I hate him and he has also turned my daughter against me. Also, I have met someone else and his kids love me.
2007-01-25 05:15:15 · 11 answers · asked by tiaburkeangry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You probably wont like my answer. What does your daughter want and how old is she?
My son did not want to live with me, instead he wanted to live with his grandmother who allowed drugs, porn and encouraged negative family activity. She promised him he could "gig" at the local bars every night (I would only allow him once a month until he was done with high school-- he is a wonderful musician).
Grandma and dad fought me on the issue and things at home got worse. I sat him down and told him that Dad and Grandma often made promises they did not keep, and that I was concerned this was just a way to get custody of him. But I felt he was old enough to make his own decision. However it came with strings. If he moved in with them, due to the things they allow, he could not move back with me again. PERIOD. He was 15 at the time. He found that life was not rosier, and that I was not the bad person they said I was. I held a high standard and he had no option when he realized how difficult , how they did not follow through and that basically he was their sounding board for how bad mom was and their housekeeper, house sitter, etc.
Today he is 25 years old, and we are best of friends. He calls me once a week to see how mom is. I spend the holidays with him and his grandma is not happy that he does not spend time with her.
If your child is old enough, let her make the choice, but then at that time let her know her choice will not have options of coming back and continuing to use you guys against each other.
Your ex and you need to KEEP YOUR KIDS OUT OF YOUR ISSUES, and let them mature and make their own decisions.
If you are honest, fair, kind and dont draw them into your drama, they will see it and when they are older they will be there for you.
2007-01-25 05:58:45 · answer #1 · answered by whoknowsanymore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-08 03:05:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has turned your own daughter against you than it's probably for the better. She will grow up and probably won't hate you as much. Keep trying to have a relationship with her.
2007-01-25 05:20:49 · answer #3 · answered by stripedbook 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. she is old adequate to communicate her strategies and it's time for oldsters to no longer use the toddlers of their battles. purely take a seat and function a communication and pass away battles between dad and mom away. youngsters are too busy attempting to earnings from the blunders we made and improve up. do no longer use a bitter heart to break your toddlers. the terrific you're able to do is be type and not in any respect say something undesirable concerning the determine. youngsters hear that stuff on college grounds approximately boyfriends and girlfriends. talk type approximately the different determine and don't pass assembly yet another that speaks undesirable approximately yet another companion from the previous the two. i'm a step mom and function very lots comprehend for his ex. We weren't in any respect around one yet another whilst we met and he or she is a stunning woman that i delight in. My husband's ex girlfriends from the previous without youngsters have not have been given everywhere in our lives and that i've got dazzling exes and without youngsters that are fortunately married and that i wouldn't in any respect discuss with them till their companion common and all is powerful. back to your daughter. positioned the previous away and do the appropriate concern and proportion parenting. As a step determine, i'm a pal with a delightful ear and could on no account take factors. Pitting dad and mom against one yet another harms the toddlers on behalf of egocentric dad and mom. We purely hear your component. maybe you and your ex is enjoying solid cop and undesirable cop roles. maybe he's purely exhibiting somewhat self-discipline and you're being too lots a terrific pal to daughter.
2016-11-01 06:39:37 · answer #4 · answered by dewulf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is totally your choice and up to you and no i do not feel that it is terrible BUT just be careful and make sure you get visitation and go to courth before doing so and only give him custody and dont sign away all of your rights, Your daughter would hate you if she feels that you just have given up on her... Please think carefully before doing so is all I am saying.
2007-01-25 05:27:35 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not terrible if it is what you think is best. It is awful he has turned her against you but she may find life is different than she thought once she's there all the time.
2007-01-25 05:21:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The Question is who is it best for you or your daughter. if its for the both of you then by all mean. My sons mother game me coustdy of him when he was 3yrs old.. I have been loving it ever sence.
2007-01-25 05:25:52 · answer #7 · answered by leonard_thompson_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry let her go. One day she will understand the true color of your ex and come back to you.
While then dont waste your life and go for the other guy.
2007-01-25 05:30:21 · answer #8 · answered by Lord Of Lust 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so it is everyone else's fault ?? Maybe you need to look in the mirror. Your daughter will never forgive you.
2007-01-25 05:23:11 · answer #9 · answered by gozedown 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OMG people like you make me sick because wpmen like me want children and cn't have them and then you geton here and say thigs like I am giving my child up and you seem to have no problem with that, it would probably be better to give her to your husband! For her sake
2007-01-25 07:27:24 · answer #10 · answered by Heather M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋