I MADE HIM LET ME HAVE 3 SOMES AND SEX WITH HIS FRIEND THEN I TREATED HIM LIKE DIRT AND HE LEFT ME AND NOW HE WILL NOT TALK TO ME. I THINK HE GAVE IN TO EASY AND THATS WHY I TREATED HIM DO BAD. HOW DO I GET HIM BACK
2007-01-25 06:42:59 · 14 answers · asked by latonya m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
play with fire you are going to get burned......you got burned
2007-01-25 06:48:59 · answer #1 · answered by gabby 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Dont bother it will never be the same even if you do get him back, he will not give you all the things he gave you the first time around you will have to earn them and you dont seem like the type who wants to work for it. So go find another good guy and even think about treating him as badly or you are gonna end sorry and alone.
2007-01-25 07:27:52 · answer #2 · answered by Todd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to prove to him two things. One, you need to prove to him that you understand why you requested the extra sex and why you needed it and whether you still need it. This will probably involve talking to somebody professional about your sexuality. Two, you need to prove to him that you fully understand his hurt. That's it. Communicate to him about these two things, whether you've resolved them in yourself or not, and you have a chance. You should probably think about why you want him back as well. That might be the first thing to do. Make sure you're just not feeling sorry for yourself, possessive, or whatever, because if you treated him like dirt and demanded things sexually that made him uncomfortable then what were you doing with him in the first place. Maybe you don't want him back but just feel guilty about hurting someone. Figure that out first; then deal with yourself,and then deal with him, if necessary.
2007-01-25 06:56:21 · answer #3 · answered by theobviousanswerman 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should look at youself a little closer. You might be the one that gave in to easy by doing what you did. Maybe you will have to let this one go. Maybe he is the one that was meant to teach you something about relationships. Even if men like girls that do those kind of things, they dont like the girls to be theirs. And if your ex, thru your behavior, has changed to a better man, then forgive yourself and move on and do better the next time.
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You could write to him and explain why you did what you did. What you felt then and now. And ask him to forgive you and thank him for teaching you a valuable lesson. This could trigge something inside of him and he just might call.
Whatever you do remeber that what we do show to others who we are!
Good Luck
2007-01-25 06:59:48 · answer #4 · answered by eidunotno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I KNOW that you are probably KICKING yourself now, so I am not going to "kick" you too! Sex outside of your marriage is NEVER the answer!!! What were you thinking, Honey? I feel so bad for you now, but I'm not sure there's anything you can do. I am NOT saying this to hurt your feelings, but If I were your husband, I wouldn't come back! I think I would feel like less of a man, ya know? Like a loser "wimp" crawling back. You walked on him, NOW you have to deal with the consequences. I am SO sorry...=(
2007-01-25 06:59:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really need some help! Try treating people better then sexual objects for a start, then consider that he's not coming back unless he's using you and you don't even know it.
Do you realize that you have a male silhouette!
2007-01-25 06:54:38 · answer #6 · answered by chapman_red 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i doubt youll get him back. unless he wants to feel like crap while being with u. youre unfaithful, what makes u think that the hurt that he felt is ok? i dont blame him for not talking to you. id probably do the same thing if u did me like that. vows dont mean a thing when there is lust involved---> makes me sick!
2007-01-25 06:51:54 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hes gone.. personally i would never take you back... how ur feeling right now... is how he felt... honestly think about having to watch your spouse with your bestfriend and not being able to **** about it... c'mon... good luck though but i really dont see it happenin... and if it does consider yourself the luckiest person in the world... but dont get your hopes up..
2007-01-25 06:53:23 · answer #8 · answered by fritz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but like someone else had said, you played with fire and you got burned big time.
2007-01-25 07:02:19 · answer #9 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You blame him for "letting" you have extra-marital sex?? Be real. You made your own bed and now you get to sleep in it.
2007-01-25 06:51:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but I don't think you deserve to have him back.
Hopefully, he's found someone who values him.
2007-01-25 07:09:38 · answer #11 · answered by Mommy of 3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋