I would like to end this relationship but I am afraid of his anger and hurting him. He throws temper tantrums and last week called my son a lazy *** for not shovling the snow the way he wantedHe has not apologised to my son, in his eyes I got everything I deserve and he blames me or my son for his temper...My son is 14. I could write a book on the things he has done to hurt me and the ways he has mistreated him, now he wants me to go to Mexico with him as he bought me a ticket but I dont want to go. What should I do??
2007-01-25 06:46:12 · 4 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
now he wants me to go to Mexico with him and I dont want to go but I am afraid if i dont go he will kick me and my son out...
2007-01-25 07:02:31 · update #1
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2007-01-25 07:06:45 · update #2
Why are you still around him after five years of his abuse? What is it doing to your son to see his mother allow herself and him to be mistreated by this jerk? Take your son and get out to a safe place. Either stay with trusted friends, family or in a shelter for awhile. File a complaint with the police and leave while he's not home to stop you. Let him go to Mexico or Timbuktu without you. Your responsibility at this point is to your son and to yourself to be safe and free of abuse and that means free of this abuser.
2007-01-25 08:52:55 · answer #1 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have permitted this man to take your self-esteem to the lowest level it can go. These kind of men are known for this! Until of course he's got you scared, exactly what he wanted! You totally need to realize this, and STOP! Most important, you need to realize you have a son who by no means deserves this abuse. Actually, either do you, but why in this world would you let someone try to destroy your only child? He didn't ask to be born? Think of this boys child hood memories he's going to have, and he can thank-you for them. Now how do you feel? I hope you "feel" something to get enough strength to get him out of the mess, and give him to the authorities or get the BOTH of you out, and away from this person. I hate to sound so bold, but I don't know how else to wake you up, when you are permitting your son to be abused. Call the Police, that's all it would take. Go to a safe shelter, anything. What are you waiting for??? Don't think I don't understand, because I DO!!!
2007-01-25 09:38:08 · answer #2 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you are worried about "hurting him" then you are afraid of him. Humm!! you must gather the courage to move away from him - on your own - with your son. You and your son do not need to be around any man that is abusive or makes life bad for you. I think you now have to have a passport to go to Mexico or to get back into the country. It takes a long time to get one so maybe use that as an excuse till you can GET HIM OUT of the house.
2007-01-25 07:32:02 · answer #3 · answered by sweetpicker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry don't go i know i don't have much experience in life (i'm only 18)but my mom married this guy when i was 13 who is bad tempered and abusive and a total @ss..every month we have to deal with all thise stuff he breaks things constantly calls me and my family stupid,retarded,and calls me and my sisters sluts,whores the whole nine yards...i've had to deal with this since i was 13 because my mom doesn't care about anyone but herself i love my mom but i see her as very weak and dependent on loving a man who doesn't love her kids it hurts that 6 years later she still with him if you can go stay with family you should just think of how this will affect your son in years to come...it's hard dealing with some personn you barely know and who's not your family telling you your wrong...i have bad judgement on men especially black men i'm black myself but i feel like most black men are bad temepered like that go stay with your family i'm sure someone can help you out don't let this man do this to you...i know i'm young but i'm speaking from my heart because i live with a man of which your describing and it's horrible everyday just do what is best for your son
2007-01-25 10:15:49 · answer #4 · answered by USAF1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋