I'm sort of disgusted with myself today because of the fact that I "forget" too easily about the crappy things said and done to me by certain people who are supposed to care about my best interests. I'm not a pushover so what the hell?!
2007-01-25 05:33:08 · 37 answers · asked by yumyum 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am way too forgiving. I love people, and I love having relationships with people. I simply abhore cold shoulders and icy confrontations.
2007-01-25 10:19:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
But you are a pushover. You sub consciously chose to block it out, but you don't forget. You need to be more assertive and tell people to back off you don't like it. It really doesn't have anything to do with holding a grudge or forgiveness. I used to be one who held a grudge for a long time. I am in my 40's now and forgiving people for something they did to me is easier provided they can apologize and recognize what they did was wrong. To let someone be mean for no reason over and over again is being a push over. You have the power to stop it. No one deserves to be treated badly.
2007-01-25 05:55:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't get into many confrontations. If I do, it's either with my family or boyfriend. I realized that I can tell my family how I feel more easily than telling my boyfriend. Yeah, I tell my boyfriend things that he does that makes me mad. But he can already sense that. Mostly, it tends to be "little things" I get upset about. Which leads me to my New Year's resolution... LET GO OF THE LITTLE THINGS ... and don't hold grudges. Or I will probably end up losing important people in my life.
And oh yeah..... I forgive. When they say sorry just to say sorry... no, I won't accept it so easily. When I KNOW they truly are sincere and they want to fix things, yes, I will forgive them.
2007-01-25 05:40:25 · answer #3 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can forgive somebody ... but for some reason my mind won't ever let me forget ... sometimes I wish it would ... you just have to decide how bad they hurt you and if you know they're capable of doing it again ... it's all about trusting the person .. so maybe your not a pushover - but you do trust people too much with your heart if they keep hurting you again and again ... remember though not everyone is looking out for YOUR best interest ... most people are looking out for THEIR best interest ... even if that means hurting you in the process ... !
2007-01-25 05:40:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I forgive pretty easily. I generally forget about the specific stuff someone has done to hurt me, except for a few really bad things, but retain a general feeling of wariness around that person. So I think it works out. I tend to forget, like you, I think, because I don't like to focus on the bad stuff. It makes me sad and angry and defensive, and I don't want to be that way on a daily basis, or approach new people with that point of view.
2007-01-25 05:43:23 · answer #5 · answered by starlet_8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I normally forgive but I never forget! It really depends on what is done...i am a loving person and it is not good to hold so much hate towards someone so i believe in forgiving but very hard to forgive!
2007-01-25 05:52:05 · answer #6 · answered by Mia-Mia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sometimes tend to hold a grudge for awhile, but after awhile I am able to move on and "forgive" but not forget what the person has done to make me upset. I guess it protects me from getting hurt again.
2007-01-25 05:39:33 · answer #7 · answered by clion71 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always hold a grudge until something bad happens to them, which always does. Not that I personally do anything to them, mind you, but something always comes along to make matters worse for them then they are for me. A couple of recent examples, someone stole a lot of possessions from me and moved to New Orleans. A few days later Hurricane Katrina hit. Last year a person living in Thailand was screwing me out of a lot of money he owed me and wasn't going to pay me back. The next week a military coup ended up costing him his business, and now he's out wandering the streets. Stuff like that happens when people mess with my life. It doesn't make my life any better, but at least they pay for it in some way. Too bad others have to pay for it with them, but that's not my fault.
2007-01-25 05:58:41 · answer #8 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not that you forget too easily, it's might be that it really didn't bother you and it's not a big deal to you. To answer your question I'm one who holds a grudge. My friend blew me off without telling me and his excuse was that he didn't feel like really getting together. No reason was really given other than that, so now next time when he asks to hang out I'll be the one blowing him off to give him a taste of his own medicine.
2007-01-25 05:39:57 · answer #9 · answered by hearts99992000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup I'm disgusted at myself for the same thing right now. I've been letting my father in law stay at my house and last night he was being a jerk and I kicked him out and now I feel bad for him and want to let him move back in already! Forgive and forget? I wish it wasn't so easy sometimes.
2007-01-25 05:40:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hold a grudge...I hate that about mysef. It's hard to forget incidences where people have hurt me.You're lucky to be so forgiving. Forgiving people have lots of peace. Begruudging people have high blood pressure!!
2007-01-25 05:39:49 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋