Why are people's answers to marital (problem) questions always state to get a divorce?

Question

Do they just not want to take the time to give helpful advice? Or is it for the points?

Sorry it should have read, "why are "MOST" people's answer.... Not ALL peoples answers.

Answer 1

because its too easy. Divorce is easy, its cheap now, easier than working through counseling. More women are cheating, society has been changing for some time. There were hardly any divorces in the 1950's, men worked, women stayed home, raised the kids etc etc. Then men kept making wars, like Bush, and the women had to work, gave them freedom and space, they found out there was more to their lives than barefoot and pregnant, now when theres problems, its easier to leave than to work things out. Men don't always like counseling, or they refer to it as someone else telling them who they are or what they need to do, so they close off that opportunity, women usually communicate and talk, and men close themselves off or are quick to anger. Tempers flare and a feeling of helplessness comes over 1 or both, leads to cheating and lying and then by that time the 2 of you are so far apart theres no way to get back to the place they were at, to the time when they were 1 instead of 2, to square 1, when they fell in love, and yes I'm divorced

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Alot of people give advice other then divorce it's just at most of the time people have the question my husband/wife cheated on me for the 2,3,4 time and well the other times I forgave them but I just need advice do you think I should get a divorce. So it really comes down to the question asked if it is something more direct like I'm feeling disconnected from my spouse then for sure talk about counselling seeking professional help speaking to a minister but really divorce should be the last resort in any marriage or why do people even get married if they know they are going to split from this person. Marriage is for life and people should start relizing that it's sad and pathetic the percentages of divorce versus people staying together and working things out.

Answer 4

America does have the highest rate for divorce. Divorce is a way to get out from the trouble and not deal with it I guess, but it's almost like running away too. I wouldn't advice someone to get a divorce, unless they're in a abusive and violent relationship. I think besides that, every problem has a solution. Couples break up because they lack the communication, time, and in the end, trust. That's why they cheat. To me, divorce should be the last option if there's no other alternative, say, the partner refuses to change or break the promise and trust.

Answer 5

It may be for points. Maybe they have never been married and need to move on to the next question. Divorce is the easy way out it seems. When you take the oath in marriage, it is suppose to be for better or for worse, richer or poorer, sickness and in health. There are some cases now, where I would say divorce is probably the best solution. If there is someone in desperate need of counseling and won't recieve it. They care nothing about changing. I am referring to cases of abuse. Wives being abused, and husbands in some cases also. When children are involved, that makes it even worse. I guess I sort of went over the answer, but these were my thoughts on it.

Answer 6

thank you, thank you for that . As i am one of the people asking for advice about marriage counselling, why the hell would i want a divorce. If thats what i wanted , i'd do it and get it over with. I want my marriage to be like it used to be, so i'm gonna go with my husband to see a marriage counsellor, im not giving up that easy. Divorce is an option yes, but only to those that have tried absolutely everything you can think of and still not getting anything. Remember that part of the vows, "Till death do us part" , "In sickness and in health" . Come on people.

Answer 7

Most of the answers advocating divorce are to people whose spouses are either cheating or abusive. If there is ANY physical abuse going on, my answer will always be to leave the situation. For cheating or other difficulties, counseling should be given a try.

I think people come to Answers to get a fresh perspective and validate what they already feel. Just my opinion.

Answer 8

Because, unfortunately, it is the easiest way out. Society has made divorce as easy as changing your socks. When the going gets tough, people simply walk away, not realizing that if they make the effort to save the marriage, it may end up being the most wonderful thing in the world. It all comes down to laziness and convenience.

Answer 9

i think the answer would depend on how the question was asked.
divorce is not always the answer, unless its in the case of abuse and then yes i think it would have to be. in the case of cheating, i don't think a guy/girl will change, but that has to be the person who is asking the questions decision.
people's answers can only give insight into what they have gone through or their opinions they can't make the decisions for people.
some people will give helpful advice and yes some only answer for the points,( which is basically a useless waste of time.)

Answer 10

Most answers are for the points which I don't see why-are we going to win a freaking car or something? anyway I'm new to all of this stuff......divorce is easier; people don't want to make it work anymore-it's all too much trouble, huh? well it's more worth it to stick it out and have a life with someone and especially if you have a family.....think about it: we're all going to get old-I mean really really old--look at it this way--you can be 80 yrs old with the woman that you've loved for so long-or you can be old and a bachelor and plain out - ALONE!