2007-01-25 07:02:22 · 25 answers · asked by diry bitch 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're gonna have to get over it!! Why the HELL would you want to have a BABY if your husband wasn't ready? That makes NO SENSE AT ALL. Are you SURE you are even MATURE enough to HANDLE a child? It is NOT always a "cake walk." It is a lot of HARD WORK and sacrifices. I believe THAT is why God INTENDED for us to have TWO participating mature ADULTS when conceiving a child. Honey, if you don't co operate with your husband and come to some kind of REASONABLE compromise, you may find yourself ALONE and STILL wanting that SAME baby! Good Luck, Sweetheart! I DO wish you the best!
2007-01-25 07:20:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Patience is a virtue. I'm sorry, but you have only been married for 7 months and your husband is being fair by asking you to wait a few months. You need to understand that the first year of marriage is the most difficult. Why not enjoy having time with just your husband right now? The more you guys hang out together, the better off you will be at raising your child together. Just have fun being married. When the time is right, you will have your baby. Thank you and good luck.
2007-01-25 07:15:02 · answer #2 · answered by cookie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We have a rule in my house: The "no's" always win. It has to be that way on big issues. You can't force someone to have a baby (morally) that's just not right. He will carry resentment for you if you deceive him and try harder to get pregnant. Those feelings carry over into the child's life as well. As long as he says "in a few months" he seems like he is actually willing to take the plunge one day. I suggest you get a puppy. No really! A puppy is a cute cuddly thing to love, with responsibilities and everything. See if you two can handle a puppy first, maybe he will wants a child sooner, or maybe you will decide you want the responsibility later :-)
2007-01-25 07:28:06 · answer #3 · answered by Honesty given here! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHATEVER YOU DO, DO NOT FORCE HIM! If you want to see how fast a man can bolt out of any relationship, do a surprise "I'm pregnant" party!
Look, having a baby is great, but the both of you must be on the same page. Ask him what he'd like to do before having your first born. There are plently of parenting classes to take to understand financial burdens and what not. Talk to your and his families as well to see if they can supoprt you if anything happens.
My best friend was really young when she had her first baby, she tells me how lucky she was to have her son and she doesn't regret it, but I can see that look in her eyes when I tell her of a really cool place I've traveled to.
It took me a while to find the perfect person to have a child with, although we are not married we are perfectly happy with the choices we made. We dated for over 2yrs, and both wanted a child. We had a beautiful girl last October and we are having a blast!
7 months is a short time, whats the rush? Have time to enjoy each other first PLAN then HAVE a family.
2007-01-25 07:21:58 · answer #4 · answered by Rose A 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What is your frackin hurry? Build a strong foundation for the family you want to start. Do you have anything planned out? The babies turn into little people that turn into teenagers that need parents with great parenting skills.
Do you know what it takes to raise a child.
By the by, did you not hear what YOUR HUSBAND said. It takes two to raise a child Mrs. Selfish. Sounds like he's not ready...
2007-01-25 07:18:03 · answer #5 · answered by areyoukidding 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will be much better for you, as a married couple, if you give yourselves time together before having children. Babies are great, but they take a lot of time from the relationship with your husband. Stay on the honeymoon for a while more, and get solid as a couple before adding a little one. I think one year is a miniumum, two would be even better (unless worried about pregnancy because of your age). Good luck!
2007-01-25 07:14:31 · answer #6 · answered by Faith 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah it's good he said in a few month instead of in a few years. Just try to relax don't pressure the subject. You don't want to push him away from the idea. Also don't you want him to want a baby the same time as you. Why would you want to force that? You'll need his support through the entire pregnancy so respect that he wishes to wait a few months and not rush it.
2007-01-25 07:25:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a child when both of you are not ready it will cause major issues in your marriage. A child born at any time will bring along his or her on set of issues, with without anyone saying "I didn't want this to begin with".You are better to wait till he is ready also, this way you both will want the same things. A child is a beautiful gift, but it's also the only one you can't exchange, or return when it isn't going as well as you thought it would.....and it will happen..it does to all of us...it isn't easy.
Good luck and God Bless both of you in your journey to parenthood.
2007-01-25 07:21:56 · answer #8 · answered by Home Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oooh tough spot. I know a mans point of view could be contingent on several factors such as age, finances, health ect. Men look at things through eyes of fear sometimes such as how sound is your marriage.. Does he have previous kids that child support is killing him or the not seeing his kids as much as he would like. If none of these apply to you then I would suggest maybe talking to him in a loving way.
2007-01-25 13:40:55 · answer #9 · answered by truthseeker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You "want" a baby ??
Are you aware of how much time, work, energy a child is. I notice a lot of women "want" kids. What is the "real" reason you want them. No offense but i am not going to bring kids into this world nowadays. Best of luck
2007-01-25 07:47:37 · answer #10 · answered by godzillasagoodman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋