Do you let the pain remain forever in your heart for the reason that for every throb it brings is one moment spent with the happy memories of the past...?
2007-01-25 05:32:08 · 11 answers · asked by ? 3 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Do you let the pain remain forever in your heart for the reason that for every throb it brings is one more moment spent with the happy memories of the past...?
2007-01-25 05:34:20 · update #1
I will always look forward, for that is what I feel my loved ones would want. With that said, I still take time to "look back", for that is how I warm my heart, by looking back on the wonderful memories of them. I will honor them by going forward, and honor their memory for never forgetting them and always remembering them with a smile on my face.
2007-01-25 05:38:16 · answer #1 · answered by MommaSchmitt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our past, even (perhaps especially) our pain makes us who we are. If a loss is painful to you, it means the person or thing you lost was important to you. Don't dishonor the love that you had by pretending it never existed (even if it ended badly). As Shakespeare said "It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all."
Of course, right after you've been stabbed through the heart by death or a breakup, those worlds aren't very comforting. Just be good to yourself and remember it won't hurt this much always. But the way to get to the other side of the intense pain isn't denial. You have to acknowledge that you are hurting, or the pain will just fester and work its way into other parts of your life like the poison of an infection destroying your body.
Give thanks for the good parts of the loved one and your relationship with them. Honor the positive effect they've had on you and how they've impacted who you are AS YOU MOVE FORWARD. Because you do need to move forward.
If the loss was a death, move forward knowing the cherished parts of your loved one move with you in your heart and mind (knowing that memories that are painful now, will turn bittersweet, and eventually sweet). If the loss was a relationship, move forward knowing the pain will make you wiser and - hopefully- ready for a better relationship in the future.
2007-01-25 14:00:19 · answer #2 · answered by bumsteadowl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you look ahead. There are new people out there, waiting to meet you and develop beautiful relationships with you.
You limit yourself when you long after the lost love - you tell yourself you cannot do better than that one, that there's no hope for you. But that is a lie. If you just make that decision to strike out into new ground, you will see how wonderful life really is.
Stop pining away. It's over. God has someone so sweet and perfect out there waiting to come into your life but you have to make room for that someone to enter. If you never let go of what's already gone, you won't have space to start anything new.
Believe me, it works!
2007-01-25 13:55:39 · answer #3 · answered by SANCHA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, It's ok 2 look back 4 awhile but look forward afterwards.
Try and keep happy dude! Reply!
2007-01-25 13:44:29 · answer #4 · answered by Issac Slade 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always look back - dealing with the past and acknowledging the good that was and what I've learned from that person enables me to look forward and better myself and be a better person towards others.
2007-01-26 08:37:34 · answer #5 · answered by jmk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The grieving process is necessary for us to move on with our lives.
*If you don't grieve, you'll hang onto how the relationship was when the beloved was here.
*The relationship must change to one where the beloved has moved on.
*You must also eventually adapt to the newer version of the relationship.
How does this happen?
*Prayer *Meditation *Counseling
You must ultimately ask yourself: "What would you tell your best friend to do, if they were in the same situation?"
You deserve at least that much consideration for yourself.
Good luck, I hope this helps.
2007-01-25 18:35:56 · answer #6 · answered by chuck U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's imortant to do both.. moving forward is definetly important, but you need to remember the person and the happy times as well, especially if youre talking about death.
2007-01-25 13:42:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life must go on. The past slips into memory. Together they make you complete.
2007-01-25 13:38:39 · answer #8 · answered by Sophist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me ask you this question: Can you always look forward and NEVER look back?... if you can then i think it might be better.... but i think that it is probably impossible to never look back... perhaps its best to constantly think back and hopefully eventually it will get better... if you don't look back every now and then, eventually you will and it will be that much harder.... i could be wrong, just my opinion... i hope it helps
2007-01-25 15:25:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't look back until you can do so without coming to pieces. Otherwise you will just be more miserable than you already are. Unless you're talking about death, and then I have no advice.
2007-01-25 13:40:43 · answer #10 · answered by sarcastro1976 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋