am I wrong?

Question

This is complicated.

I live in a shared house and over the two years and four months I have known my landlord, I know him quite well. I have been through some horiffic times of having no electricity for six weeks and seven weeks of building and drilling work on the house that he has done much renovation.

There are currently nine people living in the house and one of them I have known for a year. He is 32, a year younger than me and very nice most of the time, but he is judgemental and takes over the conversation a lot and is pretty self-possessed. I mostly try and ignore or agree with him on many things but have recently kept my distance when he seems to be gossiping about me and giving me the impression that he is against me for some unknown reason and possibly because I also have an opinion too.

A recent situation has erupted and a girl had locked herself out of her room and she came to me in tears. It was late and the landlord refused to come out at 6pm as he was in the pub.

to continue:

He told her to try and get herself into the room that was locked but the door is a hard fire door that needs a crow-bar to open. The landlord then offered to send the keys in a taxi and for the girl to pay the fayre.

Each and everytime anyone in this house has locked themselves out at some point and my landlord has always refused to do anything about it and has made the tennants responsible.

He is also a negligent person and refuses to fix things and leaves things for weeks on end gives excuses all of the time and is a well known part of his personality the majority of us know what he is like and most of us do have our moans about him and the fact that he is the way he is.

The problem however, is that the guy who likes himself a lot. is always defending the landlord and always making me feel in the wrong and at 33, I have enough life experience to know when I am right and wrong in my thoughts. I can have an opinion can't I?.

the guy came to the girl's rescue and took her to the pub to get the keys from landlord to make me look bad for telling her what the landlord is like and because he is negligent. I fear he might say something to the landlord about what I had said which wasn't wrong or unfair, but truthful and honest and he shouldn't stick his nose in all of the time. What can I do when I have no money to move out just yet and having to put up with this guy who seems like a spy for the landlord?

Answer 1

Why don't you just move out & ind someplace better to live? Your not wrong to have & voice your own opinions.

Answer 2

I believe the answer is obvious and I'm certain you've already figured that out, although, for whatever reason, you may feel you need an extra push, to get the ball rolling. So, in your best interest/protection >>> Start looking for another apartment, pronto! The landlord's irresponsibility is just one example of an unstable individual. Trouble and/or destruction follows them, wherever they go. I don't think you'd like to find yourself needlessly hurt or burned by anyone, including a landlord. And who cares what "Mr. In Love With Himself," thinks! I would continue doing what you're doing and avoid/communicate with him none - to little as possible. Isn't it always best to keep our personal life and issues that arise, private from strangers! He certainly isn't a relative or true friend of many years, whom you know you can trust without a doubt. As to your neighbor forgetting her key, how 'bout making spares. PPL hide spares with someone they can trust, or compartments they carry with them, or at another location easily accessible. I've met many older adults who've never thought of doing so, until they were locked out. As they say: Two heads are better than one! We all need some advice and support every now and then, no matter how old we are or aren't! Do yourself a big favor and do the right thing a.s.a. you possibly can.
GOOD LUCK !
(age 48 /wife & Mom/.......Hope I've helped)

Answer 3

In situations like the most recent...us be the bigger person and take them in...until the "landlord" come back... and the whole renovation thing he should have giving you "rent-free-months" because its not rite to have a tenant that is paying and there is NO heat or anythin..but yeah jus be the BIGGER person

Answer 4

this is a trully hard answer to give...the guy who talks about everyone, who cares let it go, the land lord isnt really responible for someone locking themselfs out of their room. unless it is in writing that he is to do that at all times. now if he was a nice landlord he'd do it anyway just to be nice. you can just tell the guy (if he says something abut your opionions) that everyone is intitled to an opinion and this is yours. and if he continues to to make a big deal out of it just say...okay thanks for your opinion and go on your way. simple i hope this helps

Answer 5

im not sure what the question is? do you need help with the landlord, the girl or the 32 year old man?

Answer 6

Not complicated at all really...
Go to the corner market and pick up a local newspaper, turn to the classified ads.. and find yourself a new place to live.
Who needs all this drama anyway?

Answer 7

If you want to add more information just hit the "add details" option, probably you ran out of space to write., there is no much information on exactly where do you need help.

Answer 8

He's a landlord NOT a babysitter. Wake up and Grow up!

Answer 9

So what's the question? What situation are you referring to be wrong about?

Answer 10

What's the question?