I have a four year old, 17 month old, and a 4 month old and they are all boys.
2007-01-25 06:48:17 · 65 answers · asked by psbarnes82 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sorry to tell you but probably not, unless he has kids as well.
2007-01-25 06:52:15 · answer #1 · answered by Specter 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I had just turned 20 when I left my ex(he was horrible) I had a 5 month old and a 2 year old, both girls. Luckily I had a really good job and was able to take care of me and the girl’s just fine. I thought I would never find anyone any good for us. I remember how lonely it was to be alone and how easy it would have been to either go back to my ex or find some really crappy guy. Being a single Mom is hard. I started going to church…after I found one that didn’t look down to me because I was a single Mom. I also found support online on some of the Christian wesites, and met a lot of nice women who were in the same situations as I was at one point in their life. My biggest blessing was being able to support us, at bedtime we would be sure to “thank God for Mommy’s job” in our prayers. It was really tough, and I didn’t have a lot of time to myself.
I kept my expectations of a husband and a father high. So high that nobody even believed I would find anyone to do the things I wanted in a man. When I was 22 I got married to a wonderful man who is more that I would had ever imagined a husband to be. It surprised everyone. It wasn’t until then that I found out everyone didn’t believe I would ever find a good man. My husband and I worked together for a year before we started dating, we only dated two months before we got married but I knew he was the one. My ex signed his rights away and my husband is adopting my two girls it should be final any time now, we are just waiting for a court date.
Sorry to be so long with this but I know how you feel and you’ll be fine. Just keep your head up and don’t settle. If you wait you’ll find the perfect man. If you ever want to talk my email address is mandynjoseph@sbcglobal.net
2007-01-25 07:34:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutley ! ! ! I also was in the same situaution recently. I am 27 yr sold with 3 small boys and divorsed. my boys are 6, 3, and 2. I met this wonderful man at work. We became friends and then lovers. I am now expecting his 1st baby.....we just found out today it is a boy. He has taken on the responsibilty of my other 3 boys...which he did not have to do. I am saying yes all the way to your question. Don't let your background think that no one will ever date you or find you attractive just because you are divorsed and have children. I thought the same thing.
Just keep a positive attitude. When you are least expecting it....someone will find you !
Good Luck
2007-01-25 07:15:16 · answer #3 · answered by opiegalis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, BUT you sound like you need to develop some self esteem first. So concentrate on you and your kids for a while. Stay away form relationships until you are back on your feet. Find a hobby or activity that gets you involved with other people your own age and you will be suprised how interesting you will be to others when you are more sure of yourself. Also beware of predators interested in your kids. You really do have a lot going for you so don't look for validation from a boyfriend!
2007-01-25 06:58:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, guys will date a separated woman. Some are in a similar situation. Watch out for the players and the liars. Be up front and don't be scared. Good luck
2007-01-25 06:55:41 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there are men out there real love has no boundaries. It could take longer to find that guy, but they are out there. I am a perfect example, my mother had three daughter including myself, and found a man, who i refer to as my father. He is the only father I ever knew. We were 7, 6, and 4 when they started dating. We call him Jimmy, just because we were older, he had no children of his own, and treated us all good. He love my daughter and spoils he rotten. You could try a dating service, and be honest about your situation to help you weed through the men who are not going to work. Also, try local church's they have singles programs. Do not give up!
2007-01-25 07:36:25 · answer #6 · answered by pixie1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, sweetie you will find someone, just make sure that the guy loves and respects the relationship you have with your children. Your kids are your life just remember they come first before anything. I am the mother (since the age of 23)of three and I found a great guy to love them and me. Kiss your beautifful boys for me!! Good luck and trust in God, he will always lead you in the right direction. Claire
2007-01-25 06:55:26 · answer #7 · answered by Claire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I wouldn't date a married woman
Second, I wouldn't date a woman with the bad judgement to get pregnant at 19 years old.
Third, I wouldn't date a woman with the bad judgement to have a third child when my marriage was failing (either that, or giving up on a marriage in less than four months)
So no, I wouldn't.
2007-01-25 07:01:12 · answer #8 · answered by Houston, we have a problem 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm a firm believer that there is someone out there for everyone but your situation will narrow your choices. If your looking for a serious relationship then your wants, desires, preferences may need to be adjusted to find the right man for your children as well as yourself. Don't convince yourself that the guy will learn to love/like the children if he isn't a kid person to begin with.
2007-01-25 06:59:21 · answer #9 · answered by jeff j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no definite yes or no to this question. Different guys would react to you differently. Though if you do start a relationship with someone you shouldn't keep the existance of your kids from him. Honesty is good.
Some guys may run, but eventually you'll find someone who will stick around.
2007-01-25 07:05:29 · answer #10 · answered by forestpirate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend has 4 kids and is 27.
she has a hard time finding "good" men and dates a lot of losers. It is hard to find responsible men who are good for you AND your children when you are in your twenties. But, that doesn't mean you should go back into an unhealthy marriage so you don't have to be alone either.
don't give up and DO NOT settle.
2007-01-25 06:53:52 · answer #11 · answered by tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋