I confronted a cousin about a innapropriate comment made the previous day of the service for the death of my grandpa. We don't talk and i had no way of getting ahold of her after the service. I approached her in a secluded halway and told her my hurt. Apparently someone overheard. My grandmother found out and was quite upset. I felt it was so wrong for her to talk badly about anyone during a grieving process and i don't feel like i was in the wrong. Any suggestions?
2007-01-25 07:35:13 · 4 answers · asked by Capricassy 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
If someone behaves badly at a funeral service, it is not wise to do the same thing and confront them right there. Wait for a more appropiate time and place. We need to remember that a funeral is a highly emotional time for people and sometimes they do not react to the situation in what is considered a normal way. Your grandmother was probably angry with you because you actually stooped to this other persons level and did the same thing they did. Sometimes we have to put our personal feelings aside temporarily for the sake of others. Your grandmother just lost her husband and did not have time for petty quarrels in her family. It is obvious she expected more from you. The cousin was in fault for bad behavour, but so were you. Next time someone hurts your feelings, take the time to think about how many others will get hurt before you respond. Pick the right time, place and words.
2007-01-29 03:37:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell you, but yea, you were wrong. This funeral service was about your Grandmother and her saying goodbye to your Grandfather. Tell her you're sorry. You should save arguments like that till another time. I'm sorry about your Grandpa.
2007-01-25 08:01:05 · answer #2 · answered by mouse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Out of appreciate, i imagine you should attend in case you've been on the threshold of them to illustrate that you care. If there are commute topics or different situations it is comprehensible. maximum funerals that I have went to hat a a lot less somber note and had more desirable of a "remembereance of someone" tone per chance you should imagine of it in that mild. now to not get you to bypass one way or yet another, yet only retaining belongings you may go with to think about. in case you do go with now to not wait, make it sparkling of your reason, and also verify you grant to assist out and luxurious the close relatives that are in all likelihood nonetheless dealing with the loss.
2016-10-16 02:36:04 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is totally inappropriate for family tiffs at a funeral. Save it for later.
2007-01-25 07:51:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋