well i broke up with this girl that i had dated for two years.i was messing with this other girl while i was messing with my ex.well come to find out they talk one night about me for hours.my ex i hurt really bad.i mean bad.she hates me and never wants to see me and i make her sick.my ex did nothing ever to me to deserve this.she was always by my side no matter what i did.she gave me chances before.i lied to her all the time and i hurt her really bad.i know what i did was wrong and i deserve everything coming to me.i have to live with this guilt the rest of my life.i just wish i could make things better with her.i hurt other people from my huge mistake.i felt that this girl is the one for me.i dont know what to do.she doesnt want to talk to me ever again.i dont have anybody to talk to.if somebody could help me with this huge problem.thanks.oh by the way my ex is moving away because of me.it just makes things worse for me.
2007-01-25 06:17:33 · 10 answers · asked by kippy w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
we weren't together when i was messing with this other girl,but i still was messing with my ex.i have wrote long love letters about how sorry iam and what she means to me.i know what i did was wrong.its just gonna be so hard for me to let her go.i tried to gain her trust and i was starting to.my ex was thinking about getting back with me because she though i changed.then the other girl called her and told her everything.iam at fault 100%
2007-01-25 06:47:56 · update #1
so, that means you love her!? huh! you wont post this querry if you're not worried about it!...
well, love is the craziest things happened in every people... but well it is also the most painful thing that could ever be experienced by us... which is now experiencing by your gf because of the things you just did!
ok! well then, try to pursue her again persistently but not to the point that your gf will get annoyed to your moves, ok! if you have to court her again, do it! give her something: flower or any gift that you think her heart will melt, a promise that you wont do the same mistake you did before, assure her about your loyalty & love to her (this is if you are sincere not to hurt her again, but if not... just leave her & give her chance to meet another man she deserve). Show something that you regret doing bad things to her. Just be there with her & if you notice that she's still showing cold treatment to you...... then give her enough time to think, a time not to disturb her for quite sometimes... you will know when is the right time to ask again! If you think she's ready to give her answer to you or talk to you... just accept what she wants to happen either good or bad! whatever it is you deserve whatever things she'll decide.
and for whatever things after that... just learn to your mistake, never do it again!
Goodluck! hope this could help!
2007-01-25 06:49:53 · answer #1 · answered by agier 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
k some only some of its true. Most of it is you repeating the same statement but in different text. Another thing is that you are the perfect example of the one pychological example of the term those who point the finger are the ones usually with two pointed back at them. You obviously have this issue. So please dont assume all other women are just like you. I could only agree with number ten. I am greatful I am number ten. You want to know why? That is what makes a person a good person. A forgiving nature. That is also what makes a women so beautiful. Forgivness is something we should do more often, without out it the world would be even worse. I personally think we need more of it. Almost all religious leaders are teachers of forgivness. You need to stop being so negitive and really look into yourself and know when to put up your walls and demand respect. Stop putting this on women to. I am a very strong women who loves my boyfriend dearly, he may not do everything I want but I make sure I do everything that I want. I choose to let him in my life. I simply tell him if he does not like it he can leave. He usually keeps his end of the corners tied knowing that he needs me much more then I need him. So really this is not about women once again. Its about what you put up with your own issues. Stop blamming and dont single out the females! Your giving us a bad name.
2016-05-23 22:54:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you can fix things. Best thing that you can do is write her a letter telling her how you feel and how sorry you are. Then leave her alone, if she is moving away because of you there is nothing left to fix, you hurt her more than you will ever know. If you continue to persue her she could get a restraining order against you for stalking. If you cared so much for her you would have thought twice about what you did and then decided that it was not worth the risk. Move on and learn from your mistakes.
2007-01-25 06:36:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are no words to describe how hurt your ex is right now. Give her an opportunity to breath and heal her wounds. Talk to her and be honest of how you feel about her. You guys can start over and be friends, but you have to do whatever you can to get her trust back. You threw that out of the window when you cheated on her. If she chooses to not have you in her life, you need to respect her wishes and move on with yours. Let this experience be a learning lesson for you. Learn from your mistakes and the next time that you are with someone, DO NOT cheat on her!! It is up to her to decide if she wants to forgive you or not. I hope this helps you. Good luck.
2007-01-25 06:39:02 · answer #4 · answered by Lady S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u have to realize that after so long of being mis-treated someone breaks. u cant lie and lie and lie to her because sooner or later she gets fed up. she gave u chances and u did nothing but let her down. shes moving away and i cant really think of anything for u to do. i would tell u to just say ur sorry but u cheated on the poor girl and i dont think she cares that ur sorry. a guy cheated on me at a dance. i was late to the dance and as soon as i walked in he was kissing some other girl. he apologized like 87 times but i never forgave him. sometimes sorry doesnt cut it. it was the valentines dance and what a great valentines! u cant keep treating people like crap or sooner or later they just decide that they deserve better. get ur act together and move on. i realize thats hard but u didnt show that u loved her therefore she most likely didnt believe u when u told her that. ur going to have to move on cause shes moving away and she doesnt want to be with u anymore. im sorry and good luck.
2007-01-25 08:20:02 · answer #5 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jeez! Why are men such horn dogs? What were you thinking?
She trusted you but it looks like you can't be trusted now. Maybe you should remember the consequences and learn from it.
Sorry, I don't have any advice for it because I've never been in your situation before. :P Have fun.
I think because she probably won't listen to you, you should write her a letter and leave it in her locker or at her house. That way, she won't feel as stressed reading it as talking to you! :D She might see how you feel and understand you've learned your lesson and you LOVE HER LOSER!
2007-01-25 06:53:49 · answer #6 · answered by Steve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your issue. Unfortunately, there is very little you can do in this situation. Let her do what she feels is right for her. The only thing you can do now is move on and learn from this experience.
2007-01-25 07:15:54 · answer #7 · answered by Andrew B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds like you messed up big
you need to repaire some things (i'm a girl i would know)
start off slow start by just being friends if she won't except that you need to leave her alot of really sweet messages or letters
tell her you made the BIGGEST mistake of your life
if she still doesn't except that then she is not the one for you
2007-01-25 06:25:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right... you don't deserve her.
All you can do is let her go & hopefully learn from your actions and don't treat other people that way.
2007-01-25 06:23:45 · answer #9 · answered by Dorothy V 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
listen dude, i think you are thinking too much
just try to get calm somehow, divert your mind somehow
soon your mind will feel with other things
2007-01-25 06:22:34 · answer #10 · answered by rami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋