Why are the woman the homewreckers?

Question

When a man leaves his family for another woman why is it the woman that is deemed as the home wrecker? Surely the man leaving behind his family BY HIS OWN CHOICE is the homewrecker? Or do we, as woman still feel the need to be accepted by men so much that its easier to blame another female?

Answer 1

your right, its the man who bears the responsibility for wrecking the home,,,,,, not someone on the outside of the marriage

Answer 2

The man is wrong too but I think people hold the woman a lot more responsible because if the woman wouldnt take the man then even though he wasnt happy at home he wouldn't have anywhere else to go. I look at both the man and the woman as being home wreckers, the man shouldnt be messing around with other women when he has one at home with kids and the woman shouldnt be messing around with a man that already has a family when they are plently of single men out there.

Answer 3

I believe if a man will cheat & leave he's family for another women, no one forced him to, he can make he's own choices. So if anyone would be the homewrecker it would be the man or if it was the other way around then the women who left her family for another man would be the homewrecker. Mostly for the women who is left behind she puts blame on the other women is because she is just unsecure about herself and wants to put blame on someone else because she is in denial that her husband would never do that to her, but he did. But you also can't blame her for feeling that way, ya have to look at what happen to her to why she feels that way. So instead of putting the blame on the other person it should be put on the person who did the wrong of leaving their family.

Answer 4

If the woman pursued the married man then I would call her a homewrecker and him if he went for it. However there are times when the married man is doing the pursuing and the woman has no clue he is married. I still would put the "homewrecker status" on the person who is in the relationship. Just my 2 cents.

Answer 5

I think homewrecker label partially an ego saving thing for the wife that's left.

You know, it's easier to say some woman "stole" a man (like the other woman is an evil thief), than to admit that the man left because there's something wrong with the wife (in his eyes) , or their relationship. Less bruising for the wife's ego.

I totally agree with you, though. The husband is the one that took the vows to his wife (and sometimes before God), not the other woman. He is just as much responsible if not moreso than the other woman is, imho.

I think it has something to do with our societies double standard toward judging men and women's behaviors, too, though. Traditionally men are allowed to sow their wild oats and it is acceptable to most ppl; women are expected to be pure and not have lots of partners. The "men are studs, women are sluts" mentality.

So if a man cheats, some ppl think he's just being a man, and just got tempted, where as women are supposed to be more "pure" and not to fool around with him.

Dumb, but seems to be how it is....

Answer 6

In a relationship, the homewrecker is the person who cause the relationship to breakup.

I do not believe there are statistics that back up your assertion that wome are always deemed as the homewreckers even if a guy is a jerk and leaves her for someone else.

I think you're being too sensitve about things. Given the facts you've presented, in a court of law, the man would have been guilty of being the homewrecker.

Of course, if he had a good attorney, he'd delve deep into your role in the break up to convince the jury that you in fact were the reason he left you for someone else.

Whatever the reason, if it goes to court, make sure you have a good attorney to back you up so that the facts are clearly dispelled.

Answer 7

When a woman leaves her family for another man I would consider that man to be a home wrecker as well. I don't think it is a gender thing. I would also consider 'the leaver' just as much of a sleaze as 'the other man/woman'. The leaver made a vow to their spouse and has taken on the responsibility of children and that should supersede any feelings for other people. There is no excuse for going outside that relationship. I am not naive enough to believe everyone should stay married forever, just find cheating repulsive. There is a difference between being unhappy in your marriage and getting a divorce and just hopping into bed with someone. It is easy to blame the other woman because they made the conscious decision to be with a married man, duh. Assuming you are 'the other woman' I don't think you have any right speaking for all women. Most self respecting men or women would not involve themselves with someone who is married. If my assumption is not correct, I apologize.

Answer 8

It takes two to tango, as the saying goes. A man the betrays his wife by cheating and ultimately leaving her is also the home-wrecker. I personally think he deserves a little more of the blame because he has chosen to violate his vows to his wife. But I think that the woman who's been hurt is also seeking comfort from the man and thus often lashes out against the other woman.

Answer 9

I think you are confused judging by your question.

A home wrecker is not the female in the relationship that failed. It's the male or female from outside the relationship that is the homewrecker.

The home wrecker is the person outside of the relationship that has sex with somebody that is suppose to be in a relationship. So when somebody cheats, its the person they cheat WITH that is the homewrecker.

In other words, if you have a thing for married men you are a homewrecker.

Answer 10

Both parties are responsible but that "other" woman should have known better then to mess around with an 'already married' man!

So yes, i agree with the term Home-wrecker.... The man is still at fault just as much but the reality remains that the "other" woman could have stepped aside and move on with a single man instead of messing around with someone that is already in a relationship

Answer 11

It's both ways if a woman leaves her man for another man that man is considered a home wrecker. But I get your point because in either scenario the woman is considered a whore. But no says anything bad like that about the men. It's always the "women" led him away from his family, when in fact a lot of men are on the hunt. It's the double standard that doesn't exstinguish. What's worse is that there are probably women who are gonna say that men are "helpless" and the women know what they are doing which is a load of crock believe me I know my father has been married 8 times and has 17 daughters. He taught me all about men and their games. Men are not as helpless as you think ladies.