About 3 months ago my wife talked me into a 3 some with her and her friend ( it didn't take alot of persuading), after a few drinks at our place we became intimate, due to our intoxicated state we did not use protection, now both my wife and her friend are pregnant, I take full responsability for my actions and want to provide for my children, however my wife is filling for a divorce and wants nothing to do with her friend or her friends baby, I believe that it was all 3 of us who willingly went into this encounter and we should deal with it as a team.
Do you think I should divorce my wife and marry her friend, we are campatable and I think it could work.
Or do you think that I should not grant my wife a divorce and make her face the reality of the situation she helped create.
either way I will do my best to be a father to my yet unborn children
2007-01-25 07:16:48 · 35 answers · asked by maxexposure2003 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
LOL Good one. And how many people read this and think it's real? Didn't fool me.
2007-01-25 07:31:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe wait until both children are born then get paternity tests done with both children. If your wife and her friend were both willing to have a 3 some, then whos not to say that your wife didnt have an affair with someone else, along with her friend sleeping with someone else. Im not saying thats what happened, but it could of happened. Express your feelings to both women and if your wife knows for sure thats your baby shes carrying, then she wont go ahead with the divorce until the child is born. If she still wants to do it, then it gives you reason to think otherwise. Divorce is just the simple outting of something not wanting to face head on. Before you go rushing into a relationship with the friend, make sure thats your child. I wish ya the best!
2007-01-25 07:38:49 · answer #2 · answered by PfcsBaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The 3 of you should take the responsibility. It is shallow of your wife, and she has enough nerve to file for divorce when it was her idea for the 3 some. I would grant her the divorce because she'll get it even without your permission. Might as well just give it to her and not deal with the immaturity. If you care and love the woman you got pregnant than so be it. Go ahead and marry her.
2007-01-25 07:29:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
IF your wife talked you into having sex with her best friend then I doubt that is the reason she wants a divorce. If she wants a divorce there is no way you can stop her. As for marrying her best friend - wait till the babies are born to determine paternity. IF both are yours you have a lot of child support to pay. After you are divorced then you need to decide how best to support the families financially and emotionally. IF your story is true - do the best you can for the children.
2007-01-25 07:56:38 · answer #4 · answered by sweetpicker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i commend you for wanting to be all that you can be for these unborn children.
assuming all is true facts here... perhaps your wife wanting a divorce is to test you of your heart and commitment with her.. is it a priority as it rightfully is? being that you are contemplating marrying the friend, is it possible that there are other issues in your marriage?
divorce is not the answer if you have other children with your wife
the friend is not a nice person to allow herself to be impregnanted period and she was selfish for more than just the menage a trois, she is a homewrecker extreme.
show your wife that she is your priorty and that her friend will not tear you apart as a family unit. the friend has no right to expect anything other some support specifically and directly to that child... do not make that child suffer for the three of you not being responsible.... i feel for both of these children
stay strong at to what is the best for your already committed family 1st.
2007-01-25 07:47:32 · answer #5 · answered by carenffb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow this is a hard one .. and yeah you could marry the friend but it takes more than compatibility to make a marriage work ,, i also takes love..you would not be able to stop the divorce..that is if you live in the USA ..i don't know about other countries... you wife was more than like hurt.. and yeah she know if her fault tool and that probably what hurts her the most .. what was suppose to be a fun time turn out badly..sit her down and ask her why she talk you into it and try to reason with her.. tell her you still love her and that you don't love the friend.. but tell her that child is still part of you and what type of man would you be if you walk away from your own child...also tell you would like a DNA test on the Friend child.. it just may not be yours ... you know.. the only person who is really sure the child is their is the mother.. mainly because we gave birth to them
2007-01-25 07:33:54 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try marriage counseling first. If that doesn't work, at least you know you tried.
Do not marry the friend! Compatibility is not love. It will not end well plus put more of a wedge between you, your current wife and the friend, in turn, could cause your two children to be raised away from each other.
2007-01-25 07:38:14 · answer #7 · answered by teris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your wife was looking for a reason for a divorce? Sounds like it to me. Get tested to make sure the kids are yours, then the best thing to do is sit down with a councellor and try to work things out with your wife. Best of luck.
2007-01-25 07:52:38 · answer #8 · answered by magicman116 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not "grant" your wife a divorce. She can get one if she wants to. And, as for the double pregnancy, that's a whale of a story. If there is a double pregnancy then why are you carping in your prior question about your wife refusing to have sex with you during that time of the month?
2007-01-25 07:32:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why the hell did you get married to her in the first place? NO! You should not divorce your wife and get with her friend! Are you kidding me with this!? You're the one that stuck yourself in her friend, why is it her problem? She didn't force you to stick it in her! You sound really immature and selfish to me. You have no business being married and it's too bad you have 2 kids coming into this world that are gonna be just like you. You created this situation on your own, it's called pressure and learn to deal with it instead of blaming YOUR faults on others.
2007-01-25 07:31:17 · answer #10 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, unlucky. that's the mothers' alternatives what they each and each do with their own toddler. And all 3 ought to assist one yet another, no person must be "giving" something different than for his or her help. funds for ills and stuff large, yet while she needs that and not the rest from them then they shouldn't provide her funds. it is an ungainly difficulty and it desires to be spoken by way of between them. even possibly if the chum has her toddler and can provide it to the family, as a coaching, then she wont ought to challenge approximately looking after it. If the ladies are maximum suitable buddies then rather they might variety something out.
2016-09-27 23:44:01 · answer #11 · answered by lichtenberger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋