Well I have been married for 9 years. We have split up one time before. In that one time my husband found comfort talking to another female. Well now we just recently split up again and he has already found someone else to talk to. He is always finding these people at work. I am curious what I should do. We have 4 kids together, and I love him. But do I just let go or do I fight?
2007-01-25 05:49:11 · 6 answers · asked by jac6jam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No he has openly told me that he is talking and I am assuming other things cause he has told me that he has most of his morals. I am just wondering if I let him go and he is doing these things if it is worth even thinking there could be a us later? All I see is that is my husband and I love him!
2007-01-25 06:14:59 · update #1
in the same breath he is telling me that he loves me with all his heart.
2007-01-25 06:16:43 · update #2
Sometimes men find comfort with womens they worked with because work is where they spend most of their time rather than at home. Usually, it's better to just let go and see what happens. Men doesn't want to get trap but find it hard to accept if they are being ignored. Loving somebody means setting him free, in this way you'll know if he really loves you too. If not you are bless with 4 beautiful children that most women prays for. It's his loss not yours.
2007-01-25 06:04:35 · answer #1 · answered by mardiel 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He may not be cheating but when he goes outside your relationship for emotional support, that too is considered a betrayal - just ask Dr. Phil! I think if you have kids and you love each other it would be worth the effort in working things out, but this time get professional help to make it stick.
2007-01-25 06:00:13 · answer #2 · answered by Shorty 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why is it that every time a man talks to a woman more than once or confides in her the accusation of cheating always comes up. Maybe he just wants a woman's perspective on whatever is going on at the time. I have several female friends and the thought of hanky panky with them just makes me laugh.
2007-01-25 06:07:51 · answer #3 · answered by open_phunguy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you find someone else to "befriend" and see how it makes him feel--not cheat or anything, but just to let him know --he is not really solving your problems by running to someone else---he's using your "split" time as an excuse to indulge in all the girls at work that prob know more about your relationship than you
2007-01-25 06:03:35 · answer #4 · answered by Virgo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
These "innocent" work talks lead to emotional affairs which lead to physical affairs. If her cannot stop talking to coworkers in this manner, he cannot be trusted and you will be wasting your time.
Work is work, not a social event to seek therapy from coworkers. I know first-hand because I tend to talk about my personal life a little too much, and am learning from that.
2007-01-25 06:11:29 · answer #5 · answered by Back in the game... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go if he does not want to be with you or want this marriage... You cannot make someone love you or want to be with you....
2007-01-25 06:14:32 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋