Har far along were you when you miscarried?

Question

I'm 16 weeks pregnant...saw the baby several times, but I get so scared I'm going to miscarry. Never did before, this is my first pregnancy, but I still worry. How far along were you when you miscarried and why did it happen...I mean, did the doctor have a reason why?

Answer 1

Please don't be robbed of the joy of your pregnancy. I had a miscarriage and I have had 2 pregnancies. Sometimes during the first trimester miscarriages happen but that's not something you should worry about. Just take care of yourself and take the vitamins.

Answer 2

Out of 5 pregnancies, I have had 3 miscarriages. Here's how it went, First pregnancy was miscarried at 17 weeks. Second, miscarried at 8 weeks. Third pregnancy was with my daughter, who is now 3 1/2. Everything was perfect with her. Forth pregnancy was miscarried at 12 weeks. AND last but not least was my pregnancy with my beautiful son who just turned 8 weeks yesterday.

With none of my losses did I get an explanation. My Doctor had basically told me that it is uncommon to lose a pregnancy at 17 weeks, but does happen. The only explanation he could give me was a grim look on his face as he shook his head. After much research, I concluded that there must have been something wrong with the baby. The 2nd one, there was only an empty sac during the first ultrasound so it wasn't considered a viable pregnancy. The 3rd, and hopefully final loss that I had after being on the Depo Provera shot for a year. I think it was too soon and there were remnants of the hormone in my system.

I know that being pregnant and having everything going right can really be nerve wracking, it shouldn't be. I know that it almost seems too good to be true sometimes, especially if it was hard to get pregnant in the first place. It is such a wonderful thing to be able to make life and to share Love with someone the first time you ever meet. There are no words to describe the way it feels to just hold your baby for the first time.

I don't want to sound harsh, but after my first loss, I had to go through all of the stages of grieving. I thought for sure that noone would ever be able to fill that void left by my child's death. If I hadn't miscarried then, I wouldn't have either one of my kids now. I can't imagine what life would be like without them. I also realised that it wasn't anything that I had done wrong. Rest assured, if you have made it to 16 weeks, you will most likely carry to full term. Remember that there is a reason for you to be carrying this child. The most important thing that you can do for your baby right now is to go to your DR appts, eat right, and get enough rest. Try not to stress, your baby will be with you very soon. The longest (it seems), yet best part of being pregnant is coming to you soon. Enjoy being a mommy, there is much happiness ahead of you!

Answer 3

I have had two miscarriages. One at 10 weeks and one at 24 weeks.

Usually a miscarriage will occur before the 12th week. This is due to a blighted ovum. For some reason the embryo is not developing the way it should or is defective in some way.

If you are 16 weeks you shouldn't worry. YOur chances of miscarrying are slim.

Things do happen but it is not likely. My 24 week pregnancy miscarriage was due to a cord around the neck, plus slow fetal developement. Things just weren't right from the beginning with the pregnancy.

Late in pregnancy the reasons for lossing the baby are things like a placenta previa or an abruption of the placenta. Since your doctor is checking you these conditions will be identified early.

If you have any bright red bleeding or severe abd. pain, call your doctor immediately.

Stop worrying and enjoy the pregnancy.

Answer 4

First of all you have got to relax. Every time I mis-carried it was before 12 weeks and every time(3) there was a reason, tubal scaring. I had bleeding and/or server pain with each one. Eventually I did have a healthy pregnancy and now he is 9 going on 21 and such a blessing and a miracle. Most problems usually occur in the first tri-mester 12 weeks. Your doctor, if you are keeping your appointments, will let you know if there is a problem and let him know of every pain and problem that's what he or she is there for. You have got to be positive, take care of yourself, eat right, keep your appointments and enjoy every pregnant day good or bad. If you do find yourself still worried take up an activity like knitting or drawing, writing, reading, something to keep your mind busy(I started walking and singing off tune I might add), and try some music at bed time smooth, slow, music (jazz did it for me instrumental though) Just think, if all your test are okay and you have no problems then you continue to worry when the baby gets here you would not have had the chance of enjoying a very special part-pregnancy! Don't worry about what you don't have control over just focus on the things you do. Happy Baby!

Answer 5

You are very unlikely to miscarry now you have got past 13 weeks which marks the end of your first trimester. It is before then that things usually go wrong if they are going to.

Please try not to worry - your body is a marvellous piece of biological engineering, doing what it was put on earth to do.
It won't be many weeks before you will be able to feel baby moving about a bit and that is really comforting. You say you've seen him/her on a scan, but I do remember not really quite being able to believe this was all successfully going on inside me until I could feel movement and see the bump.

I have 4 children (boys, 8,7, 4 and 2) and I had one miscarriage before the first (at 11 weeks) and one (between nos 2 and 3), at 9 weeks. I was more upset by the second miscarriage, although it was a bit earlier in the pregnancy. I think it was because I really knew what I was losing, whereas, strangely, with the first, I was upset, but not grief stricken.

Best of luck - I hope it all goes really well for you.

Answer 6

I was 7 weeks. When I started spotting I went in and there was no heartbeat and the baby was only measuring 5 weeks. My doctor told me that as many as 25% of pregnancies end in miscarriage before 12 weeks. If you are able to see a heartbeat it drops to 3%. The most common reason for miscarriage is a chromosomal anomaly, the information is just not there to create a baby. No matter what it is sad and hard to deal with. I would say that you are in a good place at 16 weeks and I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 7

I miscarried at about 6wks....there was no known cause.

Usually the odds are high when you are in your first trimester. After you heard the heartbeat on the doppler and see your baby on the u/s your odds drop to below 2%.
This is a common worry during pregnancy but try to focus on the positive. Pretty soon you'll start to feel movement every day and that will give you extra reassurance that all is ok.

Answer 8

I was supposed to be around 16 weeks pregnant when I miscarried,I started bleeding and went to the hospital,three days later while going to the ER to get checked again I miscarried while walking to the Room where they check you out,my baby didn't develop right and only measured 7 weeks along even though my uterus was at 16 weeks.As for the reason....no one knows,it was what they call a "spontanious abortion"....I like to think of it as God needed another Angel.......

Don't worry about this too much,if you had regular check ups etc and everything is fine I truly don't think you even have to worry about miscarriage :)

Answer 9

this isn't what you want to dwell on while you're pregnant. the worry won't do you or the baby any good. It will mess with your mental well-being & that can impact your physical health. Believe the best will be for your baby. That being said, I lost a child early in a pregnancy as a teenager & there wasn't any particular reason. Just wasn't meant to be. I now have a very active & wonderful 4th grader at home. Please try & ease your mind. Get someone to talk to & keep company with positive people. I wish you all the best.

Answer 10

i have had 2 miscarriages, my first was at about 11 weeks, and my second was at about 6 weeks. the first was because i fell down stairs and the second, i don't know just happened.
my advice to you would be to relax, you are through the first 12 weeks which is the danger zone for miscarriage. i have got 2 perfect children from perfect pregnancy's. if i were you i would enjoy being pregnant and enjoy the pampering that comes with it. remember a happy mum equals a happy baby.
good luck and i can't say it enough relax.
oh just a thought, if you can afford it get one of those monitor things. i hired one when i was pregnant, your doctor uses it to listen to your baby,at your appointments. whenever i freaked out i just put it on my belly and was instantly relaxed. sounds weird i know but listening to the sound of your baby's heart is so peaceful. sounds like horses galloping.

Answer 11

first of all, DONT worry and panic urself like that!.. i had my miscarriage my first pregnancy at 6 1/2 weeks, from exposure of cleaners (i dont use cleaners, because of health reasons) at my in laws house(i had to live with them for a while) and ALOT of stress..
I was sick everyday with one thing or another and i didnt know at the time that it would affect my baby, but it did.. the last WORSE bout of being sick is when i started to bleed, and then the very next day while waiting to get an OB dr(which they for one reason or another couldnt see me, see how "realiable" they are?) i felt a big clot needing to come out, and the placenta came out. it was the most horrible feeling and horrible thing to see and have to be flushed down some stupid camode.. that happened almost 7 months ago, and im 5 1/2 months now, but i still cry alot from losing my baby, cuz thinking about it, next month she would have been born.
it was really hard going thru especially the first trimester of pregnancy for me, i was terrifed it was ganna happen again, but i kept praying and got annointed that it wouldnt. Then i wanted to die when i was 14 weeks, because my cervix' vessels ruptured and i was bleeding alot. I thought i was having anotehr one, but thank the Lord i didnt.. my baby is fine and healthy:-) hes starting to kick now :-)
again, dont worry urself over it.. ur in the "safe" zone now, but u keep ur mind worked up about something, sometimes that can really happen what u THINK is going to.. so dont think about it! congrats!