My ex husband cheated on me twice.I stupidly took him back after the first time,but still couldn't trust him after a year and then i found out he had cheated again,so i kicked him out and we're now getting divorced,we have a child together who he spends weekends with,and even after everything we are still quite good friends,mainly for our childs sake.
He is with someone else but he keeps saying he loves me and sometimes tries it on with me,ie he gave me a hug the other day because i was upset and it turned into a kiss,which didn't last long as i told him to stop,he tried to carry on but i wouldn't let him,but he has also said that if we ever got back together he would 'need counselling' to 'make sure it never happened again' because he says at the moment he's not to be trusted!!! EH??? what's that all about??? Is he just messing with my head??
2007-01-25 05:31:49 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm not even considering taking him back,i just don't understand him!!
2007-01-25 07:08:02 · update #1
Sounds like he is playing you for a fool. Try & always remember why he is your EX!
2007-01-25 05:40:05 · answer #1 · answered by wordykat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is doing to his new girlfriend what he did to you, he is the kind of leopard that doesn't change it's spots. It sounds to me like you are already considering taking him back. Stop and think for a second about this other woman, is it fair to put her through the pain and hurt you went through? (I am assuming he didn't leave you for this woman). I would tell him to end his relationship with this other woman before he hurts her too. Tell him to get the counselling first, get him to show you how he has changed before you take him back, he has to work at gaining your trust first, if you take him back now what reason does he have to change? he will already have you. If he can't agree to this then you know he is not serious about you. Ultimately how is the situation going to affect your child? If you are in danger of being hurt again so is your little one, on the basis of that, make your decision.
2007-01-25 05:56:53 · answer #2 · answered by Smoochy Poochy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure your divorce is legal and final and you have everything, including child support and alimony all sorted out.
Then move on with your life and tell him to get his hands off you, since the two of you are over, caput, done with, ancient history. Other then this child you have nothing in common. Find a man who is going to treat you well, plenty of them out there for you.
2007-01-25 05:43:17 · answer #3 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmmmmmmmm! another one who thought the grass was greener the other side of the fence.
Amazing how they think you will still keep taking them back isn't it.
Stay strong girl you did the right thing chucking him out,they don't change.
I re-married my first husband and ended up divorcing him again.Trouble is it cost me another 7 years of my life, so don't make the same mistake.
2007-01-25 21:18:02 · answer #4 · answered by animalwatch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to have his cake and eat it; he ia after sex. keep him at arms length; have your child ready and waiting when he comes to collect them and do not be on your own with him. If you have not started divorce proceedings then hurry up and do so . Oh and do not frogive him when he gets the divorce petition and comes crawling and crying. Get a grip and get on with your life unless you plan to be his doormat forever.
2007-01-25 06:49:36 · answer #5 · answered by D B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your guy how he feels concerning to the placement and his ex. If he needs no longer something to do along with her anymore, you adult males can formulate a plan with the intention to completely purge her out of your lives. yet for now, shop that b*tch away out of your guy, woman.
2016-09-27 23:38:08 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are safe to keep distance between the two of you. Yes, he is playing with you and sounds like he is trying to be better at being faithful.
2007-01-25 05:39:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell his new partner what he did...he not only cheated on you.....he's trying to cheat on her too...he's not to be trusted...he's the prime example to the saying (once a cheat always a cheat) it seems to me that he just enjoys ruining other peoples lives....i would tell her to tell him to back off...my ex did it with me and i told his partner to keep him on a short leash....he was not happy about what i did, but it did stop him from trying it on....
2007-01-25 07:28:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest,a man can hardly be with a woman constantly.As far as I can tell your ex still loves you ,but he easily gives in his natural manly traits.
2007-01-25 05:51:35 · answer #9 · answered by edd 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't trust him because now he is cheating on the other girl that he is with he is just a big cheat.
2007-01-25 05:44:03 · answer #10 · answered by hanusya101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋