ok i need to start again.so i have been seeing this guy for a year and a half.im a single mom and he has always tried to hang out with the kids as well.he cuddles with me, holds my hand on occasions, kisses are great.sex of course is good too.calls me all the time, asks about how work was, wants to know how my family is doing.just recently got custody of his son, and brings him with us.he would do anything i ask him, and whenever i say lets get together he seems really excited and happy.he has never broken a date, and i feel he really loves me.the problem is, we worked together a few years ago and became really good best friends first.we havent had the realtionship talk.i tried to bring it up the other night and he acted like he didnt know what i was trying to say.does he love me?or am i just being stupid and we are just friends with a little extra?please help, and how do we get passed that
2007-01-25 06:18:49 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It seems like you guys are already in a relationship. Maybe he doesn't like being put on the spot to discuss things. Give him patience, since he's given you so much. A man likes to lead & this includes conversations as well. He seems like a great catch, I'm jealous, girl. :) Wishing you the best!
2007-01-25 06:36:46 · answer #1 · answered by chevy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who is in nearly the same situation. Except... she has talked to him about their relationship and when she does it scares him off. Then, eventually, they start talking again and get back together. It seems like as long as she just lets the "relationship question" go, everything is okay, but if she tries to bring up that subject he's gone. I tell her to just get on with her life and quit wasting her time, but you people in love never listen.
So, I guess my advice is either come right out and ask him -- very clearly so he understands the question, or plan on just keeping things the way they are indefinately.
2007-01-25 06:31:45 · answer #2 · answered by Ya Ya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um... I'm not exactly sure what ur question is, love. From what u have already said, it sounds like he does love u and ur kids. So I don't understand what ur problem is. Maybe ur a little insecure about ur love for him? I don't know, I'm just making suggestions here.
Actually, I don't think u have anything to worry about. He sounds very happy with u, and u with him, so if u want the relationship to go further, why not just ask him? Can't hurt, hey?
Good luck, love.
2007-01-25 06:35:12 · answer #3 · answered by kiwi_mum1966 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you were a little nervous and he didn't understand what you were trying to say. Don't try and explain things.
Just ask him where things are going? And when he says what do you mean? You say: We have been friends for a while and now things have been physical and we go places as a family unit and do things together and I would like to know if you see a future in it or is it just friends with benefits?
2007-01-25 06:30:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think after a year and a half he would be ready to think about going to the next step. you need to make him sit and talk about whether you are going anywhere or you should be looking for someone else to be your husband and a father to your kids!!
2007-01-25 06:29:40 · answer #5 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the outdated flame, first guy u have intercourse & lose virginity will continuously verify, u will locate love returned, yet there will be situations whilst u are on my own & will continuously think of of your 1st love...thats how existence would be & you will discover ways to address it, stay with it & even savour the thoughts sometime.
2016-12-16 17:12:25 · answer #6 · answered by koth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he isn't ready & you can't push him or make him
want you or love you!!!
2007-01-25 06:30:21 · answer #7 · answered by Dyannah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋