he is so kind and i think he loves me. but i m not sure about myself.
2007-01-25 07:41:15 · 18 answers · asked by silver needs you 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you care about him even a tiny bit, you should let him go. it's not fair.
2007-01-25 07:51:25 · answer #1 · answered by starnami 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess I'd have to know how long the trip was. A few days: you don't necessarily have to miss him. A few weeks: it would be very weird if you didn't miss him. A few months: You should miss him by now!!! I'm thinking this was like a business trip, so... a few days? Just because he's been gone for a few days and you don't miss him, doesn't mean you don't love him. Maybe, you just needed a little rest from him. Not a break!!!!!!! A rest. Maybe you're not one of those people who has to see the person they love all of the time. Maybe you are more the "absence makes the heart grow fonder" people. Personally, I'm not one of those people. I want to see the boy I like every single second of every single day, but you just may not be that type of person. It is totally possible that you love this man, but do not miss him right now. Only you and God really know how you feel. But, I would like to give you a little advice... If you ae not 100% positive that you love him, do not marry him. Wait until you are sure! You want a marriage that is going to last. No need to waste his time if you don't love him.
2007-01-25 08:09:28 · answer #2 · answered by beth d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure how long he has been gone but just because you don't miss him doesn't mean that you don't love him. The fact that you have to ask the Yahoo world if you love him is what would concern me if I was you. If the two of you are attached at the hip and spend every free second together then it might just be normal that you don't terribly miss him....plus, you know he is coming back, right? Maybe that is why. Also, you could be too busy to miss him? Lots of different possibilities for that. As far as you not being sure about your love...do this:
Imagine him never coming back...would that bother you? Or him being with another woman - would that bother you?
If not....re-evaluate your relationship and take consequences.
Good luck...you might just be having a few bad days - that, too shall pass!
2007-01-25 07:57:29 · answer #3 · answered by Yvonne M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when my bofriend and I are away from each other on business trips or whatnot I don't always miss him the way I used to miss my other boyfriends, but I realized that it is because I trust him so much more that I know that when the trip is over he is going to come home to me and so I don't need to worry about missing him or being away from him cas he is always with me in my heart. Its ok not to miss a loved one -it doesn't mean you don't love him still, that is unless you never loved him. But if you are just questioning the love because you don't miss him then don't worry, its natural.
2007-01-25 07:56:11 · answer #4 · answered by cutie pie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Thank you for being honest with yourself.
I'd say that you don't love him, and you probably don't even like him much. If you don't even miss him when he's gone, being married will be hell.
When he comes back, tell him the truth. It'll be a painful moment, but nothing like the pain of marrying the wrong person. You were just captured by the thought that (maybe) he loves you. You don't love him. Let it go.
2007-01-25 07:57:18 · answer #5 · answered by OR1234 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get out of this engagement as soon as possible. You're not doing him any favors by staying. And you're not being true to yourself. You won't be happy. Don't you want to be with someone who makes you feel all mushy inside? You need to have that in the beginning, girl, or you will never make it together. Get out before you have any babies with him. The right one will come along, you will see!!!
2007-01-25 07:54:22 · answer #6 · answered by true blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesn't mean u don't love him, but if your not really sure, maybe u shouldn't marry him. but we don't always miss them when they go away, doesn't mean we don't still love them, but u should think twice about leaving a good man, as really there aren't all that many of them out there, in today's time anyway. your the one your not sure , your the one questioning it ,maybe get some therapy before u do something u may regret later on.
2007-01-25 10:45:10 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hrmmm well I adore my wife but when she goes outa all i think about is food video games and tv. Does that mean I dont love her? Hell no! Means I also love food video games and tv. Only you can say if you love him or not but just because you enjoy some time to your self isnot a good indicator.
2007-01-25 07:55:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW.. if he went on a trip, and you havent even missed him, there is definitly something wrong in your relationship. I wouldnt get married until you work it out.. my husband works long hours and I miss him every nite.
2007-01-25 07:57:27 · answer #9 · answered by A Soldiers Wife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a broad question.. More importantly, is he your true love? You can love many, but who do you want to spend the rest of your life with? That is the questions you need to ask yourself. Does he make you laugh? Have you been in strong relationships before? What are your reasons for saying yes to his question of marriage? Ask yourself these questions, and you will find your answers...
2007-01-25 07:55:13 · answer #10 · answered by Leslie F 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If my guy was gone for just one or two days, I'd be thinking about him. But if he was gone for a whole week, I'd definitely be missing him & wanting to see him again !!!
2007-01-25 07:55:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋