math-related skills: Mathematica, any programming language, download e-books on math...and start your own project(s).
Late in high school I taught myself how to make my own 3D games using vector algebra...even though I was not in the most advanced math course senior year (calculus 1 not 2, had a professor who hated me and I got a B- in that class), I still got into colleges that many people who aced those classes didn't...because I sent samples of my game and it became obvious, no matter what my grade was, that I had excellent potential.

Even my father, who graduated Harvard with a 4.0 GPA and generally viewed me as the "dumb sibling", gave me congratulations on my "dumb hobby" of game programming and said I did indeed show I have potential in math.

So don't worry about fighting your counselor or the school system so much....build your skills up by yourself and you'll get to show them off later, trust me.

Answer 5

Complete the applciation and give it back to him. You might want to try to call your old teacher and see if you can get a recommendation from him/her.

Either way dont really worry about this. When everything is all said and done you will probably not even rememeber this little blimp in your life.

Remember only compete with yourself. Do everything the best you can and that all you can do. Your sibling may do somethings better, but I am sure you have your own talents that they can not compete with.

Answer 6

Fill out thae application. SHow him that you can do it. If you don't make just work as hard as you can. You are smart and it isn't fair that you didn't get into the program just because you switched schools. Also you might want to write a letter to the superintendent informing him of the attitdue your guidence consuler is giving you. He is basically telling you you can succed.

Answer 7

This is discrimination, they cant shoot you down like that. I would fill out the application and send it in, if you are willing to put in the work and work hard at it to get good grades then u should be fine. You just have to have that motivation. But yeah they shouldn't be allowed to tell you if u can or cant be in a class, it should be your choice if u want to work that hard. I donno, if I were you I would just be honest with your parents and talk to them about it. Then have them go in to talk to the counselor. This just upsets me cause they are suppose to help you, but they never do, its the same at my school. I hope this helps somewhat, good luck!

Answer 8

Ask him if he will switch you to Advanced Math class. If you do well in that class, ask him to put you in this "What ever it is" you talked about.

Don't ever feel stupid for something like this. Every kid is different. Just because you are not in the advanced classes does not make you stupid. Don't ever think that.

Answer 9

You can take Brandy's or Daniel's advice. However, if you go through life without ever trying things because someone (Anyone) said you wouldn't make it, you may find yourself wondering "what if". What if you had submitted that application and made it after all. If you dint make it, then at least you tried.

Answer 10

just because your grades are a little lower then your siblings does not mean you are stupid. everybody has something they are not as good at as somebody else.

you are not required to have the same opinion of yourself as your coulselor. just because he said you may not get in, doesn't mean you won't. it means HE doesn't think you will. it's just his opinion. it's probly based on your grades, but your grades in other classes don't reflect on math. just do your best.

if you don't get in you are still not stupid. it's not a sin or a crime to not be a genius.