my friend had an abortion a few months ago. her and her boyfriend are mutual friends with both my husband and i. well, her boyfriend told my husband, but not me about it. my husband ended up telling me and i think another friend about it. it got back to her that everyone was finding out. now she's asking me if my husband told our other friend and i. i don't want to get in the middle of anything and i don't want anyone mad at each other. i don't want tell on my husband and i don't want anyone getting mad at me about this whole thing. how can i talk to her about this touchy subject? any advice is appreciated!
2007-01-25 05:21:54 · 7 answers · asked by portuguese_tease 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Personally I would take my friend aside and express to her that I do not wish to be in the middle of this. (doing this will side step the problem of telling on your husband) Explain to her that this matter is her business and if she wishes to talk about it that you are there to support her and give an open ear when needed.
2007-01-25 05:30:30 · answer #1 · answered by cookie4me_04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband should have kept his mouth shut... her boyfriend came to him with an emotional issue and he betrayed his trust.
Your husband needs to go to her himself and apologize!
That was a crappy thing to do!
I would tell you friend to confront you husband about it, you have no control over him and what he talks about. Just tell her that you love her and don't want to be put in the middle of the situation and that she should take any issues that she has with you husband to him.
2007-01-25 05:30:47 · answer #2 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let her know that her boyfriend told your husband, and your husband told you, but that's all you know about it. I'd tell her I have no idea who told whom what, but that's as far as it goes with you. Personally, I would be a little offended if she was a good friend of mine, and she felt like she couldn't tell me herself. I would also think that she shouldn't have had one if she is so ashamed of it that others knowing is upsetting her.
2007-01-25 05:33:23 · answer #3 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to go and ASK your husband if he told then HE will have to deal with HER
2007-01-25 05:36:15 · answer #4 · answered by nickle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she was scared you would be upset about the abortion or something. If she really just didn't want the child... and maybe she was afraid or too upset to come to you about it. Well you said that he found out through the boyfriend of your friend right? Well maybe they all kinda wanted it secret..Just try talking to your friend about it. Talk to her about why she didn't tell you. She'll eventually come around.
2007-01-25 05:28:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband screwed up let him vlean up this mess.
2007-01-25 05:28:01 · answer #6 · answered by clubchaos1965 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband f u c k e d up, make him go deal with it....
2007-01-25 05:26:38 · answer #7 · answered by Tacyella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋