This is my first relationship with a kid involved. He's daughter's 10 and comes over on weekends. We have hung out and get along well. He says that we are just friends in front of her but she's smart and it's only a matter of time til she figures it out. Plus I don't want to lie to her if she asks me. Advice?
2007-01-25 05:17:10 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We have officially been dating for a month but I have been around for total of 3 months.
2007-01-25 05:31:02 · update #1
We are in a commited relationship as of new years.
2007-01-25 05:53:16 · update #2
After 6 months there is a likelihood of it turning into being a long-term thing and at that time, he should let her know that you may be an intergal part of her life going forward. If she asks you at this point, best just to tell her you are Dad's good friend and refer her back to Dad for additional questions.
2007-01-25 05:48:16 · answer #1 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your boyfriend should make a big deal out of it actually. In essence, right now, you are friends, you aren't in a committed relationship beyond dating, and to make a big deal of it with his 10 year old would be the wrong approach. Unless she directly ASKS if you are boyfriend/girlfriend, then I would spend less time worrying about it. If she does, then you just say, we have gone out on some dates and we are really good friends, so if you have to give it a name, then sure, call it boyfriend/girlfriend. You two are too early on in your relationship for you and the girl to get too attached, what if it doesn't work out, and you leave....that will be hard on the little girl.
2007-01-25 05:39:55 · answer #2 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My b/f has a 9 yr old daughter and we have been together just over a month. He has told her that he is dating me and that he is very happy and that I am very excited to meet her and she has asked when she gets to meet me but I also have a child so scheduling just hasn't worked out yet. It depends on the situation. If she asks just tell her the truth. There is no need to lie to her.
2007-01-25 05:40:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she asks you dont lie to her. She is 10 more then likely she's figured it out kids arent stupid. I say if you two have been together 2-3 months its time to admit to her because I bet she's already telling ppl your his gf
2007-01-25 05:24:40 · answer #4 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yesterday. We have to start giving the kids some credit. They know more than we give them credit for knowing, so it's better to just let her know from the start so that you and her can start bonding. Because if you fall for this guy and you have constant issues with the daughter there is going to be unhappiness in paradise....better to know early than late.
2007-01-25 06:22:11 · answer #5 · answered by true00essence 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it starts to turn serious, (when you are dating exclusively) that is the time to tell daughter that Dad will be seeing a lot more of new GF and she will be around a lot.
2007-01-25 05:50:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋