he's driving me crazy?

Question

my husband all of a sudden thinks that i am cheating on him hes asking me all these stupid questions as to what i do when hes at work checking our messages in our voicemail to see if any guy has called me.he'll call me from work and ask me who iv'e been talking to saying he has called me a number of times and that he gets the busy signal when i know this isn't true because even if i had been on the phone i would have niticed his call we have two lines.i love my husband with all my heart and on anything that is holly a swear i have never cheated on him .he is trippin he is 9 years older than me sometimes when we first got married he use to tell me that his only fear was since i was younger than him i would leave him for some one younger once he got older when i married him i knew everything about him incliding his age and i dont care how old he his i never have i love him with all my heart we have 2 kids together.what should i do

Answer 1

not much, just tell him if you wanted to leave him, you can just walk out but you don;t want to cause u love him alot and also tell him that the things he going is hurting you

Answer 2

Hrmmm... well he sounds like me a few years ago. I wonder has this been a constant thing or something that has come about more recently. Me and my wife of 5yrs went thru something similar for a year or two. I was terrible, checking her email, calling like he is and what not. She was wonderfully sweet and patient with me but it was very hard on the both of us. There was really no one thing that broke the cycle for me. I just was in some kinda paranoid fever and then one day it broke and she was still there, thankfully. The only thing I can suggest is patience that you don't know exists yet, love and quite often a reality check. But most importantly communication. Talk until your both blue in the face. If it persists for a long time though definitely go talk to someone. It may be that something specific has triggered this. Try just saying what the hell is wrong with you? That one really got the ball rolling for us.

Answer 3

He might be the one cheating because people who do then think that the other might be doing the same or they feel guilty and are reflecting their own faults. If you haven't done anything wrong, there's nothing to feel bad about, it's not fair he's making you feel bad. I would tell him you're not and you don't appreciate being falsely accused and that he should get proof of it if he's so sure because you don't have anything to hide. I had a boyfriend who was like that from day 1, there was no convincing him, I think he was an insecure person and I got out.

Answer 4

It's important that you go to marriage counseling together. You will not convince him to change. He is having a problem with insecurity. It will break up your marriage if you don't both learn ways to prevent the problem. Good luck!

Answer 5

Usually when one person is accusing the other of cheating the person doing the accusing is doing the cheating too.

Answer 6

Marriage counseling.

Answer 7

Marriage counseling. He has a sickness that needs to be dealt with!

Answer 8

Make an appointment with him-no distractions, no phone, no kids, tv, and so on. Then talk to him- lay it out.

Answer 9

I was in this type of situation in the past---he never stopped this behavior--it became worse...and worse....and worse.....it's like his middle name was insecure, jealous, paranoid schizophrenic....get out!

Answer 10

Just keep re-assuring him and give him no reason to
be suspicious..
He will probably get over it...