I don't know how to approach him and tell him. I am no longer with my teenage son's father. I have had about a 2 year relationship with someone else which means that it is not my ex's child. I also haven't made time for my son and boyfriend to spend time together because I don't want to force my boyfriend on my son.....what should I do? I think my son notices that I am pregnant, he's just waiting for me to tell him myself.
2007-01-25 06:24:29 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
What are doing you are already setting up problems for your son and your boyfriend. You have to tell him TODAY!!!
momof4
2007-01-25 06:33:09 · answer #1 · answered by mary3127 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm, sit him down about 7 months ago and tell him. You are an adult and he is your son, if you really care about him you would not hide something so important from him. You should have gotten him prepared for this a long time ago so there wouldn't be any emoyional issues after the baby is born and mommy is spending more time with baby. I would hope that in 2 years of dating someone that they would have met your other child and grown a bond with them unless it's not a serious relationship. You don't have to force your boyfriend on your son, but maybe it would have been a good idea to let them spend some time together before the baby is born so you can do family things and include your son. Do you plan on having the baby and then telling your son? I don't understand why you would keep it from him unless you don't want your ex to know because your son woukd tell him maybe? Just tell him.
2007-01-25 06:41:42 · answer #2 · answered by MyOpinionMatters 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's genious. Never put your man before your son. Let him know that you are pregnant if he has been an only child that would be hard for him to deal with. Secondly your boyfriend should know your son if he is around you constantly and your son knows nothing about him how would you expect the boy to act, Even though he is a teenager they act out too especially if he doesn't have a male role model. Tell your son make time for him do 1 on 1 let him join in on the pregnancy after all this is his sister or brother he should be able to enjoy him or her too before she comes and make time for all of you to get together before the baby because once the baby comes your son is going to feel left out.
2007-01-25 06:37:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should've told him a while ago. Maybe like 4 months ago when you were 4 months pregnant. And you should've asked him how he felt. Being a teenager is hard enough without your mother having another child and not telling you about it. I'll be 19 next month and I'm 32 weeks pregnant, my parents had a daughter the smae month I found out I was pregnant, how Ironic. If you want you kid to talk to you then you need to talk to him. I know I was pissed that I had to find out they were pregnant by someone else and not them. Who know's maybe he'll be geat and want to help out and stuff. You should've been honest with him from atleast halfway mark. 8 months, what if you went into labor today and you haven't even told your son.
2007-01-25 06:35:45 · answer #4 · answered by Camerons Mama07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely should have told him a long time ago! But as it is, I'd say you need to sit down with your son and apologize for having waited and explain to him your hesitation in the first place (your fear that he would not be accepting of the situation?). Speaking openly and honestly will be the only way to maintain your relationship with your son. Do it now!
2007-01-25 06:42:12 · answer #5 · answered by frisbeegirl1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be surprised at how well your son can handle this. He might be angry that you didnt' tell him sooner, since this will be his brother or sister, but gently remind him that you will still love him and that he will serve as a great help in the upcoming years --being a role model, a friend, and an older brother. You should def. try to get him to open up and introduce him to your boyfriend, since the baby's father is now connected to you and your son. Good luck!
2007-01-25 07:03:15 · answer #6 · answered by keonli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he knows and you're way late to tell him that. Now he feels left out, while you could have taken him apart at 15 weeks and told him that you're having a baby. Even though my parents divorced, mu mom had 3 other kids with her new husband and I did like her to have me participate in all the baby stuff. Giving it bath's and teaching me how to change the diaper. Feeding the bottle, it made me feel important that she had me have these responsibilities.
Now, take him apart, explain him why you took so long and that you know it's obvious to him now, but that can be as much involved as he wants. Be honest about your feelings towards him and have him express his as well and be okay with whatever he wants.
2007-01-25 07:00:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be surprised if you get a negative reaction - especially if he has figured it out on his own and you haven't told him. If he lives with you tell him soon - otherwise I'm sure he'll notice the crib when it arrives. He's probably going to be angry that you withheld this big of a deal from him and confused why you waited so long to tell him. If you go to church it might help to enlist the help of your pastor in telling him. Good Luck -
2007-01-25 06:32:39 · answer #8 · answered by cando 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him don't let him find out any other way and if you are having a child with this new guy he needs to have some kind of relationship with your son because he going to be around and you want your son to feel comfortable around him but just don't push to much
2007-01-25 06:32:52 · answer #9 · answered by kailey0819 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your son now, otherwise he'll lose trust in you for keeping this a secret for so long.
Don't be scared, he'll probably be ecstatic. Also approach him with your boyfriend. Keep in mind your the parent and he's the child.
Congrats.
2007-01-25 06:37:33 · answer #10 · answered by svictor24 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋