Scared to death of giving birth?

Question

I am 5 mos pregnant with my first although, I have wanted to have a child of my own for a while now I was extatic when I found out I was finally pregnant. But, now that I am, I am kinda scared that I wont be able to cope with it. I am one of those people who are scared of any kind of pain. I was thinking epidural but, then that even scares me. I am really excited but I am also very scared. Can someone please give me some reasurance. So in the next 4 mos. I can go in there and kick but and not be so scared. Thanks.

Answer 1

Most women seem to go through that it is only natural. When you are ready to give birth you won't have fear. My wife did it naturally with no problems.

Enjoy your pregnancy!

Good Luck.

Answer 2

Oh i hear ya!! i was so scared with my first and beleive me the contractions hurt HOWEVER i got the epidural because i was in pain so badly and after that when we started the actual delivery I FELT NOTHING!! I didnt feel a damn thing i didnt feel my son even come out, i kid you not the epidural was great!!! and im on my second pregnancy now at 7mos and i told my drs already "EPIDURAL" i have no tolerance for pain either and i get queezy just with all the blood work i need to get done, so beleive me its not that bad or else i would have never had another one. ALSO remember the pain is temporary and if you get drugs than its almost non existent! and my son came out and still is healthy and beautiful so i am happy. i know theres people out there against the drugs and believe in strictly NATURAL births but ya know what thats why they offer these, why be a hero during such a hard time how about we jsut get through it the best way that is best for us! so dont listen or be scared by other people and every experience is different. if you do go through it completely natural GOD BLESS YOU and im jealous!!! CONGRATS AND DONT LOSE SLEEP OVER IT it happens so fast that its far from being the worst thing youll never forget!

Answer 3

I was always told that I wouldn't be able to have children naturally. And...... along he came without the interception of doctors or syringes. I was in denial of my pregnancy for 5/6 months and I, too like all mums-to-be, worried about whether I would be a good mum, will I be able to cope with sleepless nights, omg what if I can't do the birthing scene. Truthfully, pain management aside, your body DOES take over and tells you what you need to do. If you need the pain relief then don't feel you have failed, I swore I'd never have an epidural, but I did, although be aware that they don't always work (mine never). But 36 hours into the labour my beautiful boy arrived in the world and I can guarantee that it will be worth every bit of pain you endure. All part of the bonding process. You have 24 hour professional care and you WILL do it. Any normal "mum to be" is naturally anxious, but have faith in your ability. YOU WILL BE GREAT!! A top tip I was told whilst in the labour room, try not to scream or shout through your mouth as it detracts from the energy you need for pushing and controlling your pain. Do the breathing exercises, they do help, ask your Midwife about a TENS machine, but make sure you hook up as soon as your contractions start - they make a real difference. Good luck, and happy parenting xxx

Answer 4

We're all scared the first time around - it's not a "fun" thing to do. But by about 35 weeks maybe, you'll be BEGGING to go into labor... Being pregnant starts to get "old" around then and you'll be wanting to see you're baby. You'll be okay, we all survive. I'm a weinie, I was afraid of the epidural too, so I did it drug and pain med free. And it really is true that once they hand you your baby, the pain erases from your mind. Just relax - you'll be okay. I think that's why labor is so long and starts out gentle - to ease you into delivery. Try stretching daily - it will make delivery easier. It's like getting your ears pierced for the first time (not pain-wise), but you don't know what the pain will be like, which is why you're the most scared. I'm due with my second on July 2nd, and now that I've been through it once, I am trying to prepare myself for delivery. You'll be okay. Epidurals are nice - I was there while my best friend had her baby (with an epidural), and we spend the labor hours watching TV, and the pushing time she was chit-chatting inbetween pushes... Looked nice, I'm considering it this time.

Answer 5

First of all and Epicural is not to bad because they numb the skin when they put it in. Despite what people say sometimes something is needed for the pain, I tried to do without, but wimped out about the third contraction. Child birth is painful, I am not going lie to you, but when It is over, and you hold that little life in your hands, you know it was all worth it. Explore your options for pain killers if need be, and also look in to lamause classes those will help you cope with the pain during child birth.
I wish there was more I could say or do, but this is one experiance that you will not know until you get there. All I can say is don't worry, it will be over and it will all pass.

Also it is natural that you would worry about the birthing process, Most people do. My sister said she did not fear it, but should have and my best friend feared it and it was not as bad as she thought it would be. So everyone is different in how they feel and think on the matter.

Answer 6

I enjoyed every moment of being pregnant. I wish I could be pregnant forever. It is so wonderful and beautiful. The experience is different for everyone, but everyone I know says that it was worth it...and I absolutely agree. There is nothing in the world like feeling your child move inside your belly and watching your belly grow. As for labor and delivery, that wasn't bad either. I took it with a grain of salt, I had to do it, why stress and panic about it? I thought of it as I did everything else I had to do...I had to pee everyday, I had to eat, go to work, sleep, and give birth. It was not bad at all. I would do it again in a heartbeat.

I know most people don't believe that you can be as easy going about labor and delivery as I was...but I honestly was, and I'm so glad. It really made things A LOT easier. The more you stress, panic and worry, the worse it's going to be. Try to relax, and picture yourself going through it. Do you want to be freaking out while you’re bringing your beautiful baby into the world? Probably not.

Try to stay as calm about it as you can, and when you begin to have contraction pain that is too uncomfortable to you ask the doctor for an epidural. It will help take a way the pain, and it will also help you relax and move your labor along faster. If you want to try to go natural...go for it. I waited as long as I could for the epidural because I wanted to go without, but it just didn't happen...and that's OK. (Getting the epidural didn’t hurt at all.)

Remember that every woman, pregnancy, labor, and delivery is different. Talk to your doctor and ask all of the questions you have...you'll feel better and more prepared.

I wish you peace, luck, health, and happiness.

Good Luck!!

Answer 7

Women have an amazing capacity for dealing with any situation, and giving birth is no different. We have been doing it for millions of years and it is only relatively recently that we are able to choose the variety of effective painkillers available.
As a mum of 5, I have been scared before the delivery of each baby, although I have made it through each one naturally, the fear is still present, what never ceases to amaze me is how much pain we can tolerate, and how in a bizarre way it is a pleasurable kind of pain. There is no other pain in the world that gives you such a wonderful gift once it has ceased, and believe me, as soon as that baby is out the pain stops.
You do have options, try to write a birth plan before the big day, outlining what you want to try, how in control you want to be, and when enough is enough. Agree with your birth partner a 'panic' word, when you have reached the limit of what you can take, they are able to speak up on your behalf, and request pethedine/epidural/gas and air, whatever you want to try.
You will surprise yourself, and remember, there is no medal for having a baby naturally, so long as the delivery is safe for you and babe, whatever choices you make will have been the right ones.Good Luck!

Answer 8

What you have to remember is that things are most painful when you think they will be painful. If you are certain something will not be that bad then it won't be as bad as ot otherwise might be.

Recently I had a "downstairs" piercing, an ankle operation to remove a piece of bone, a wisdom tooth removed and a few other things that should have been agony but because I went in feeling certain that it would not hurt much I found that it didn't.

If you think about it sometimes a small cut or bruise will bring terrible pain while other times you can hurt yourself quite badly and hardly notice - this is because you are not thinking about how painful the injury is.

The pain can't really be that unbearable or nobody would ever have more than one kid. Look forward to the birth and don't worry and then you will not notice if it hurts as you will be too excited.

Answer 9

I was the same with my first baby, I am such a baby, don't even like the dentist! I found the best way to cope was to not panic, it's gotta come out!!! Epidural was great and the gas and air is better than sex! Pethidine was also really good, made me sleep through loads of the pain. After 14 hours I had a healthy 9pound 4 baby boy and it was all definitely worth it. I got a little bit addicted after that and went through it 4 more times with and without the drugs, finally managed just gas and air on my 5th baby

Answer 10

I was petrified too. In the end, I had to place all my trust in the midwife. I went in with no expectations except to get through this birth and come out healthy with a healthy baby. I just dealt with one contraction at a time. I did have an epidural...it's not as scary as I imagined it would be, and then I relaxed. Once that epidural kicks in, you feel no more pain. My labour was very long, but thankfully, I gave birth to a beautiful little girl and my recovery from the birth was straight forward.

The best of luck with it.

Answer 11

You are completely normal. I think most women are scared with the first one, but it will be OK. I have 2. I am also not a fan of pain and wasn't sure about the epidural after I heard about it, but I had one and I highly recommend it. Just don't feel pressured to have a bunch of people in the room with you. Have only people there that relax you. I chose to keep my mother-in-law and my mother out of the room, because they were making me more nervous. I just had my husband with the lights down low and it was all good.
The epidural sounds scary (I am TERRIFIED of needles, but you don't even see it. They stay behind you until it is in and in seconds you have instant relief. I held off for as long as I could because I was afraid. But it was fine, It's mainly fear of the unknown) but it does make labor so much easier to deal with. I even took a nap for a few hours.
It couldn't have been too bad if I did it again. Believe me, when it's all over and you see the baby, you forget most of the pain involved. You'll do great, I'm sure.....;o)